GoFundMe?

[childcaremom]

If you can't afford to move out of your mom's house and get your own place on your own, gofundme is not going to help you. In order to do a home daycare, you need to be able to afford to have your own place first. It can take time to get clients (a year later I still am nowhere close to full), and you can loose clients (and income) in a hot minute. You also don't want to put yourself in a place where you have a bad client and can't afford to get rid of them, nothing like being held hostage in your own home.

Op, really good advice right here.

[Jujube835]

I'm young and I agree with most of the other posters. Gofundme is completely inappropriate for non-emergency situations. It's lazy and classless.

I know I'm being harsh, and that's not the intention, honestly. But in my opinion it's really awful to ask people for THEIR hard-earned money instead of working and making your own money. If it's your dream then WORK FOR IT.

And the mindset of "they just won't donate if they don't want to" is not the point! I don't want my children to believe that it's even remotely acceptable to ask others for money! I want them to have pride and value the money that they earn.

[childcaremom]

I'm young and I agree with most of the other posters. Gofundme is completely inappropriate for non-emergency situations. It's lazy and classless.

I know I'm being harsh, and that's not the intention, honestly. But in my opinion it's really awful to ask people for THEIR hard-earned money instead of working and making your own money. If it's your dream then WORK FOR IT.

And the mindset of "they just won't donate if they don't want to" is not the point! I don't want my children to believe that it's even remotely acceptable to ask others for money! I want them to have pride and value the money that they earn.

You will appreciate and value it more if you have to work for it!

[Play Care]

I think Go Fund Me is appropriate for people who have a sick child, serious illness, etc.

Personally, I think this trend of asking strangers for money is getting out of hand. A young man I know just started a Go-Fund-Me to pay for a trip to England. Umm....no. I love you, kiddo, but you're a own-a** man, and if you want to go to England, EARN it.

That's my opinion. Not trying to be mean, but if you have a dream of opening your own program, make it happen on your own. Get a second job for a while to save start up money, if you have to. But asking strangers for money is not appropriate, IMO.

You can do this!

[Play Care]

And the mindset of "they just won't donate if they don't want to" is not the point! I don't want my children to believe that it's even remotely acceptable to ask others for money! I want them to have pride and value the money that they earn.

Agreed.

Like it or not, how people view us can have a great impact on our lives. So if you're trying to "gofundme" for a trip to Europe, which can be viewed as lazy or selfish or whatever, this can come back to bite you later on. I don't think you should be so worried about what other will think that you never do anything, but I do think there is a healthy version of "what will everyone think" that seems to be vanishing. Everything's okay! Who cares what anyone thinks!

[MrsSteinel'sHouse]

Second job. If you are young and single there is no reason why you couldn't take on a second job and put all of that toward your future place. If you can put away $100- $150 a week in 6 months that would be $2400-$3600.

I have considered taking a seasonal Christmas job this year just to give me some extra money.

Dd moved into her own place this fall (1st time teacher) and she is looking for a second job (tutoring/ grading papers etc) to help ends meet. She would like to someday own a couch. But, that is a realistic goal for a first time apartment. Not the model ones they show but a table and a bed because that is what you have. She has no internet or cable or tv for that matter. She is just happy to be on her own in her own apartment (5 1/2 hours away too)

So my advise is save for that dream. And maybe in the beginning it is not an in home but you are working at a center etc for a consistent income.

[Thriftylady]

Second job. If you are young and single there is no reason why you couldn't take on a second job and put all of that toward your future place. If you can put away $100- $150 a week in 6 months that would be $2400-$3600.

I have considered taking a seasonal Christmas job this year just to give me some extra money.

Dd moved into her own place this fall (1st time teacher) and she is looking for a second job (tutoring/ grading papers etc) to help ends meet. She would like to someday own a couch. But, that is a realistic goal for a first time apartment. Not the model ones they show but a table and a bed because that is what you have. She has no internet or cable or tv for that matter. She is just happy to be on her own in her own apartment (5 1/2 hours away too)

So my advise is save for that dream. And maybe in the beginning it is not an in home but you are working at a center etc for a consistent income.

Tell your daughter to check out all the thrift and consignment stores in her area! Sometimes I find good furniture, have a sofa from goodwill in my home right now.

[Nisaryn]

I think Go Fund Me is appropriate for people who have a sick child, serious illness, etc.

Personally, I think this trend of asking strangers for money is getting out of hand. A young man I know just started a Go-Fund-Me to pay for a trip to England. Umm....no. I love you, kiddo, but you're a own-a** man, and if you want to go to England, EARN it.

That's my opinion. Not trying to be mean, but if you have a dream of opening your own program, make it happen on your own. Get a second job for a while to save start up money, if you have to. But asking strangers for money is not appropriate, IMO.

You can do this!

While I agree, some people can't work to save the money...I became a provider b/c I couldn't go back to work because there were no affordable providers in my area. We live in CA and I'm probably the lowest cost provider in my area. Everyone else around here made it so I couldn't even afford the two weeks deposit in order to even attempt to find work. Plus, in my area at least, no one was able to really work around the hours I needed and wanted me to work evenings which I just couldn't do...with my husband being in the military he wasn't able to pick our kids up. Especially when he is deployed this makes finding care and being able to work decent hours even more difficult. So I made the gofundme account and targeted my friends and family. I considered it their early Christmas present! So if this is their case then I say why not? You either get some help or you don't. And I'm one of the "older" people as well...I'm 34.

