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Outdoor time and a sleep sack.
Sounds like a normally precocious toddler in my opinion.
He needs a set, firm and consistent bed time routine with regular nap times on weekends and week days. Sleep begats sleep.
He needs a ton of outdoor time to wear him out and for the fresh air
Good filling foods for meals and snacks. No sugar or processed foods before nap or bed time.
He needs clear consistent boundaries and consequences for both nap and bed time (routine, routine, routine, routine, routine, routine)
If he is a climber then he needs a sleep sack that makes standing in the crib or PNP impossible.... for his safety.
My state would NOT allow a child under 12 months to sleep anywhere but a crib or PNP. Regardless of the situation.
DCM needs to have the same routine at home so that your nap time is consistent with her routine so that DCB knows what to expect and what is expected of him. Kids don't come knowing how and when to nap...we (mom, dad and caregiver have to teach him what it is you want him to do and how.Comment
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I have tried a sleeper on backwards and in the playpen and then on the sleeping bag in the backwards sleeper. He inchwormed all over the place. He even tried to climb out of the playpen with it on. He just used his hands that were inside the sleeper and tried to inchworm up the side of the playpen. Since he didn't have his hands out to catch himself, I was even more afraid that he'd break his neck falling out of the playpen!
On the floor in the sleeper backwards, he inchworms all over the place and squirms so much trying to get his hands and arms out of the sleeper that I'm afraid he's going to dislocate his shoulders!
I spoon feed him BECAUSE he often refuses to feed himself and instead feeds the dog or throws the food on the floor. Then I try to spoon feed him so that I can get the food into his mouth since he won't put it in his mouth. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But pretty much every day, he acts like he simply can't decide if he wants to eat or not.
My high chair is not a 5 point harness. But I also don't have the money or desire to spend the money on buying a special high chair for him. He's already broken 2 playpens that I have to replace in the 3 months that he's been here. I certainly can't see buying even more new daycare furniture specifically because of this one child! I can't afford to do that.
I have never thought of a button up shirt over the car seat or high chair seat belt! That's a neat idea!
We can't have a child sleep in a high chair here. He has to either sleep in a playpen or on the floor in a sleeping bag or cot. So, even if I tried the shirt over the high chair belt, it wouldn't help for nap time.Comment
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Well, I feel absolutely horrible now. His mother just came to pick him up and I told her that she needs to look for other daycare. I told her about today's situation at nap time, which is pretty much a broken record; I say about the same thing every day. But today I told her that it's just getting to be too much and I will watch him for another week or so while she looks for other daycare.Comment
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That's true. I hadn't thought of the other parents leaving over this one child. I definitely can't afford to lose multiple kids!Comment
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I didn't mean for nap time! Just for meal times. No way would I suggest a child sleeping in a high chair. I thought he was climbing/falling out of his chair during meal times. If I read that incorrectly, my apologies
The sleep sack he is in - are his arms swaddled in the sleep sack? The sleep sacks I have used have arm holes where the child's arms are free.Comment
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I think this kid is going to be the next american ninja warrior by the sounds of it...
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This mother says she does have a schedule at home. She has an elementary school aged child as well. She has said many times that they have a specific bed time and evening routine. For the first time in a long time, she is a parent that, at least says, that she is doing everything that I agree that she should be doing at home at night. And, after the first few days of being here and me telling her that he wouldn't take a nap, she asked what time my nap is and what I do just before nap. She then started copying my schedule for lunch and nap time at home on the weekends! But, like I said earlier, she puts him in his crib in his room with the door shut. So that is different than being in a playpen or sleeping bag in the living room with other children. When I pointed that out to her, she started putting him in the living room to nap and had her older child in the room with him. She says he sleeps just fine there at home. So, the mom is doing everything that she should be doing, and then some!
We have the option of using a playpen or sleeping bag/cot as of age 1. I don't really know the reason, but I assume that since many children do try to climb out of playpens around age 1, certain 1 year olds would be safer on the floor.
I also have a routine that includes outside time. We have lunch, then diapers/potty and then nap. So they have full bellies for nap time. All of the other children are tired and fall asleep quickly after being laid down and sleep very well for nap time. It's just this particular baby that doesn't take a nap.
I tried a rigged version of a sleep sack. But he inchwormed everywhere and still tried to climb out of the playpen!
I have done daycare for many years. This baby is definitely much more active than a typical baby. I really do think he might have ADHD.Comment
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CRIB TENT! Seriously, get a tent. My son at that age would climb out of his crib and over TWO stacked gates. I was petrified about him hurting himself. Crib tent!Comment
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Well it is just my personal opinion that many children who are taken for ADHD testing are just the harder children. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with them. Often, it is parenting, sometimes the child is just a more active or more head strong child. I had one of these children and went through some of the things you are talking about with her. Now, she is a junior in HS taking all college classes and still making all A's with a couple of B's. We figured out what her issue was when she was young, she was smart! She used it at the time for evil instead of good we said. I think she just didn't know how to express herself. If it is really that hard on you, you have to let this one go.
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1 is way too young to say someone has ADHD. Even if he did, there would be nothing you can do besides behavior modification. My own 5 year is diagnosed and was definitely an active crazy toddler (walked at 9 months, out of his crib at 18). I would strongly caution you against saying someone has ADHD unless you're a professional, it's a really over diagnosed condition - it gets scapegoated for everything.
It sounds like you've done a ton for this kid and it's still not working. Terming is definitely the way to go. I wouldn't feel bad, some kids just need a different environment or more one on one time. Good luck!Comment
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Keep for short time and replace quickly or be super strict I had one who would climb out crib and over two stacked baby gates I had to be firm really strict.Comment
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