Curious behavior...

[TwinMama]

I've got a 3 year old that keeps trying to lay on my 2 year old and "hug" her. He calls it a "fun game". I just keep telling him...."No buddy, we don't do that. Play something else."

Then I've got a 1 1/2 year old that keeps trying to lift people's shirts up.

What do I do to deter this behavior, and do I let the parent's know? Or will that make it into and issue?

[Ariana]

I have a 6 year old (MY OWN CHILD!!) who is suddenly fascinated with my 2 year olds dirty diapers. Wants to watch me change her and see the poop. Also super fascinated with genetalia and what is called what and who has what etc. I know your mind instantly goes to "what is going on at home" but there might be nothing going on at home just pure kid weirdness and curiosity. Maybe ask some non leading questions like "oh where do you play that game?" or "who do you play that game with when you are not at daycare"? that might give you some info. I personally would not bring this up at all to the parents. They have likely seen the behavior and if a child is at risk at home it may make things worse.

Just keep doing what you are doing by redirecting to another activity and explaining that body areas are private. Might be a good idea to talk about body parts and private areas in a circle time. There are lots of books out there or you could get a felt person with clothes etc.

[TwinMama]

I have a 6 year old (MY OWN CHILD!!) who is suddenly fascinated with my 2 year olds dirty diapers. Wants to watch me change her and see the poop. Also super fascinated with genetalia and what is called what and who has what etc. I know your mind instantly goes to "what is going on at home" but there might be nothing going on at home just pure kid weirdness and curiosity. Maybe ask some non leading questions like "oh where do you play that game?" or "who do you play that game with when you are not at daycare"? that might give you some info. I personally would not bring this up at all to the parents. They have likely seen the behavior and if a child is at risk at home it may make things worse.

Just keep doing what you are doing by redirecting to another activity and explaining that body areas are private. Might be a good idea to talk about body parts and private areas in a circle time. There are lots of books out there or you could get a felt person with clothes etc.

That's a good idea. I just don't want the parents to think there is strange behavior going on here. The younger one is trying to find people's belly buttons. She thinks they're funny and she does that with her siblings, but still not appropriate.

Redirecting seems to be working currently.

[Ariana]

Ah ok I see! I can guarantee that they have seen that behavior before and just never mentioned it because they felt embarrassed I always use the word "private area" as kids may not understand what "inappropriate" means. I explain that a "private area" is anything that is covered with clothes and we never remove other people's clothes unless we are helping them get dressed or undressed or in the bath or in the bathroom (caregivers and parents) because it is private.

Anyway good luck! Belly buttons are the worst because wen they do it at home parents think it is funny and reinforce the behavior.

[Sunchimes]

I have a 14 month old tubie that is suddenly very aware of her gtube., even though we haven't used it in 6 weeks. She pulls her shirt up or fingers it through her clothes. Now, she is pulling up the other kids shirts, as well as mine, looking for their tube. Even though she probably won't understand, I've tried explaining that she has a special place to eat, etc.

[laundrymom]

I'd just say "we don't squash each other and leave it at that.
A "nope, clothes stay where they are"
And all should be fine. Kids are curious. Especially with cool unders and stuff. I have two who have to discuss which panties they're wearing each morning. Lol.
Unless you get a vibe that's "off" I'd just keep redirecting.