Screeching Baby Ques.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

What sort of schedule does he follow? If he is crying because he only wants to be held, maybe speak to mom and dad and encourage lots of playtime on the floor (tummy time or maybe a play mat that he can see toys above him). Let them know that you cannot hold him all the time, so if they can be consistent at home, it will help him transition at daycare. Since he is getting so upset, I would suggest a shorter eat/play/sleep schedule. For example, he eats is bottle, you let him play on the floor and interact with him as well, but whether he shows tiredness or fussiness or not, he goes down for nap right at the 45 minute mark from when he last woke up. I assumed when you said he cried for two hours, you meant he was down for nap at that time, so my first suggestion would not to let him be up for two hours. I can only speak from my experience, but ina daycare setting, I have found that a 4 month old lasts about one hour, maybe a bit longer. So if he wakes up at 8, eats bottle, he is back down for nap about 9 or 9:15, sleeps till 10:30-11, wakes, eats bottle, down again at 11:30-12, depending on when he woke, rinse and repeat all day. As he gets older and eats more, he will start being awake for a while longer, but getting ahead of the fussiness can really help and being consistent is also a life saver. Good luck to you!

[Unregistered]

This is not at naptime. It's during playtime. I cannot hold him all day and do not appreciate the abuse assumption. What would you do?

Don't dignify their snotty rude remark. You are doing great!

[BabyMonkeys]

Thank you all! Everything is consistent, I've tried tummy time (he cries), I've gently rocked the pack-n-play during his 2hr. cries, I've also just asked that dcm add cereal to his diet due to the large difference in feedings. I even fed him a 1/2 hr after dropoff today and he actually drank an ounce more than normal. I'm doing everything in the world I possibly can to help all involved. My other kids have been acting out now because of the stress level here. I don't simply put him in a separate room and shut the door for God sakes! Thanks to all who offered some good advice w/out judging me as a borderline abuser. As though I didn't feel badly enough already! Btw, I'm not letting him CIO for naptime, it's 99%of the time during playtime. That's the issue here.

I apologize. I made a harsh remark, that was completely unnecessary. The way I read it was that you were putting him in a room and letting him cry it out for 2 hours. I am extremely opinionated, and had you actually been allowing him to cry alone for 2 hours, I would stand by my comment. However, I obviously did not take the time to ask questions and clarify the actual situation.

[Heidi]

I apologize. I made a harsh remark, that was completely unnecessary. The way I read it was that you were putting him in a room and letting him cry it out for 2 hours. I am extremely opinionated, and had you actually been allowing him to cry alone for 2 hours, I would stand by my comment. However, I obviously did not take the time to ask questions and clarify the actual situation.

I'm proud of you for apologizing! So often, these discussions spiral very quickly. Pat'in you on the back here...

[littletots]

I apologize. I made a harsh remark, that was completely unnecessary. The way I read it was that you were putting him in a room and letting him cry it out for 2 hours. I am extremely opinionated, and had you actually been allowing him to cry alone for 2 hours, I would stand by my comment. However, I obviously did not take the time to ask questions and clarify the actual situation.

:hug: I just want to give you a hug. I've been in similar situations when asked a question and not completely understanding the whole story. We're all here to offer our help, suggestions, advice. I understand where you were concerned.

[Blackcat31]

I apologize. I made a harsh remark, that was completely unnecessary. The way I read it was that you were putting him in a room and letting him cry it out for 2 hours. I am extremely opinionated, and had you actually been allowing him to cry alone for 2 hours, I would stand by my comment. However, I obviously did not take the time to ask questions and clarify the actual situation.

Thank you!

I am a bit opinionated too :: so I understand where you are coming from but one of the most important things I've learned from being part of a forum where there are literally hundreds of ways of doing things and thousands of different personalities, is that perspective is the key....especially when it's considering someone else's perspective.

Again, thank you for clarifying your thoughts/words.
I admire and respect those that can do so maturely.

[WBee]

Thank you!