No Sunscreen for DCB - Update

[Jujube835]

Well.. DCM picked up at 1 today unexpectedly. I hadn't had a chance to type up a termination letter.

I also wasn't prepared to talk to her yet, as I didn't know how I would word it.

So anyways, I told her that I had not had a chance to type up a formal letter but that I was terminating care. I told her that I would email her the official notice tonight. I basically justsaid I didn't think my program was right for DCB.

She was obviously upset and told me that I "can't do that." I stayed calm and told her that we are in our trial time and that I can terminate for any reason. I also explained that this is not personal it's strictly a matter of liability. Also, a huge inconvenience to keep DCB constantly shaded.

She didn't say anything else and just left. But then I got a text message about an hour ago saying that I'm discriminating and this is illegal. But here's the kicker… She said that DCB smells like sunscreen and she knows I put some on him. I would never do that! I would never never never put sunscreen on him!

So I responded in all caps telling her that I would never do that. And she hasn't responded. Basically, I'm sure she's calling licensing on me.

Anyways, I sent my licenser a heads up email.

... Just thought I'd give an update.

This all started so calmly too! They seemed SO SO nice. I'm sure I can't get into any trouble here. I legitimately did nothing wrong!

[Heidi]

Adult tantrum....

Opposition to using sunscreen is not a protected class. I don't know why everyone thinks they can pull the "discrimination card" without knowing what discrimination actually is.

:hug::hug:

[Play Care]

Wow!!

I think she hopped the train to crazy town.

[CraftyMom]

Hmmm funny she never mentioned dcb smelling like sunscreen before....just throwing a fit and looking for something to tell on you about

[CraftyMom]

I find it funny that no matter WHAT we do we are wrong. We would be wrong if we DIDN'T use sunblock and the kids got burnt, now a provider WANTING to protect from sunburn is wrong and "discriminating". We just can't win

[Play Care]

I find it funny that no matter WHAT we do we are wrong. We would be wrong if we DIDN'T use sunblock and the kids got burnt, now a provider WANTING to protect from sunburn is wrong and "discriminating". We just can't win

Amen!

[Shell]

Adult tantrum....

Opposition to using sunscreen is not a protected class. I don't know why everyone thinks they can pull the "discrimination card" without knowing what discrimination actually is.

:hug::hug:

[Blackcat31]

Well.. DCM picked up at 1 today unexpectedly. I hadn't had a chance to type up a termination letter.

I also wasn't prepared to talk to her yet, as I didn't know how I would word it.

So anyways, I told her that I had not had a chance to type up a formal letter but that I was terminating care. I told her that I would email her the official notice tonight. I basically justsaid I didn't think my program was right for DCB.

She was obviously upset and told me that I "can't do that." I stayed calm and told her that we are in our trial time and that I can terminate for any reason. I also explained that this is not personal it's strictly a matter of liability. Also, a huge inconvenience to keep DCB constantly shaded.

She didn't say anything else and just left. But then I got a text message about an hour ago saying that I'm discriminating and this is illegal. But here's the kicker… She said that DCB smells like sunscreen and she knows I put some on him. I would never do that! I would never never never put sunscreen on him!

So I responded in all caps telling her that I would never do that. And she hasn't responded. Basically, I'm sure she's calling licensing on me.

Anyways, I sent my licenser a heads up email.

... Just thought I'd give an update.

This all started so calmly too! They seemed SO SO nice. I'm sure I can't get into any trouble here. I legitimately did nothing wrong!

I'm sorry. I hope you aren't taking any of this personal.

It is exactly what others said it is.... an adult tantrum because you went so far as to deny a parent something they want done their way.

Well, the ONLY way to get their way 100% of the time is to not allow anyone else to care for their child. Otherwise, it's a working relationship that requires open honest communication.

If she can't do that, she will always be "discriminated" against.

You handled this well. I hope you can move forward and not look back. What's done is done and you did everything correctly and professionally.

[Thriftylady]

It cracks me up the things people think they can lump under "discrimination".

[Indoorvoice]

I think SHE was discriminating against YOU for your right to be a sunscreen friendly home! ::

[AmyLeigh]

This all started so calmly too! They seemed SO SO nice. I'm sure I can't get into any trouble here. I legitimately did nothing wrong!

People are always nice when they get their way. It's when they don't that the real character, or lack there of, shows through.

You handled the whole situation very well. Hoping you get a great replacement family soon.

[Jujube835]

I'm just sad because even if I'm cleared of wrongdoing it still goes in my record that I was investigated

I spent a couple hours going over my licensing book and making sure all my paperwork is in order for if/when I get inspected.

I feel pretty crummy that in my first year I'm already getting investigated

[Shell]

Is this really worth a investigation? I can picture the licensor getting the call, rolling her eyes, and telling the parent that this isn't something to report.

[Febby]

Is this really worth a investigation? I can picture the licensor getting the call, rolling her eyes, and telling the parent that this isn't something to report.

Well, if OP's state requires a medication form for sunscreen and she doesn't have one for DCB, then she wouldn't even be allowed to put sunscreen on him, so I could see someone coming out to check on it, depending on OP's state. I've been at centers who have had state come out and inspect over even more minor complaints. And, of course, that's assuming DCM tells that same story to the inspector and doesn't make up something else.

[Thriftylady]

Well, if OP's state requires a medication form for sunscreen and she doesn't have one for DCB, then she wouldn't even be allowed to put sunscreen on him, so I could see someone coming out to check on it, depending on OP's state. I've been at centers who have had state come out and inspect over even more minor complaints. And, of course, that's assuming DCM tells that same story to the inspector and doesn't make up something else.

That is what I would worry about, DCM trumping this up.