child sent home for behavior

[daycare]

It's friday and it feels like Monday.

so DCB who is 2.5 takes our small grocery cart (metal) and rams it into dog for zero reason what-so-ever. Not saying there would be a good reason for what DCB did, just saying there was zero reason child did it.

DCB knocks over dog, she is hurt. DCB keeps on going as if nothing happened. I have been seeing an increase in his behavior and it hasn't been for the good.

So I called dcd who is off today and had him picked up. Of course dcd is mad. He said really, he's 2. I think you are going over board with this. I told dcd, sorry, this was just too much. I don't tolerate violence of any kind from any age. I also reminded dcd that we have been having aggression issues with this child for the past week and this was just the icing on the cake.

I told dcd that his behavior is more than I am willing to handle and that I need to keep other children safe from him, it's not fair for the other kids.

So now dcm is calling me. I didn't pick up.

I am soon mad right now. Tell me I did the right thing? OR did i go overboard.

BTW dcg is ok. Her toe is split open, but other than that she is fine. I already told her parents what happened.

[childcaremom]

Yes. I would have done the same. :hug:

[Blackcat31]

It's friday and it feels like Monday.

so DCB who is 2.5 takes our small grocery cart (metal) and rams it into dog for zero reason what-so-ever. Not saying there would be a good reason for what DCB did, just saying there was zero reason child did it.

DCB knocks over dog, she is hurt. DCB keeps on going as if nothing happened. I have been seeing an increase in his behavior and it hasn't been for the good.

So I called dcd who is off today and had him picked up. Of course dcd is mad. He said really, he's 2. I think you are going over board with this. I told dcd, sorry, this was just too much. I don't tolerate violence of any kind from any age. I also reminded dcd that we have been having aggression issues with this child for the past week and this was just the icing on the cake.

I told dcd that his behavior is more than I am willing to handle and that I need to keep other children safe from him, it's not fair for the other kids.

So now dcm is calling me. I didn't pick up.

I am soon mad right now. Tell me I did the right thing? OR did i go overboard.

BTW dcg is ok. Her toe is split open, but other than that she is fine. I already told her parents what happened.

I just sent a 3 yr child home yesterday (I've had the child since early infancy) for refusing to do anything. Like move, walk, sit or anything. Literally, other than stand in one spot and cry.

It started out with the child throwing a block across the room. Being warned about not doing it again, doing it again and then refusing to pick up or leave the area.

DCM wasn't happy and asked repeatedly what she is suppose to do about it.

I told her that we've had this discussion so many times before (child stays up late and is addicted to screens of ALL kinds) and she has not done a thing to change the home routine so I am left with no alternative other than to send her child home when the safety and well being of the other kids is compromised.

Daycare in your shoes, I would be very clear with the parents that your big picture is safety. If child is being aggressive in their behavior it does not allow you to do your job. If they are unhappy about having to pick up, then they will need to do some serious parenting.

While I understand the child is "only" 2 yrs old, you have other kids the same age that aren't being sent home on a daily basis for that type of behavior so I would not accept the "it's normal" excuse from either parent.

For every kid that is aggressive and violent, you can tell the parents you have twice as many that aren't so it is NOT normal and age should never be an excuse. If you are big enough to do it, you are big enough to deal with the consequences.