Kids With Long Days Away From Parents

[momma2girls]

my hours are 8-4.....I am only open for school days and teacher work days.
Reading the previous posts, I feel so sorry for the kids whose parents bring them to dc on days off rather than spend that time with them. I really can't imagine having kids if I didn't want to raise them up myself!!:confused:

My teachers that I have, barely get here by 4:30 everyday!

[momma2girls]

I thought the same thing, then my son died of sids in daycare. I don't think that anymore.

I am so so sorry for you and your loss!! How awful!!

[legomom922]

I am so so sorry for you and your loss!! How awful!!

So sorry....

My son died at birth for a short while..however was brought back by some wonderful Drs..after that, I changed my way of thinking. The fulltime I was supposed to go back to? Ha! NOT! I decided to to do parttime nights instead, and I do not regret it whatsoever. I got to see all of his firsts, and I was there for him every single day, and still am now even though he will be 15 soon. I went on all of his field trips, and volunteered in his classrooms, had lunch with him at school. I did what I had to do to spend the most quality time with my son. everything else was put on hold. I learned to live within my means. No new car, no new clothes, BUT my son had everything. He was my priority. I remember needing a purse sooo badly, but instead of buying one for myself, I stapled it instead, and my son got a toy with the money I would have used on a purse. IMO, its a matter of priorities, and what you value more. Money means nothing to me, but time with my son, meant the world...especially since it was time I almost lost...

[QualiTcare]

I'm sure kids die equally in home and at daycare of SIDS but I'm getting the message from catherder that it is the loss of the time she could have had with him that she is referring to. I think we all bank on having enough time later rather than realizing that time should be spent today and NEVER banked until later. If I had been in catherders position, I would have added possible loss of limited time to my? "con list" IMMEDIATELY when faced with that decision again.

So sorry for your loss catherder. That is one situation NO parent should ever have to deal with.

yeah, but the point is being turned into an entirely different "what if" topic. everyone banks on having time later. otherwise, we'd never leave the house because "what if" we were to be hit by a car and our children would be left without a parent?

i chose to use daycare full time instead of part time, banking on the prospect that the rest of our lives would be better for it. it worked out as i planned. if i had to do it over, i wouldn't change anything.

[Live and Learn]

My teachers that I have, barely get here by 4:30 everyday!

Our property touches one school yard, is 1 block from another, 1 mile from 2 others, and 2 miles from another....TEACHER CENTRAL::! And no commute time!

[Blackcat31]

yeah, but the point is being turned into an entirely different "what if" topic. everyone banks on having time later. otherwise, we'd never leave the house because "what if" we were to be hit by a car and our children would be left without a parent?

i chose to use daycare full time instead of part time, banking on the prospect that the rest of our lives would be better for it. it worked out as i planned. if i had to do it over, i wouldn't change anything.

You are right...we can't live in "what if...."
But, had I personally gone through what catherder did and was faced with the decision to stay or go a second time, I would think differently, but since most of us haven't had to choose a second time, I can see where you are coming from...we can't live in the "what if" or we wouldn't leave the house....ever. Point taken.

[QualiTcare]

My teachers that I have, barely get here by 4:30 everyday!

i RARELY left school before 4:00 - it was usually later and that was only because i could take things home to work on.

[Cat Herder]

yeah, but the point is being turned into an entirely different "what if" topic. everyone banks on having time later. otherwise, we'd never leave the house because "what if" we were to be hit by a car and our children would be left without a parent?

i chose to use daycare full time instead of part time, banking on the prospect that the rest of our lives would be better for it. it worked out as i planned. if i had to do it over, i wouldn't change anything.

Glad your choice worked out for you, mine did not. Again, that is not my opinion. I was not debating it with you just stating a fact.

Geeze, did I date someones husband back in high school on this forum or something??? Feels like everything is a debate, attack.....or argument.

Thank you everyone else that understood my point. Everyone has to make the decision that makes the most sense to them, individually. It really comes down to what is most important to you.


Nan,
He was 5 1/2 months old, was in a home daycare, 3/1 provider ratio, and slept in a standard crib. He was able to roll over, get on his hands/knees and rock back and forth. Sleep position was not involved.

[dEHmom]

Geeze, did I date someones husband back in high school on this forum or something??? Feels like everything is a debate, attack.....or argument.

Agreed!

Everyone has to make the decision that makes the most sense to them, individually. It really comes down to what is most important to you.

Agreed!

He was 5 1/2 months old, was in a home daycare, 3/1 provider ratio, and slept in a standard crib. He was able to roll over, get on his hands/knees and rock back and forth. Sleep position was not involved.

So sorry to hear that Catherder, Sorry if I missed it, but how long ago was that? And I'm not trying to be nosy, or anything like that but also, was there smoking in the house?
Something just doesn't seemto add up to me if he was able to do all that.
A friend of mine, her friend had a baby that was 18 mths old, he died in his sleep. Apparently it was a seizure. Is SIDS also instances where maybe high fevers go unnoticed and seizures happen? Or similar?

[Cat Herder]

So sorry to hear that Catherder, Sorry if I missed it, but how long ago was that? And I'm not trying to be nosy, or anything like that but also, was there smoking in the house?
Something just doesn't seemto add up to me if he was able to do all that.
A friend of mine, her friend had a baby that was 18 mths old, he died in his sleep. Apparently it was a seizure. Is SIDS also instances where maybe high fevers go unnoticed and seizures happen? Or similar?

No, believe me no stone was unturned. Without too many details, my family is well connected medically/legally and there was no foul play OR unknown medical issue.

Thank you, though, sincerely for your concern. Those were my (and my whole family's) exact thoughts and fears at the time.

I am moving on to another subject, though, since this one obviously is a difficult one for me.