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I need some advice. My nephew is 2 and is a total handful when another dcb is here. It is only when this other child is here that he is a nightmare. The other child is twice his age and twice his size. When the other dcb who is his age and size is here he is normal. He hits this older child. Takes toys from him and just has a meltdown for anything this child touches. If he isn't here and it's only him and the same age boy there is no issues. I can't put my nephew in a gated area because he just climbs right over it with his monkey toes. I do timeouts with him but when it's over he goes back to being mean in 10-minutes. I've talked with my mom about it but she can't address the issues because it doesn't happen at her house. When my kids go over there he tries to take toys from my 4yr old and then my parent will intervene. This dcb isn't here all that often during the summer because mom is a teacher but when he is my days are exhausting. Any ideas??????
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Honestly, it sounds like your nephew is the issue.
If he can't behave nicely he should not have access to the other kids at all. If you place him behind a gate, he needs to learn in no uncertain terms that he is to stay put. period.
I'd be coming down on him like white on rice if he tried to climb over the gate. That is a huge safety issue and one that he is FULLY capable of understanding at age 2. I have an infant toddler room just for my kids under age 2 and I leave the gate open at all times and NONE of the kids exit the room or come near the gate because they have been trained to not do it and because they know and understand that they are not allowed to. -
Also I wouldn't talk to your mom, I'd talk to your nephews mom about him learning to obey the person in charge.Comment
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We haven't seen or talked or otherwise heard from his mom since August 2013 when CPS took him and gave him to my mom. My brother (nephew dad) went to prison for 18 months on his second drunk driving conviction. He lives in another state so my mom and step dad has full custody of my nephew.Comment
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He is 1000% the issue when this other kid is here. I'm definitely not as hard on him as I should be. I do enforce timeouts where he has to sit and if he gets up the timer starts over. How did you train yours to stay in the room? Just consistent with the stay in there? I watched a video of someone on here that uses towels to separate the area but I don't know how to enforce that either.Comment
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Gottcha
The video was Nan's. It might be in your best interest to actually have a consult with her. She can give you the tools, words and actions to enforce that boundary.
Yes, for me it was just consistent and very firm rinse and repeat until they understood and once they did, it bled over to any newbie that starts coming.
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If you do want to do a consult with Nan, let me know and I'll give you her contact info.
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He is only this awful when this particular kid is here which has been maybe a week combined since June. Have you ever had a 2-year old act this way towards a 4 year old or are yours completely separated at all times?Gottcha
The video was Nan's. It might be in your best interest to actually have a consult with her. She can give you the tools, words and actions to enforce that boundary.
Yes, for me it was just consistent and very firm rinse and repeat until they understood and once they did, it bled over to any newbie that starts coming.
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Mine are "mostly" separated so it isn't an issue but I do still have instances where one child is the catalyst for another child's bad behavior. Whether it's territorial or not I don't know but I guess I keep kids that don't necessarily mesh well separated until I can be right there to intervene if necessary or until I feel they have gain sufficient enough maturity to not behave badly.
I PM'ed you her cell number.
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