Early Parent Pickups - How to Deal

[Indoorvoice]

Seems like parents can never do right by you all.
If they pick up on time, their child is in DC too long. If they're late, they're wrong. If they pick up early they're wrong. If that parent would have gotten off early went home to take a nap, clean her house, or go grocery shopping then a lot would be one here complaining that she didn't pick her child up right after work.
If my DC provider told me I could not pick my child up from DC, I would and I'd never take my child back.
I am a DC parent as well as have owned my own childcare. Therefore,, I do know some of the things providers deal with when it comes to DCparents, but some of you really need to get over yourselves. A home daycare is just a glorified babysitter.

I wasn't complaining. I was asking advice on what I should have done because SHE was upset with ME when I asked to keep her child longer as a favor for her child who the needed the rest and for the mom. I was trying to be nice while also trying to accommodate the needs of ALL the children in my care. Sounds like you had a bad day. Hope things turn around for you.

[Unregistered]

Nope, I am voicing MY opinion as does everyone else on this forum. Thanks for assuming though.

[Indoorvoice]

Nope, I am voicing MY opinion as does everyone else on this forum. Thanks for assuming though.

Great, maybe you could offer some helpful advice then instead of assuming that everyone is complaining.

[grateday]

I like the other advice on here

I think parents sometimes assume that everyone is actually sleeping at the same time........ It takes time to transition. I start mine at 1pm. But if you have little infants and babies or other needs that might not work for your program. I have older kids seperated. I have some kids whos parents want me to do sleep on demand. So those kids are seperated too. I usually end up having to keep those ones awake until mom comes becuase they don't sleep over here. My own son is at a hard age 4 years and sometimes naps and then sometimes does not. The nappers have to stay on there mats though. The non nappers cannot be in the area and cannot step or go near the mats.

I have had parents pick up at nap times but they are trained to be quite/talk quiet and the entrance is right into the nap area. The doorbell is not connected. I have a couple times met the parents at the door. The children are used to having people popping in.

The most annoying are the after school kids that forget every day when they walk in to be quiet. I noticed younger babies who are not used to the childcare are way more sensitive to noise disturbance. Background music helps or a white noise maker helps to kind of filter the noise too.

[LeggoMyEggo]

Great, maybe you could offer some helpful advice then instead of assuming that everyone is complaining.

Seems like you're the one that is upset Hun, not me. I posted my own opinion. It sounds like complaining to me, so that's what I called it.
I have read this forum for years and have posted a few times and have been offended by other's opinion and it is what it is. So if you're offended by the fact that I believe home daycares are babysitters or whatever it is that I said, then oh well.
I have a right to express my opinion as does everyone else here.

[Blackcat31]

Seems like you're the one that is upset Hun, not me. I posted my own opinion. It sounds like complaining to me, so that's what I called it.
I have read this forum for years and have posted a few times and have been offended by other's opinion and it is what it is. So if you're offended by the fact that I believe home daycares are babysitters or whatever it is that I said, then oh well.
I have a right to express my opinion as does everyone else here.

Its one thing to voice your opinion but there is really no need to be condescending or rude towards the OP.
She wasnt being rude to you.

Complaining about an early pick up does sound petty in and of itself but add in the details of the specific situation and its obvious the provider was trying to do whats best for everyone she cares for and the complaint was absolutely legitimate since she was trying to put the needs of others first before the needs of just one child/parent.

You are entitled to an opinion but you are not entitled to be rude about it.

The glorified baby-sitter comment was completely unnecessary and made simply to get a rise out of others. I fail to see the point in that.. :confused:

If you have worked in the field as well as been a parent yourself, you should have also learned that everyone does things differently and unless someone is being mean or spiteful most are just looking for a way to keep everybody happy and do what's best for everyone.

The negativity towards the OP is unnecessary.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Nope, I am voicing MY opinion as does everyone else on this forum. Thanks for assuming though.

I wasn't assuming, just questioning. Usually when someone comes on here unregistered and throws out things like "just a glorified babysitter" it sets off my troll radar Your comments were pretty rude, though, and the OP was just looking for advice, not a lecture.

[Indoorvoice]

Seems like you're the one that is upset Hun, not me. I posted my own opinion. It sounds like complaining to me, so that's what I called it.
I have read this forum for years and have posted a few times and have been offended by other's opinion and it is what it is. So if you're offended by the fact that I believe home daycares are babysitters or whatever it is that I said, then oh well.
I have a right to express my opinion as does everyone else here.

I'm not upset or offended by your comment. Just confused about what your motive was to post on this thread under "Unregistered" and offer no useful commentary. I would have loved to hear your perspective as a parent and get your opinion on what I should have done. While certainly within your rights, as you keep pointing out, your hurtful comment about daycare providers on a board intended for daycare providers wasn't helpful in this situation. I'm just trying to understand why you chose to participate when you didn't have any advice to offer. If you'd actually like to add something helpful to the conversation, I would truly love to hear it. Until then, I will be over here not feeding into the drama any longer.

[LeggoMyEggo]

I was never being negative towards OP. I was not even talking about her in my initial comments, I was more talking about other posters and prior posts that I've read. Making a point that in the eyes of a lot of individuals on this forum a parent can never do right. They're d'ed if they do, d'ed if they don't. That's the point I was making.
I only addressed OP when she addressed me. So I'd advise to re read my comments as they were never to OP, more just in general. I have every right to believe, think, or say that a home daycare provider is a glorified babysitter as I did. And yes, I have owned my own home daycare and been a director and yes, that is still how I feel, even though I did it as well. I now work in a school along with others who have actual degrees to be considered "teachers". Sorry I just do not feel a provider is a "teacher" nor deserves the title of that. A lot of people including myself feel the same about the babysitter comment. Even some of the clients we serve in the childcare industry feel the same. Again, if you don't like how I feel, well it's my opinion. I'm not being or intending to be rude, you may feel that I am and that's fine. Most people mistake my bluntness for rudeness and that's fine. Take it how you like.

