Does It Irritate Anyone Else When...

[KidGrind]

I've spoken to parents like this. I've noticed they never term, because I think they know they don't enjoy their children. I'm signed out because I know this might come off as "racist". I've noticed in cultures where this is a big push to have children, these women are often like this. The husband is at work and they just sit around having babies and pawning them off on others. Sometimes, family and sometimes me. I've noticed this with a lot of Indian and Muslim families. It does bother me (that they don't care about their children, not their race). I refuse to take children from sahps. I had one Indian mom who I truly miss (the child is in school now). I noticed she worked and was born here and her spouse was born here, too.

What a cowardly way to express your ignorance and prejudice! I’ve had the pleasure of knowing many of who are of the cultures and religious faith you speak of and my experience is the exact opposite of yours.

I am not typing your experience isn’t true. I am typing your experience is has little to do with their culture or faith. They are individuals. To even time Indian and Islamic families don’t care about their children is ridiculous! Some of the most dedicated & devoted families I’ve had the pleasure to know. I am also not ignorant to state every Indian family or Islamic family are like the ones I’ve experience. No different that Christian families white, black, Asian, hispanic or latino: Some families, parents are dedicated, devoted and caring; some are horror stories and I imagine a lot are somewhere in between.

[midaycare]

I agree it does depend on the family, not culture.

There are perhaps, some cultures who believe in more of a "it takes a village" rather than "it takes only mom and dad". Not everyone in a culture, but very generally speaking. I agree with this. I would much rather my DS spend his life being raised by his parents, family, and fellow good community members. It just makes for a happier upbringing (I think). You see more, experience more, have a larger network of people who love you.

[Unregistered]

It irritates me sometimes. And not because I feel bad for the kid who is left, but just because my mom used to take all 4 of us and taught us what was expected of us in public. I don't see that happen very often anymore. The first chance to leave one or more of their kids behind is taken because it's easier for them to deal with. It is what it is though, but I will not lie to the kid. One time I had a sibling left behind and they were the last one there. So I could have been done early if dcm had taken them with, so I let her know at pick up that next time, she would have to take both kids and she had no problem with it. I think she realized dck was with me with no other kids and would have loved the extra time with mom and his brother. Have not had it happen since, but my current families have no siblings yet, so we shall see!

[Josiegirl]

It only bothers me if the child left at my house cries or whines the whole time. Then I'd feel terrible and would have to tell mom or dad to not do it again. I'd had parents take 1 dck before but the other one couldn't care less.

[auntymimi]

I've spoken to parents like this. I've noticed they never term, because I think they know they don't enjoy their children. I'm signed out because I know this might come off as "racist". I've noticed in cultures where this is a big push to have children, these women are often like this. The husband is at work and they just sit around having babies and pawning them off on others. Sometimes, family and sometimes me. I've noticed this with a lot of Indian and Muslim families. It does bother me (that they don't care about their children, not their race). I refuse to take children from sahps. I had one Indian mom who I truly miss (the child is in school now). I noticed she worked and was born here and her spouse was born here, too.

Yeah, that's pretty racist.