Behavior Therapy - How Well Does It Work?

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Hello!

I was wondering if any of you have/had a child that was going to behavior therapy?

We had a difficult time with dcg who is 4 1/2 years old. And now she is starting Behavior therapy and have ADHD (slight). This past year was very tough on me and my assistant because of the behavior issues (very aggressive/screaming/ hitting me/not following directions) but I still had patience and knew that in my heart it was just a child in pain.

So finally she is going to therapy but sadly... I am at my breaking point and so is my assistant. This week it was so difficult to follow the curriculum when she is here.

I do not want to give up because I am hoping we will a change in the next couple months. But I do not know how well the therapy work...

And I need some hope because I am so stressed! My shoulder and back hurt right away when I am tense.

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I have an almost 3 year old dcb who has been with me for 2 years. For the last year, maybe more, his behavior has been over the top. Screaming rages that last from 10 minutes to his personal best last week of one full hour. He is a special needs child, although I've done my job so well that it looks like that label will be removed when he ages out of ECI next month. No idea what the reason is and we've tried everything. He has been in play therapy since last spring. The usual form for this is for the therapist to take the child into another room, away from other kids and from me for the session. The first couple of times, he would go for about 10 minutes then run crying back to me. After talking to co-workers, they decided to stay in the room until he was more comfortable with her. That was months ago, and they still haven't gotten into the next room. We have seen no progress at all. None. His case manager mentioned this week that it sometimes takes years to see results. We have 6 weeks before he ages out of ECI and the play therapy.

I had another 3.5 year old who was a great kid, then had some temper issues. She didn't do play therapy, but was in the challenging behavior program. She was only there for about 4 months and it made a difference for her. The 2 YO has a combination of neuro issues, terrible twos, some major family changes (although he was raging before that), and I think just being a difficult personality. The little girl just had trouble dealing with a family issue and once she worked through that, she went back to her charming self.

So, mixed results. I think it depends on the underlying causes. I understand your stress. I took this child at 11 months, barely sitting up. With guidance from the ECI therapists, I taught him to sit, crawl, walk, run, everything. I have a lot of heart and energy invested in this child and I love his mom. She is as close to the perfect daycare parent as I've ever seen. I hate to be a quitter after I've gone this far with him, and hate to lose the mom. That's the only reason I haven't termed him. But, the stress is horrible for me and for the little kids. I wake up each morning dreading the day, and I like what I do too much to let it stay that way. I tried, I really tried, but I think I've reached my limit when what I really want to do is paddle his bottom. :: I haven't wanted to spank a kid since the 1970s, until now, so that just shows you how hard this has been for the last year.

Because of some outside things, I had to sit the parents down last night and warn them that it wasn't working for us. Amazingly enough, it isn't even about his behavior. No final decisions were made, but she told us tonight that she had talked to another daycare and that if I needed to term, she understood. I couldn't quite bring myself to say the words. However, she is meeting with therapists next week, and I know that at least 2 of them will tell her that I'm not the right place for him. I only have 3 kids, 2 are much younger than him, and he needs someone his age to play with. They also believe he needs a highly structured program, and I don't have that and am not willing to do that. I'm more a spend the day with grandma plus therapy since I'm mostly special needs. We were a good fit for a long time, but sometimes, you just have to admit that you aren't right for a child anymore. I think we have reached that point. Mom and I just need to figure out who will be the first to admit it.

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I have a kid who is turning six this month he is so good for me but not mom.mom has really bad attitude problem but thats it .when this boy would get angry he would like sream clench fist maby hit his mom, say bad words *none of this at my house ever) im strict, mom is not and thats why he no he can get away with it. but now I don't think he really really need this behavior therapy.just a bratty kid at home with mom who dont displine , its veen a few months and yes he listen to mom great now so it did work, the kid told me he goes in a room an plays and they talk to him one person and him not mom.now if mom says no he just says ok

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Thank you for your replies, I am feeling a little more hopeful.

Is been a bit tough theses days, I sometime feel like parents build more and more expectations as time goes on and believe we can fix everything without their efforts at home.