[Unregistered]

Unreg- I highly doubt you are a qualified teacher much less were ever a director! Sorry if you mistake this for rude! I'm just stating my opinion... Hun

[LysesKids]

I was never being negative towards OP. I was not even talking about her in my initial comments, I was more talking about other posters and prior posts that I've read. Making a point that in the eyes of a lot of individuals on this forum a parent can never do right. They're d'ed if they do, d'ed if they don't. That's the point I was making.
I only addressed OP when she addressed me. So I'd advise to re read my comments as they were never to OP, more just in general. I have every right to believe, think, or say that a home daycare provider is a glorified babysitter as I did. And yes, I have owned my own home daycare and been a director and yes, that is still how I feel, even though I did it as well. I now work in a school along with others who have actual degrees to be considered "teachers". Sorry I just do not feel a provider is a "teacher" nor deserves the title of that. A lot of people including myself feel the same about the babysitter comment. Even some of the clients we serve in the childcare industry feel the same. Again, if you don't like how I feel, well it's my opinion. I'm not being or intending to be rude, you may feel that I am and that's fine. Most people mistake my bluntness for rudeness and that's fine. Take it how you like.

I can guarantee that many of us have a degree that is teacher worthy; I actually worked in a school system years ago as a teacher, so being called a "glorified babysitter" when I have 2 degrees and am going for a 3rd a little condescending. I homeschooled my kids in states that required a minimum of a Bachelor degree, I worked in the courts/law offices for 15 years prior, so yes you sound rude to me

[Blackcat31]

I was never being negative towards OP. I was not even talking about her in my initial comments, I was more talking about other posters and prior posts that I've read. Making a point that in the eyes of a lot of individuals on this forum a parent can never do right. They're d'ed if they do, d'ed if they don't. That's the point I was making.
I only addressed OP when she addressed me. So I'd advise to re read my comments as they were never to OP, more just in general. I have every right to believe, think, or say that a home daycare provider is a glorified babysitter as I did. And yes, I have owned my own home daycare and been a director and yes, that is still how I feel, even though I did it as well. I now work in a school along with others who have actual degrees to be considered "teachers". Sorry I just do not feel a provider is a "teacher" nor deserves the title of that. A lot of people including myself feel the same about the babysitter comment. Even some of the clients we serve in the childcare industry feel the same. Again, if you don't like how I feel, well it's my opinion. I'm not being or intending to be rude, you may feel that I am and that's fine. Most people mistake my bluntness for rudeness and that's fine. Take it how you like.

Many on this forum will say I am pretty blunt as well and have no issue calling it how I see it but I learned a long time ago that blunt can be done with politeness and without condescension.

I can guarantee that many of us have a degree that is teacher worthy; I actually worked in a school system years ago as a teacher, so being called a "glorified babysitter" when I have 2 degrees and am going for a 3rd a little condescending. I homeschooled my kids in states that required a minimum of a Bachelor degree, I worked in the courts/law offices for 15 years prior, so yes you sound rude to me

I have a bachelor's degree in Early Childhood Education (birth to grade 3) and am qualified to teach in public schools. I choose to work in family child care for many reasons. One of which is to avoid judgemental coworkers that feel they are above or better than those who work in different areas of childhood/education.

I also have an A.A.S in business, primarily in business/contract law and I do take offense to those who feel anyone is less than or better than simply because of a degree or lack of degree.

[LysesKids]

Many on this forum will say I am pretty blunt as well and have no issue calling it how I see it but I learned a long time ago that blunt can be done with politeness and without condescension.





I have a bachelor's degree in Early Childhood Education (birth to grade 3) and am qualified to teach in public schools. I choose to work in family child care for many reasons. One of which is to avoid judgemental coworkers that feel they are above or better than those who work in different areas of childhood/education.

I also have an A.A.S in business, primarily in business/contract law and I do take offense to those who feel anyone is less than or better than simply because of a degree or lack of degree.

... I have my reasons for working in childcare - one of which was having my husband killed 17 years ago.
I wasn't willing to have my career back then leave my children orphaned if I was to be killed on the job also

[Unregistered]

Many on this forum will say I am pretty blunt as well and have no issue calling it how I see it but I learned a long time ago that blunt can be done with politeness and without condescension.





I have a bachelor's degree in Early Childhood Education (birth to grade 3) and am qualified to teach in public schools. I choose to work in family child care for many reasons. One of which is to avoid judgemental coworkers that feel they are above or better than those who work in different areas of childhood/education.

I also have an A.A.S in business, primarily in business/contract law and I do take offense to those who feel anyone is less than or better than simply because of a degree or lack of degree.

I didn't plan on having a family child care. I have a bachelor's degree and additional certificates for early childhood courses that I took. I continue to attend early childhood conferences in my state so I can have the current information in the early childhood field. I left my director position at a private preschool center to open a family child care with my sister so she could stay home with her child that she tried for many years to have. It is very insulting when someone calls what we do nothing more than a "glorified babysitter."

[Missqjulie]

Ok I will definitely handle it by meeting her at the door all ready to go next time. I would never deny the parent the right to pick up their kid either, which is why I tried to phrase it nicely. I thought it was nice for me to let him finish his nap! Well then when she asked if she could come wake him up, I thought "no way!" she's a showy parent and it would take forever. I just get sick of every little thing being made into an issue. She had nothing to do and an extra half hour would not have killed her. She just wants to be my boss.

Every parent comes with their issue. Like it was said above meet her at the door with the baby and his belongings. So long, see you later!