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What's wrong with different?? Maybe she really did have a bad experience. I have 4 kids and worry about all of them when they are facing something new, especially if their last experience was not positive. I think that's normal, not different. But I digress...
I would not accommodate her request. At least, not to the degree she asked for. I would allow her half an hour or so in the mornings and the same in the evenings as long as she understood that the time she spent here would really be more for her than her child. SHE is insecure, and that could easily project onto her child if she hovered all day. Her mistrust could also make her child mistrustful and that's no way to begin this relationship. She needs to understand that this arrangement would probably make things a little harder for her child. It may make things easier for mom, but it shouldn't be about her.
Leaving her child is likely the hardest thing she's ever done. I think cutting her a little slack is perfectly acceptable, as long as she's aware of the above implications and that you won't allow it to go on longer than a few days.
I would not accommodate her request. At least, not to the degree she asked for. I would allow her half an hour or so in the mornings and the same in the evenings as long as she understood that the time she spent here would really be more for her than her child. SHE is insecure, and that could easily project onto her child if she hovered all day. Her mistrust could also make her child mistrustful and that's no way to begin this relationship. She needs to understand that this arrangement would probably make things a little harder for her child. It may make things easier for mom, but it shouldn't be about her.
Leaving her child is likely the hardest thing she's ever done. I think cutting her a little slack is perfectly acceptable, as long as she's aware of the above implications and that you won't allow it to go on longer than a few days.
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