SOOOOO Annoyed...But Also a Little...Relieved?

[bklsmum]

So I have this new family that started about a month ago. They 2 year old DCB is...well...2 so not great, not the worst. His almost 4 year old brother is a TOTALLY different story. From the word go it has been nothing but tantrums and freshness and threats of violence. They are new to daycare so I was trying to give them a little time to adjust but was fast reaching the point of no return. Well yesterday older DCB brought toys from home which is a big no no here. I took the toys away when I saw they were here and put them in his cubby and told him he could have them back when he left. He threw a fit and got a time out and then kept going over and taking the toys out of the cubby. He did this two times and then I told him if he touched them again I was throwing them away. Of course, he did so I put the one he took on the top of the trash and put him on time out next to me as I made lunch. When I was laying the kids down for their naps after lunch my son took the trash out and the toy with it. It was a little plastic dinosaur and I explained it to DCD and offered to replace it and he said it was fine and to not worry about it. FF to today when I get a message from DCM that she will be picking up their stuff this weekend because she is withdrawing them. Older DCB told them I cut his dinosaur up and threw it away on purpose. I explained to DCM what actually happened but she is going with her lying kid. I also explained to her that he told me he was going to have his father beat me up and when I said that I didn't think his Dad would hit a girl he said Dad hits Mom which I didn't believe for a second. Apparently I don't get the same respect.

The upside is that I just signed a new family today that is starting Monday so I was going to give them two week notice once the new family actually started so this works out fine but it still annoys me that DCM believes a kid she knows damn well is a liar.

[Thriftylady]

So happy you are rid of them! As long as mom doesn't try to end the behavior it will get worse.

[Leigh]

So I have this new family that started about a month ago. They 2 year old DCB is...well...2 so not great, not the worst. His almost 4 year old brother is a TOTALLY different story. From the word go it has been nothing but tantrums and freshness and threats of violence. They are new to daycare so I was trying to give them a little time to adjust but was fast reaching the point of no return. Well yesterday older DCB brought toys from home which is a big no no here. I took the toys away when I saw they were here and put them in his cubby and told him he could have them back when he left. He threw a fit and got a time out and then kept going over and taking the toys out of the cubby. He did this two times and then I told him if he touched them again I was throwing them away. Of course, he did so I put the one he took on the top of the trash and put him on time out next to me as I made lunch. When I was laying the kids down for their naps after lunch my son took the trash out and the toy with it. It was a little plastic dinosaur and I explained it to DCD and offered to replace it and he said it was fine and to not worry about it. FF to today when I get a message from DCM that she will be picking up their stuff this weekend because she is withdrawing them. Older DCB told them I cut his dinosaur up and threw it away on purpose. I explained to DCM what actually happened but she is going with her lying kid. I also explained to her that he told me he was going to have his father beat me up and when I said that I didn't think his Dad would hit a girl he said Dad hits Mom which I didn't believe for a second. Apparently I don't get the same respect.

The upside is that I just signed a new family today that is starting Monday so I was going to give them two week notice once the new family actually started so this works out fine but it still annoys me that DCM believes a kid she knows damn well is a liar.

I would have made NO excuses for the toy. I would have flat out told Mom that her contract states that toys from home are not allowed, and that if I confiscate any, they go straight to the trash can. I'd have told her to make sure he didn't bring any more toys to daycare that are important to him.

You're lucky they're on their way out-congrats!

[Josiegirl]

Hope dcm learns ds isn't always truthful. A lot of kids tell fibs and lies, if she takes everything he says as gospel, they've got trouble.
So sorry it made you feel bad but please know it all ended up for the best result. Hold your head high and know you did nothing wrong.

[Unregistered]

sooooo annoyed

If the items that from home make it past the front door it's understood they are to be shared not hogged. If there is any trouble whatever over toy from home I put it outside the front door. They can take it home when they leave.

[Play Care]

If the items that from home make it past the front door it's understood they are to be shared not hogged. If there is any trouble whatever over toy from home I put it outside the front door. They can take it home when they leave.

I know why, but I don't love the idea of threatening to toss toys in the trash. I like the idea of putting it outside the door and locking the door/gating it off.

It does sound as though this kid needs an environment that doesn't allow him to be out of sight for a moment.

[Heidi]

I just put the toys up out of reach, but I've also never had a child do what this kiddo did. They'd maybe make a fuss, but even the biggest stinkers never actually defied me and took toys back out. If I suspected that were even a thought, I'd put it out of reach-no chance to fail then.

As for OP...happyfacehappyfacehappyfacehappyface Yeah, for you!

Also, please call your regulator and give him/her a heads up. Always a good idea when a parent reacts that way.