Oh Noooooo!!!!! :(

[KristinsHomeCC]

Its not even 10am and my son has bit 2 DCK's

He has NEVER done this!!! He is 19m so I know its normal but I am freaking out. When I say bit, I mean dark bruises the shape of his little vampire teeth, top and bottom. One on a sweet little 14m old girl Its normal right? Do I write up an incident report?

On a parenting note, how do I handle my son?? I follow peaceful techniques, no spanking/hitting at all. Anyone have any advice for me?? What a Monday!

PS- it's not out of anger at all. It's because he was right next to them and for no reason it seems. He got my hubby the other day right in his manhood :O Was trying to climb up him and put his face down on his lap and mid-foot swing up CLAMPED down on his man bits -- bled and bruised.

[Play Care]

Ouch!

First, your son - is he teething? Could he be in pain? Have you tried to use teethers, wet wash cloths, etc for him to chomp on?

Has he bitten anyone before your husband yesterday? (and BTW ) How do you handle it when he does bite?

When my own child bit my shoulder (around the same age as your son) I put her down firmly and said *very* firmly "NO BITING!! BITING HURTS!!" and removed myself from her view. I wanted her to equate biting with losing out on mommy time (a big deal then) IMO, aggressive kids often get way too much attention for being aggressive. I also used the same technique very successfully the ONE time I had a dcb try to bite another dcb on the face (and in this case I was even more firm as the dcb was old enough to know better)

But kids who are biting, be it out of frustration or pain, need to be kept with the provider at all times. They shouldn't be "free ranging" around other kids at all. It is WORK to keep the kids separated but nothing will empty out a dc faster than a biter and no plan of action.

IME, biting needs to be quickly and firmly nipped (haha) in the bud. No one needs to be spanked or God Forbid bit back But it's time to develop the "no nonsense" voice. You'll need it in the years to come ::

[KristinsHomeCC]

He has all his teeth, thats what I dont understand. Should I send DCPs a quick text so they know to expect it or tell at pick up? So far I am keeping him seperated in another room. It has me feeling so awful because its my kid. He has never bit before DH. That was so chaotic and crazy so I never really got to handle it. Both my son and DH were crying. . For obvious reasons LOL!

[Laurel]

He has all his teeth, thats what I dont understand. Should I send DCPs a quick text so they know to expect it or tell at pick up? So far I am keeping him seperated in another room. It has me feeling so awful because its my kid. He has never bit before DH. That was so chaotic and crazy so I never really got to handle it. Both my son and DH were crying. . For obvious reasons LOL!

If you normally text them for things you could do that. I'd just tell them at pick up and be really apologetic. I'd also tell them how you plan to keep it from happening again.

Caution: If you have your child in another room and are using a gate at the doorway the biter can still come up to the gate and bite the children on the other side. Ask me how I know that? ::

Also, I wouldn't tell them 'who' bit their child just that he was bit. It's a privacy issue.

Biting is a real pain and sometimes takes a long time to 'cure' but it is not the end of the world. My grandson was in my daycare and was the biter. It was stressful for a few months. I just tried to keep him away from others he was likely to bite and 'tried' to find out the triggers and eliminate them. Also, I suggested to the parents of the 'bitee' that they wear long pants/sleeves to lessen the pain if they were bitten. We have air conditioning. Or you can have a long sleeved shirt or pants in their size that they can wear during the day and change if before going home. It just reduced my stress a bit.

I usually don't post on biting threads because many just say term. I had another biter or two before my grandson and I wouldn't term. It is hard but can be dealt with.

Good luck, Laurel

[KristinsHomeCC]

Laurel, that was one of my main issues. I will normally term biters....but I can't exactly term my son I texted the parents and apologized. Told them plan of action. They both understood and thanked me for letting them know.

[Laurel]

Laurel, that was one of my main issues. I will normally term biters....but I can't exactly term my son I texted the parents and apologized. Told them plan of action. They both understood and thanked me for letting them know.

I'm glad they were understanding.

Laurel