Kind of Surprised

[laundrymom]

We finally found our new home!!
I told everyone Wednesday morning at drop off.
One dad, who has had two kids w me. Our history stretches over 8 years and through health scares, job changes and family deaths.
They are aging out and youngest starting school on August 3 so they'll probably be gone around the time we move... But....
When I told him all he said was , "oh ok. Well we won't be here so it won't affect us. Have a great day"
Then he turned away.
I was shocked. He didn't say anything else. Not. A congrats. Not a cool, where is it? Nothing.
We've camped together, I thought we were friends.
I was just shocked to discover where we rated.

[Thriftylady]

Man it is always a blow when you find out a relationship isn't what you thought it was. On the other hand, maybe he is like my DH? My DH doesn't seem to care about anything. He does care, but he doesn't show it drives me nuts sometimes.

[Play Care]

Try not to take it personally (I know, easier said than done) some people just get caught up in what they have to do that they don't think.
He may have had other things on his mind, may have been in a hurry, etc.

Congrats on the new house!

[Unregistered]

Don't be offended. He automatically filed it under 'daycare updates that don't apply to us' and moved on. He forgot that you are also a personal friend. Since they're graduating out, he isn't concerned about future daycare info. But I'm sure as he drove away he probably began to wonder what the scoop was for you personally and all that Probably next time he or the wife sees you, they'll ask you more about it... Unless they get distracted!

[daycarediva]

We finally found our new home!!
I told everyone Wednesday morning at drop off.
One dad, who has had two kids w me. Our history stretches over 8 years and through health scares, job changes and family deaths.
They are aging out and youngest starting school on August 3 so they'll probably be gone around the time we move... But....
When I told him all he said was , "oh ok. Well we won't be here so it won't affect us. Have a great day"
Then he turned away.
I was shocked. He didn't say anything else. Not. A congrats. Not a cool, where is it? Nothing.
We've camped together, I thought we were friends.
I was just shocked to discover where we rated.

Well congratulations on the new home! Sometimes, people just don't think.

[Sugar Magnolia]

Congrats on the house!!!!!
I'm sure he will come around when he realizes he was jerky.
Maybe he was in a hurry or had something in his head that was distracting him.
:hug:

[DaveA]

I could see me saying something similar because I would be talking about how it affects care and nothing else. It isn't like it's a "here today/ gone tomorrow" situation, so he probably figures that 1) he has plenty of time to thank you for what you've done & 2) if you're friends and you're not moving too far away that won't change any.

I wouldn't read too much into it.

[bklsmum]

Don't take it personally. He probably went home and mentioned it to his wife and she grilled him with questions about it and he had no answers and she was annoyed. Men are like that.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Don't take it personally. He probably went home and mentioned it to his wife and she grilled him with questions about it and he had no answers and she was annoyed. Men are like that.

I was just gonna say that! That is my husband to a tee! It is so frustrating!

[Laurel]

Don't take it personally. He probably went home and mentioned it to his wife and she grilled him with questions about it and he had no answers and she was annoyed. Men are like that.

[Second Home]

Congrats on finding your home . happyface

[laundrymom]

Thanks everyone!! Septic inspection is Monday. Fingers crossed huge for that. Appraisal not long after. Then if all our I's are dotted and T's crossed we should be headed to closing.

As far as the dad mentioned in original post...
Not a single word from Mom or Dad about our new home. I should know not to expect anything from a client, but I thought we were so much more.

Lesson learned.

[NeedaVaca]

Out of curiosity, did this family get any "special" treatment over all those years? No rate increases, late fees, extra hours? I'm wondering because you hear about this kind of thing often. A family is great, you think you are friends but the minute something doesn't go their way they show their true colors. In this case you aren't doing anything that would really affect them but the way they are acting isn't that of a friend so I wonder if they (subconsciously or not) had ulterior motives during the course of the friendship?

Personally I don't form friendships with my DCF's so it's not something I run into but I read about it happening to others quite a lot!

[laundrymom]

Out of curiosity, did this family get any "special" treatment over all those years? No rate increases, late fees, extra hours? I'm wondering because you hear about this kind of thing often. A family is great, you think you are friends but the minute something doesn't go their way they show their true colors. In this case you aren't doing anything that would really affect them but the way they are acting isn't that of a friend so I wonder if they (subconsciously or not) had ulterior motives during the course of the friendship?

Personally I don't form friendships with my DCF's so it's not something I run into but I read about it happening to others quite a lot!

The only "favor" ever is keeping a daily diary after dcg was diagnosed w epilepsy. Which, is super important and not something I feel is a favor. I don't know. It just kind of bothered me that they didn't say anything, knowing how hard we've worked to make it happen.
We still talk and the relationship hasn't changed at all. Other than my feelings being hurt. But I smile, and act normal. July 31 is her last day here.