Mosquitoes at My Home Bothering DCB

[Blackcat31]

So I let dcm know I wouldn't spray due to the pesticide factor, and she and I can talk about terming if she would like.

I got an immediate text back saying, "Oh we really don't want to leave! Let me look into essential oils I can use."

So I guess next time I won't get all huffy in my brain about it. I've just never had a dcm or dcd threaten to pull over something. But I'm a newbie still ::

Told ya!


Threatening to pull their child when they don't get their way is a VERY common bargaining tactic that is NOT something I take lightly.

In essence this mom thought she could threaten you and your income unless you do what she wants you to do.... she proved it when she said "Oh we really don't want to leave".

If not, then why did she use those words?

Sorry but that is NOT what I would consider a "model" parent. It's the type of parent I usually do not like having in care and one that doesn't last long here.

...after all that I would be madder than I was initially.

[midaycare]

Told ya!


Threatening to pull their child when they don't get their way is a VERY common bargaining tactic that is NOT something I take lightly.

In essence this mom thought she could threaten you and your income unless you do what she wants you to do.... she proved it when she said "Oh we really don't want to leave".

If not, then why did she use those words?

Sorry but that is NOT what I would consider a "model" parent. It's the type of parent I usually do not like having in care and one that doesn't last long here.

...after all that I would be madder than I was initially.

Yeah, she lost the "model" parent label today. Bummer.

I think I could choose to be really angry, or I can use it as a business lesson. I know where I stand with dcf's...but it is so easy to forget.

[Leigh]

So I let dcm know I wouldn't spray due to the pesticide factor, and she and I can talk about terming if she would like.

I got an immediate text back saying, "Oh we really don't want to leave! Let me look into essential oils I can use."

So I guess next time I won't get all huffy in my brain about it. I've just never had a dcm or dcd threaten to pull over something. But I'm a newbie still ::

I'd tell mom NO to the essential oils and ask her to provide a repellent that is around 30% DEET. 3M Ultrathon is awesome (it lasts longer than others). DEET is quite safer than using an undiluted essential oil. I wouldn't allow her to use anything other than what is proven to work. Essential oils, skin so soft, etc. provide mosquito repellent benefits for around TEN minutes. DEET lasts.

[Blackcat31]

Yeah, she lost the "model" parent label today. Bummer.

I think I could choose to be really angry, or I can use it as a business lesson. I know where I stand with dcf's...but it is so easy to forget.

Definitely go with "business lesson" :: but make sure it's a lesson for DCM too.

I'd make a point of discussing this with her and letting her know that she can't just say the words "I'm going to pull my child" as an empty threat without thinking about the ramifications.

It's really no different than a parent that threatens consequences or follow through but never really does anything. kwim?

It's does nothing but condone the behavior or at the very least reinforce it as a tactic that garners attention.

[midaycare]

Definitely go with "business lesson" :: but make sure it's a lesson for DCM too.

I'd make a point of discussing this with her and letting her know that she can't just say the words "I'm going to pull my child" as an empty threat without thinking about the ramifications.

It's really no different than a parent that threatens consequences or follow through but never really does anything. kwim?

It's does nothing but condone the behavior or at the very least reinforce it as a tactic that garners attention.

All true...

[midaycare]

I'd tell mom NO to the essential oils and ask her to provide a repellent that is around 30% DEET. 3M Ultrathon is awesome (it lasts longer than others). DEET is quite safer than using an undiluted essential oil. I wouldn't allow her to use anything other than what is proven to work. Essential oils, skin so soft, etc. provide mosquito repellent benefits for around TEN minutes. DEET lasts.

ITA with this

[Sunchimes]

I have 2 one year olds that attract mosquitoes while the 3 year old doesn't get mosquitoes, but if there is an ant within 50 yards, it finds him and makes ugly sores. Two moms shrug it off and tell me to do the best I can. They both have older kids too. The new one year old is a first baby. Mom sends him in heavy knit leg warmers so that he won't get callouses on his knees or bites on his legs. :-) He gets really warm, but so far, no bites. I thought about suggesting long sleeves, but it's so hot here that I hate to do it. She's been really nice, worried but not blaming me. She just wants us to do our best to keep him from bites. I bought the yard spray but keep forgetting to go out early to use it. I got a bite yesterday, so that should be a good reminder.

[Thriftylady]

I am just going to throw this out there. We have bug issues in our yard, but it seems the flies are just as bad as the mosquitoes if not worse. We have a bug spray we love that works for us it is http://www.amazon.com/Quantum-Health...ords=buzz+away. We first got it at whole foods but don't really live near one. Now I will say that DD went to Canada with church camp a couple of years ago and the mosquitoes were horrible and this didn't help, either did Deet products (they had warned us and we sent both).

I wouldn't spray though. I would require DCM to provide what she wants used on DCB or I would term. I would not do something that makes me basically work for free. If DCM wants to pay the full cost of the spraying, I MIGHT allow it.

[midaycare]

Dcm is looking at things she can do for him, but I have a weird feeling she will term. Her parents picked dcb up early today so he didn't have to go outside, and they will watch him tomorrow, too - so I won't see him the rest of the week since Wednesday is his last day.

I don't blame her ... I'm just not sure she has better options other than making him a hermit.

[Play Care]

When I first read that she threatened to term, I got the picture of a desperate parent trying to come up with something, anything to help.

The fact she was like "oh, no biggie" once you put your foot down about spraying makes me

[midaycare]

When I first read that she threatened to term, I got the picture of a desperate parent trying to come up with something, anything to help.

The fact she was like "oh, no biggie" once you put your foot down about spraying makes me

Yes, those were my reactions too. At first I really wanted to help but was conflicted because of chemicals and cost. Then I was annoyed.