DCM Says Not Enough Wet Diapers

[ColorfulSunburst]

She said, well if you want to potty train here you can.

No, thanks, I don't want.

[Missqjulie]

It went so bad I wanted to cry after. I still do. Ugh.

[Thriftylady]

It went so bad I wanted to cry after. I still do. Ugh.

No need for that you should celebrate. You stood your ground! But next time DO NOT refund. You gave her an option and she took it, your option was to finish up the care with no refund. Don't be bullied next time.

[Missqjulie]

Yes very true about the refund but at that point I think she was cutting off her nose to spite her face. She was a bully to say the least. I don't feel bad about giving her back her money. She was rude to me, consistently rude to my husband and looking for a fight. I don't want her coming back onto my property for any reason, so yea no. Here you go and don't come back.

[Missqjulie]

Looking back I feel like I shouldn't have taken her on in the first place. And I've been feeling this way the entire time.

[Thriftylady]

Looking back I feel like I shouldn't have taken her on in the first place. And I've been feeling this way the entire time.

Been there done that. It happens.

[permanentvacation]

You asked what we think you should have done differently. I only read your original post, I didn't read through any of the responses. But... I provide EVERYTHING for the children; meals, snacks, cups, plates/bowls, utensils, diapers, pull-ups, and wipes. I started doing that many years ago for a couple of reasons.

Now, I don't have to worry about the parents bringing bugs into my home in their diaper bags, I don't have to worry about them having coins, medicine, and other things that could choke or kill the kids in here if they happen to get in the bag before I can put it away. I don't have to have the extra space for everyone's diaper bags, the parents aren't able to count the amount of diapers we go through to say they didn't pee enough or that I used too many, I don't have foods that make me ill from the smell of them, I don't have extremely messy foods, I don't have parents giving me uncooked spaghetti noodles and a can of sauce and telling me that they didn't have time to cook, so I need to cook what they want their child to have, I don't run out of diapers in the middle of the day because their parents didn't send enough, parents don't come in here in the morning, drop off their child and tell me they forgot the diaper bag so they have to run home, get it, and will be back with it which of course when the child sees their parent when they bring the bag in, makes the child cry because they can't leave with their parent at that time, I don't have kids opening their lunch boxes to find a half of a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, chocolate chip cookies, chocolate YooHoo, and chocolate cupcakes ... I could go on and on for days with this.

I don't have ANY problems at all in regards to feeding or diapering the children since I provide everything for them. I am on the state food program which pays me to provide the meals and I keep my receipts for everything I buy so I can write everything off. So, even though it costs me money upfront, it all works out financially in the end.

The only thing my parents provide is 2 changes of clothes that can stay here in case the child gets sick on themselves or has a bathroom accident. That's all they provide. It makes everything so much easier for me.

So, I would suggest that what you should do differently is that you should provide everything for the children and not allow the parents to bring any items into your daycare other than 2 changes of clothes on the first day and a replacement set of clothes as needed.

[CalCare]

I just keep thinking maybe it wasn't kool aid?! 'Cause that is ridiculous! Like maybe it was pedialyte or something!? But in the end, she does sound like a nutjob, so I guess it probably was Kool Aid! Thank goodness you are rid of her!

[e.j.]

I'm longing to have a professional business but keep running into mothers like this.

You can't control other people's behavior; just your own. Act professionally and you will have a professional business. Try not to let parents like this get to you. Just be glad she's gone and you don't have to deal with her anymore.

Yes very true about the refund but at that point I think she was cutting off her nose to spite her face. She was a bully to say the least. I don't feel bad about giving her back her money. She was rude to me, consistently rude to my husband and looking for a fight. I don't want her coming back onto my property for any reason, so yea no. Here you go and don't come back.

Sometimes it's well worth the money just to get rid of the stress some people cause. I'd say $30 was a small price to pay to have this lady gone!

[Unregistered]

No way would I allow a cup of KoolAid to be brought here, sippy cup or not. If Mom wants him to drink more then that is fine but you provide the liquid for it and you choose the cup. I would suggest only water aside from meal times but that is just my preference and what I do here. We do milk at breakfast and lunch, juice only on special occasions and water the rest of the time. NEVER Kool Aid or soda, not here.

Same here!

[Missqjulie]

You asked what we think you should have done differently. I only read your original post, I didn't read through any of the responses. But... I provide EVERYTHING for the children; meals, snacks, cups, plates/bowls, utensils, diapers, pull-ups, and wipes. I started doing that many years ago for a couple of reasons.

Now, I don't have to worry about the parents bringing bugs into my home in their diaper bags, I don't have to worry about them having coins, medicine, and other things that could choke or kill the kids in here if they happen to get in the bag before I can put it away. I don't have to have the extra space for everyone's diaper bags, the parents aren't able to count the amount of diapers we go through to say they didn't pee enough or that I used too many, I don't have foods that make me ill from the smell of them, I don't have extremely messy foods, I don't have parents giving me uncooked spaghetti noodles and a can of sauce and telling me that they didn't have time to cook, so I need to cook what they want their child to have, I don't run out of diapers in the middle of the day because their parents didn't send enough, parents don't come in here in the morning, drop off their child and tell me they forgot the diaper bag so they have to run home, get it, and will be back with it which of course when the child sees their parent when they bring the bag in, makes the child cry because they can't leave with their parent at that time, I don't have kids opening their lunch boxes to find a half of a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, chocolate chip cookies, chocolate YooHoo, and chocolate cupcakes ... I could go on and on for days with this.

I don't have ANY problems at all in regards to feeding or diapering the children since I provide everything for them. I am on the state food program which pays me to provide the meals and I keep my receipts for everything I buy so I can write everything off. So, even though it costs me money upfront, it all works out financially in the end.

The only thing my parents provide is 2 changes of clothes that can stay here in case the child gets sick on themselves or has a bathroom accident. That's all they provide. It makes everything so much easier for me.

So, I would suggest that what you should do differently is that you should provide everything for the children and not allow the parents to bring any items into your daycare other than 2 changes of clothes on the first day and a replacement set of clothes as needed.

Yep sounds like the benefits of being licensed! Meals and buying diapers. Diapers are so expensive, Its awesome that you figured out what works for you.

[Missqjulie]

I just keep thinking maybe it wasn't kool aid?! 'Cause that is ridiculous! Like maybe it was pedialyte or something!? But in the end, she does sound like a nutjob, so I guess it probably was Kool Aid! Thank goodness you are rid of her!

No it was Kool-aid, I poured it into another spill proof container for him. Plus when I told her I didn't want Kool-aid spilled on my carpet she didn't say it wasn't Kool-aid. She knows what it was, anyone would. Its kind of distinctive.

[Missqjulie]

Sometimes it's well worth the money just to get rid of the stress some people cause. I'd say $30 was a small price to pay to have this lady gone![/QUOTE]
Amen!::