Rewarding Children

[Unregistered]

What is everyone's opinion on rewarding children with new toys and such for not hitting or biting their nails things like that? I have a 3 1/2 yr old who's parents reward him with toys and bubbles and such. He is a hitter hits his friends even hits me. His therapist says to reward him with prizes to curb the behaviors. I think it's the most rediculous way to get him to behave. Opinions on rewarding naughty children to get them to behave???

[LysesKids]

What is everyone's opinion on rewarding children with new toys and such for not hitting or biting their nails things like that? I have a 3 1/2 yr old who's parents reward him with toys and bubbles and such. He is a hitter hits his friends even hits me. His therapist says to reward him with prizes to curb the behaviors. I think it's the most rediculous way to get him to behave. Opinions on rewarding naughty children to get them to behave???

IMO, he keeps doing bad knowing he will get something when it happens; I do not reward bad behavior & that therapist should have their head examined

[Thriftylady]

I hate it. I think it creates entitled children. Then you start hearing "well if I behave what will you give me?". My last two school age kids I had a few behaviors I was trying to change, and did tickets for prizes. It ended up being more hassle and headache for me than it was worth. Things have sure changed over the years, my mother would have never given me a reward for doing what I was supposed to do, perhaps a swat on the behind for not doing it though.

[Laurel]

What is everyone's opinion on rewarding children with new toys and such for not hitting or biting their nails things like that? I have a 3 1/2 yr old who's parents reward him with toys and bubbles and such. He is a hitter hits his friends even hits me. His therapist says to reward him with prizes to curb the behaviors. I think it's the most rediculous way to get him to behave. Opinions on rewarding naughty children to get them to behave???

I think it sends the wrong message. However, people that don't believe in giving little kids toys for good behavior, give older ones money for good grades which I also would never do.

If a child ever hit me, the child would be gone. Maybe once I would let it slide but with a stern warning that if were to happen again, so long.

Laurel

[Unregistered]

Those types of rewards are very short-lived! I don't understand why they would be advised to do this! That ends up being a never ending cycle of more, more, more. My experience is it doesn't

[Blackcat31]

Those types of rewards are very short-lived! I don't understand why they would be advised to do this! That ends up being a never ending cycle of more, more, more. My experience is it doesn't

Did the parents say that the therapist said that or did you hear it directly from terapist or in any written correespondence from the therapist?

If the parents said it, I bet the therapist said something about "catching him doing good" or "praising the positive behaviors" and translated through parent's ears it becomes "buy him something when he's good".