My child seems to be struggling. Need advice.

[Mdc613]

I had 3 kids start a month ago. They are siblings. They are 3,1 and 10 weeks.

My son is 2. He does great with the 3 yr old and the baby. But he is having issues with the 1 yr old.

He pushes the 1 yr old every chance he gets. He takes toys away from him. He pretends like he is going to share then runs away. He seems to do anything he can to make the 1 yr old upset. The 1 yr old is super sweet but also cries with the change of the wind. So I'm not sure if that is making my son upset at all.

I feel like my child is spending the whole time in time out. I try positive reinforcement. I try taking toys away. It just doesn't seem to phase him. They are only here 2-3 hours a day. If it was any longer I wouldn't be able to take it.

Help me please!!

[Thriftylady]

Are you sure your son isn't acting out because he sees it as "my mommy, my house, my toys"? Is he having to share all his toys? Make sure he has some toys he doesn't have to share, he can pick them if he wants. Give him some choices and ownership, but don't let him run the show or play you either. Give him choices YOU are okay with.

[Unregistered]

Ok so this might sound harsh. Or rude. But do you have training on guidance and conflict resolution? If not, look into it. It will probably solve many problems for you. Many times people think they can just do childcare because they're a parent themselves. You may not know how to handle children who aren't like your own. Or a group of children. What to you do when the 1 year old is reaching towards your son and your son is pretending to share? What do you say? Time outs and taking away toys don't work- as you've seen. You need real processes that work. Look up five finger conflict resolution naeyc. That is a game changer. I also firmly believe that not letting children finish using what they are using before having to give it away (forced sharing) is just setting yourself up for failure. Combine no forced sharing with real conflict resolution techniques and you will be super happy.