[Thriftylady]

While I agree, some people can't work to save the money...I became a provider b/c I couldn't go back to work because there were no affordable providers in my area. We live in CA and I'm probably the lowest cost provider in my area. Everyone else around here made it so I couldn't even afford the two weeks deposit in order to even attempt to find work. Plus, in my area at least, no one was able to really work around the hours I needed and wanted me to work evenings which I just couldn't do...with my husband being in the military he wasn't able to pick our kids up. Especially when he is deployed this makes finding care and being able to work decent hours even more difficult. So I made the gofundme account and targeted my friends and family. I considered it their early Christmas present! So if this is their case then I say why not? You either get some help or you don't. And I'm one of the "older" people as well...I'm 34.

I kind of see what you are saying with that. I am a lower cost provider here sort of, but we have a ton of SAHM's who will "babysit" and that to me is different than "childcare". But what I know of CA is that everything there is crazy expensive so I am guessing providers have to charge what I would consider "robbery" just to survive. I about died when I went to LA and a bottle of water was $5. Yeah think I will die of dehydration .

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I really like the gofund me service. I wish they had it when my mom was sick. A family member of a girl in my town raised $50k in like 3 days when she became seriously sick just a few months ago. It can be a very uesful tool to raise money. I don't see anything wrong with people asking others to help fund their dreams either. Kickstarter helps people raise money to start businesses and there are many places you can go to raise money for traveling and schooling, so I don't see it as any different. I have heard of famous people going through gofundme and just donating thousands of dollars anonymously. I think it is kind of cool and if you used it to raise money and it helped you, then good for you!

[Bookworm]

I've never been a fan of Gofundme. What made me 1000% against it was when Dylan Roof's (Charleston church shooter) sister set up a Gofundme page to recoup the money for her cancelled wedding and honeymoon.

[Ariana]

I don't see anything wrong with asking for money for anything! Some people will give it and others won't and what's the big deal? I think some people see money in terms of lack. You have to work hard, money doesn't grow on trees, you need to do things to deserve it like be sick. Some people like myself view money as abundant and flowing and I can give to you and also the sick. There is enough to go around! We have placed such a high value on money that we see people who ask for it as "less than". I don't think that is right. Money is just paper. You can give it if you want to or not...up to you.

[Nisaryn]

I kind of see what you are saying with that. I am a lower cost provider here sort of, but we have a ton of SAHM's who will "babysit" and that to me is different than "childcare". But what I know of CA is that everything there is crazy expensive so I am guessing providers have to charge what I would consider "robbery" just to survive. I about died when I went to LA and a bottle of water was $5. Yeah think I will die of dehydration .

Oh yeah, we cannot WAIT to get orders to leave CA! 2017 cannot come soon enough for us. The only provider who had an opening when I originally wanted to work outside the home wanted $600 down, she charged $300 a week or gave a discount of $1000 a month is you paid the 1st of every month...ummm, no thanks! That is nearly my husbands entire monthly paycheck! People have this illusion that military members make a crap ton of money...uh, nope.

[midaycare]

I don't see anything wrong with asking for money for anything! Some people will give it and others won't and what's the big deal? I think some people see money in terms of lack. You have to work hard, money doesn't grow on trees, you need to do things to deserve it like be sick. Some people like myself view money as abundant and flowing and I can give to you and also the sick. There is enough to go around! We have placed such a high value on money that we see people who ask for it as "less than". I don't think that is right. Money is just paper. You can give it if you want to or not...up to you.

This sounds to me (and I could be wrong here) like you are trying to use some of the new age self help books like "The Secret" and their ideas on abundance. I won't state my opinions on that, and whether or not you are following that idea, your comments seem to be.

The issue is the OP is already stating she doesn't have any money, and is merely asking for handouts, while not working towards getting any abundance herself. So...even if I did believe in the process of stating you have abundance and it will appear, you still have to actually work towards that goal.

[Blackcat31]

I don't see anything wrong with asking for money for anything! Some people will give it and others won't and what's the big deal? I think some people see money in terms of lack. You have to work hard, money doesn't grow on trees, you need to do things to deserve it like be sick. Some people like myself view money as abundant and flowing and I can give to you and also the sick. There is enough to go around! We have placed such a high value on money that we see people who ask for it as "less than". I don't think that is right. Money is just paper. You can give it if you want to or not...up to you.

I agree that we place a high value on money but unfortunately it is the only form of tender accepted to pay for the things in life we all need/desire.

In order to earn that money, we work hard. Physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes going without something in order to gain something else/attain our dreams.

To simply state that money is just paper is belittling to the process in which we all work to earn it.

In my eyes when people seek to ask others to give without giving first themselves it negates the hard work I (and others) have put forth to earn that money and what it can be used for.

If someone else isn't willing to work hard and go without in order to earn bigger rewards/to complete their dreams, it's lazy and in my opinion rude.

I would probably have a different opinion if the gofundme accounts started out with "I have earned $500 of the needed $800 in order to go/do X, so please help me reach my goal"..... etc.....
Or if the person asking for handouts was required to match the funds given.

But it doesn't and instead the message I hear is "You worked hard to earn that dollar so please feel bad for the situation I am in and give it to me."