PT Refusing to Try

[Unregistered]

Dcg refuses to try getting dressed. I will help but she needs to try. Continue PT or stop for a few weeks? If not continuing, do you let dcg use bathroom when she asks or not?

[jenboo]

It's she capable of getting dressed herself?

[littletots]

How old is she? Can you give more details?

[Unregistered]

Yes she can dress herself. 3.5 years. I think it's a control issue.....

[daycare]

Yes she can dress herself. 3.5 years. I think it's a control issue.....

not a battle I am willing to fight. if she won't get dressed, then don't create the situation.

I would stop the PT process. sounds like a parent issue and the child is carrying it over to you.

[jenboo]

Yes she can dress herself. 3.5 years. I think it's a control issue.....

People may not agree with my way of handling this, but what I have done in the past is brought them back out to the play room with their pants in hand and they can't play until they put their pants on.

I don't say anything else unless they try to play and I just remind them "pants first".

[Blackcat31]

People may not agree with my way of handling this, but what I have done in the past is brought them back out to the play room with their pants in hand and they can't play until they put their pants on.

I don't say anything else unless they try to play and I just remind them "pants first".

I agree.

I would allow her to use the bathroom when she asks but I would not allow her to move onto anything else until she puts her pants back on.

She can sit all day if she chooses to.

I wouldn't engage in this battle before using the toilet though as I don't like to impede the process any more than I have to and I think denying her use of the toilet will only create more issues.

[laundrymom]

Agree with these posters.

I agree.

I would allow her to use the bathroom when she asks but I would not allow her to move onto anything else until she puts her pants back on.

She can sit all day if she chooses to.

I wouldn't engage in this battle before using the toilet though as I don't like to impede the process any more than I have to and I think denying her use of the toilet will only create more issues.

[Unregistered]

not a battle I am willing to fight. if she won't get dressed, then don't create the situation.

I would stop the PT process. sounds like a parent issue and the child is carrying it over to you.

That's what I was thinking. I spoke with dcm at pickup yesterday and dcg goes in undies only at home, no pants. There is the issue!

[Unregistered]

I agree.

I would allow her to use the bathroom when she asks but I would not allow her to move onto anything else until she puts her pants back on.

She can sit all day if she chooses to.

I wouldn't engage in this battle before using the toilet though as I don't like to impede the process any more than I have to and I think denying her use of the toilet will only create more issues.

I'm worried about stopping since she has been really good about going. I don't want this to be a fight though. I won't fight about it, period.

[Unregistered]

People may not agree with my way of handling this, but what I have done in the past is brought them back out to the play room with their pants in hand and they can't play until they put their pants on.

I don't say anything else unless they try to play and I just remind them "pants first".

Good idea! Just in case this happens- what about refusing to put pull up on? Stop PT?

[Blackcat31]

I don't agree with halting the toileting. That wont really solve anything.
Unless there are other issues with accidents etc that you haven't mentioned.

It's not the toileting that is the issue... It's the pants/dressing herself.

I would suggest to mom ways she can help and encourage self-dressing at home. Easy up/down pants, no snaps, buttons or zippers etc..

If she refuses to put the Pull-up on, I would start it for her. Put her feet in and tell her to pull it up. If she refuses, walk away and tell her you are there to help if she needs it but dont give any additional attention to her other than the reassurance thatshe CAN do it and that it doesnt have to be perfect... Just praise her efforts and ignore her stubborn-ness.

Go do something fun with the others and call her to hurry and finish so she can join you all.... No pressure, no unnecessar attention and power struggles... Just walk away and tellher to finish up.

[Febby]

There's a few in my class at my center that did this when they first started.

Here's what we do:
Make sure their legs are through their pull-up/underwear and pants. Then tell them that they can come play when they're dressed. After that, they can sit or stand in the bathroom until they pull them up. Other than ensuring they stay until they're dressed, we don't give them attention until they are dressed.

Of course, we'll help any child who truly needs help.

[stephanie]

People may not agree with my way of handling this, but what I have done in the past is brought them back out to the play room with their pants in hand and they can't play until they put their pants on.

I don't say anything else unless they try to play and I just remind them "pants first".

I do this too. Same with socks, shoes, etc. You can't play with the rest of us until you put them on.

[childcaremom]

I do this too. Same with socks, shoes, etc. You can't play with the rest of us until you put them on.

This is how I am, as well. If I know the child is still learning the skill, then they must try. So I will tell them that I am busy right now but please keep trying and I will help them in a few minutes.