I have a dcg5 and dcb3. They get along well usually. One issue that keeps cropping up is tattling.
Dcg5 loves to tattle to me when dcb3 is doing something he shouldn't. I have no problems handling this when it happens here btwn the dcks. Usually I just tell her it is my job to worry about that and it is her job to go play. I monitor what goes on in their play and step in when needed.
By 4 pm, dcg has had it. She is tired and ready to go home. Little things will set her off and usually result in tears. At pick up on Tuesday, she was upset b/c dcb was having his turn on a toy. Dcm came at that lovely moment and was worried about what was going on. I was instructing dcg to exit the porch (to go to dcm) and dcm was telling her to come over and tell her what was wrong. Lots of snuggles and tears, followed by dcm saying "Let's get out of here and go home."
I am not heartless however I also do not play into drama. I will wait until they calm down and address the situation then.
This is my problem family so I am not getting overly worked up about this as I am actively trying to replace them, however do not need *more* issues with this family in the meantime.
So Wednesday morning (yesterday) at drop off, dcg informed dcb that he should not talk to her the way he did yesterday b/c it upset her. To me, the issue was done, however I let it go, but thinking to myself that there was probably much discussion in their house last night and probably this morning if it was still on her mind.
Through the day, Wednesday, there were some squabbles that resulted in me separating them from each other "taking a break" and then regrouping and trying again. (we have been talking about how it is ok to need some alone time now and then)
They played really well until late afternoon. When dcg did not get her way, she would tell dcb that she was going to tell her mom when she came to pick her up. I squashed that right away and told her that there is no tattling at my house PERIOD and that if she would like to talk with her mom about it she needs to wait until she gets home.
So when dcm came to pick up, dcm asked me 3 times how the day was. Fine was how I answered each time. Not engaging this at all. Because it was a fine day. She made a snarky remark about the dcb (her son, who I sent home b/c of needles, yes that family!) when I asked her how he was feeling and they left.
So.... today I plan to handle this the same way. Remind dcg of my rule of no tattling at my house, not talking to dcb like that, and will speak up at pick up if dcg starts tattling to her mom before they leave.
Would you handle anything differently? Maybe email mom if something happens again, reminding her of my policy that what's done is done (that she never read
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Dcg5 loves to tattle to me when dcb3 is doing something he shouldn't. I have no problems handling this when it happens here btwn the dcks. Usually I just tell her it is my job to worry about that and it is her job to go play. I monitor what goes on in their play and step in when needed.
By 4 pm, dcg has had it. She is tired and ready to go home. Little things will set her off and usually result in tears. At pick up on Tuesday, she was upset b/c dcb was having his turn on a toy. Dcm came at that lovely moment and was worried about what was going on. I was instructing dcg to exit the porch (to go to dcm) and dcm was telling her to come over and tell her what was wrong. Lots of snuggles and tears, followed by dcm saying "Let's get out of here and go home."
I am not heartless however I also do not play into drama. I will wait until they calm down and address the situation then.
This is my problem family so I am not getting overly worked up about this as I am actively trying to replace them, however do not need *more* issues with this family in the meantime.
So Wednesday morning (yesterday) at drop off, dcg informed dcb that he should not talk to her the way he did yesterday b/c it upset her. To me, the issue was done, however I let it go, but thinking to myself that there was probably much discussion in their house last night and probably this morning if it was still on her mind.
Through the day, Wednesday, there were some squabbles that resulted in me separating them from each other "taking a break" and then regrouping and trying again. (we have been talking about how it is ok to need some alone time now and then)
They played really well until late afternoon. When dcg did not get her way, she would tell dcb that she was going to tell her mom when she came to pick her up. I squashed that right away and told her that there is no tattling at my house PERIOD and that if she would like to talk with her mom about it she needs to wait until she gets home.
So when dcm came to pick up, dcm asked me 3 times how the day was. Fine was how I answered each time. Not engaging this at all. Because it was a fine day. She made a snarky remark about the dcb (her son, who I sent home b/c of needles, yes that family!) when I asked her how he was feeling and they left.
So.... today I plan to handle this the same way. Remind dcg of my rule of no tattling at my house, not talking to dcb like that, and will speak up at pick up if dcg starts tattling to her mom before they leave.
Would you handle anything differently? Maybe email mom if something happens again, reminding her of my policy that what's done is done (that she never read

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