Previous Abuse

[Controlled Chaos]

Why would any mother send their child to another provider after documented abuse is beyond me. Is it just me or does this send off a red flag for anyone else?? I would live homeless in a box under a bridge if I needed to, to protect my child. Any mother who wouldn't do that is a red flag to me.

Sorry I am being judgy

Some parents have to work. I don't think growing up homeless is less traumatic than going to a (hopefully) good provider after a bad one.

[littletots]

I'm sure it will all work out for you and your new dcf. I'm sure they are happy you have an opening.

[kendallina]

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Why would any mother send their child to another provider after documented abuse is beyond me. Is it just me or does this send off a red flag for anyone else?? I would live homeless in a box under a bridge if I needed to, to protect my child. Any mother who wouldn't do that is a red flag to me.

Sorry I am being judgy

:confused: You're going to judge the mom for providing for her family?? I think all parents are at least slightly aware that abuse at daycare can happen, by your logic then all families should have a stay at home parent, live in a box and we'd all be out of a job.

[Ariana]

Well hell why doesn't she stay home and become a childcare provider??

Provide for the family AND protect her child from abusers. win win.

Just my little 'ol opinion of course

[Heidi]

Well hell why doesn't she stay home and become a childcare provider??

Provide for the family AND protect her child from abusers. win win.

Just my little 'ol opinion of course

I get what you're saying, but not everyone is cut out for this type of work.

[Controlled Chaos]

I get what you're saying, but not everyone is cut out for this type of work.

I have so much respect for parents that admit this. It may come naturally to some, but for many is a HORRIBLE fit. Being a good parent doesn't make you a good childcare provider.

[Thriftylady]

Some parents have to work, it isn't a choice. Back when I was required to work outside of the home, I wanted to do childcare way back then. But I was married to an abusive husband and it wasn't a good place for me much less children. If all parents could/would just stay home with their kids, we wouldn't be needed.

[Unregistered]

I started my own home daycare because a provider smacked my two-year-old for not staying on her sleep mat, but it was something that I had already been thinking about doing. I don't judge all providers based on this one provider's behavior, and I know many providers that I would trust to care for my children. It reminds me of the other thread about people judging all of us based on stories in the news. I give kudos to those parents for not having a polarized view of childcare providers.

[Ariana]

I am certainly not judging all people who work!! I am not sure where people are getting that idea. I am simply saying that if it were my child and she was abused at a previous providers home I would not be sending her to another provider. There are a million reasons we can all come up with for why this mom isn't choosing to stay home with her kid but there is also the possibility that she just doesn't care enough. I know plenty of moms who choose to work and don't have to and she very well might be one of them. Not every mom who works is one paycheck away from complete destitution.

I also know not everyone is cut out for this job but I'd **** it up for my kid.

To the OP I really do hope you take this kid in (provided you protect yourself)just so she has the chance to rebuild her life with a new provider who is not going to abuse her. Chances are what she has experienced has changed her forever