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So mom to my 16 month old DCG is driving me insane. She is scared to feed this child. She is so afraid of choking she won't give her many foods. The other day she told me "well it is so hard to find things she can eat". One day she told me, well I peel her grapes. I told her to cut them and she will be fine and she said she can't chew the skin. Today I told her we are making pizzas for lunch tomorrow because my SA DCB will be here. She says "well don't give her any pepperoni, oh and make sure she doesn't get any cheese she can choke on that stringy cheese". She is young, just graduated last year, but that is getting insane. Basically she doesn't want me to feed DCG anything that could cause her to choke, and really anything can cause that. The other day I told her we had peaches for lunch and she said "oh I never have given her those, what if she chokes?". I of course feed DCG as normal with no issues but geesh. I have not once seen DCG even act like she was going to choke. Spit out foods because they are new to her yes, choke no. Any of you had a parent like this? If so how did you get them to realize that learning to eat is part of living and growing?
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My sister was that mom !!! Her daughter choked on a banana once , so I see why she was so anal about it . Tell her you encourage the children to chew, that you watch them when they eat and you know CPR . Most kids will gag I think if they have too much in their mouth . Sorry , but grapes are listed as a choking hazard for the under 3 set . Look up which foods are ok for her age and assure mom that you will stick to those guidelines . That's my best advice . -
I haven't served grapes, but if I did I would cut them. I honestly don't buy them because of DH. DH loves them, but we are both diabetic. Once a year ago they were on sale, and I bought him some. The next day he said "my bag of grapes is empty". I said "what do you mean there were two pounds there". He said "yeah I have been eating them as I drive". So then I about fell over and asked him what the heck he was thinking. He says "what they are good for you". I said the only thing I could "NOT WHEN YOU EAT THEM BY THE POUND!!!!". Geesh. So I don't buy them anymore because DH can't control himself
. But really peaches, and most other foods are safe. No, I wouldn't give her popcorn or even peanuts, but really the kid has to eat and mom is afraid to even give her bread, "because it can ball up and cause choking, so if you give it to her you have to cut it small and she can't have crust".
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I would stop telling Mom what was going to be eaten before hand and just tell her what the child had already eaten and how you had given it to her s she could copy you.Comment
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I had a mom request that I cut her toddler's food in tiny pieces, but I do that for toddlers anyway. I've never had one paranoid like your dcm!Comment
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One center we looked at (and really liked) would not feed a child anything that the child did not eat at home at least 3 times due to allergy concerns. Mom needs to tell you what she has fed her and what she can eat safely so that you can decide what you are comfortable feeding her.Comment
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I have a 16 month old dcg who refuses to eat whole foods. Her parents still give her baby food at home in the form of a pouch. I don't allow outside food into the dc, and mom knows this. I put food on her tray and she will not even attempt to pick it up. I have tried sitting her at the table with the big kids and she won't eat. I end up pureeing her food after everyone has finished to get her to eat, which she will gladly do. If I feed her whole food with a spoon, she won't open her mouth. I try to leave it as chunky as possible, or purée part of it and will add whole pees or rice or whatever were having to try and get her used to the texture. But she just spits it out. I've only had her a couple months but I feel like it's getting out of hand at this point. I have another baby her age who eats whole foods just fine. I've never experienced a baby this bad. If I don't purée her food she will cry for ever and won't sleep because she is so hungry. Still refuses to eat no matter how many times I try. I have talked to dcm over and over and she says that she "eats" at home. She gets cookies and a pouch of baby food for dinner. She told me this afternoon if she refuses to eat to just give her a bottle. Oh l just don't know what to do!
As for your situation, I would do like someone else suggested and not mention to mom what you're serving that day. Let her know at the end of the day how well she ate and didn't choke. If mom doesn't continue to introduce new foods the poor kids not going to develop properly and will struggle eating as she gets older.
I just don't understand how parents can be so ridiculous about the most common sense things.Comment
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If this doesent change it might be worth mentioning to the parents about sensory disorder. I had a boy a few years ago who would only eat baby food or crunchy crackers, chips etc. He was almost 2 and parents had no idea until I told them to get him evaluated. There were other things that were different about him from day one but not one thing that on its own put a red flag up. He would not let me put normal food in his mouth without a fight, if I got anything in there he would immediately gag.Comment
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Yes sensory kids often times have feeding issues.
As for the original DCM in question, I would not offer any info about meals as it just makes her paranoid. If she really starts causing a fuss, I would require that she provide all meals. If that is not an option, I would just say that she has to trust in your knowledge of child development and feeding. If she cant do that, she should look for a new provider.Comment
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This.
This is exactly what I would do. She needs to trust you to feed her child and not kill it. If she doesn't, she needs to find new care! I have a 12 month old that eats grapes, watermelon, crackers etc. there's nothing I give my older kids that I don't give him. I just cut the pieces smaller/modify it for him.
I would stop telling her what you're going to have and tell her at the end of the day what you had, how well she did eating etc. make sure to reiterate to mom that you know CPR and you're always within arms reach of DCG. If she can't trust you after that, she needs a new daycare.Comment
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Here. At a year. They self feed all food. And I serve them everything the older ones get unless it's an allergy item.Comment
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