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This thread reminded me that 2 years ago when I worked at a center we had a fun day and pony rides. No one. I mean no mean checked into libility issues. This center was terrible and just did whatever they felt like.
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This is such an odd request. Are we as daycare providers going to be the only ones creating memories for these children? Wow! Parents expecting to have birthday parties at daycare? I can't even wrap my head around this?Comment
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That's what I was saying to my DH a few days ago. Kids are at daycare longer hours, and the expectations of all these extra things that "should" happen at daycare BECAUSE of how much time they spend here is ridiculous! Where does it end? Is it going to get worse, or will it cycle around again soon to a more family-oriented way of thinking?
Birthday parties, holiday parties and traditions, seasonal activities, milestones...I feel like a lot of people are content and even expect it to happen at daycare and school. Aww, that makes me sad for the little ones.
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Don't get me wrong -
as a parent and Mrs. Frizzle like provider it sounds SO FUN!
as the daughter of two lawyers...not so muchComment
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If DCG has a hard time making friends outside of daycare then it does make sense that the parents want to do something spectacular to impress the few friends she does have. I don't think their initial intent is to show off to the daycare parents and make the DCKS jealous; but more of an attempt to make her seem cooler to her friends KWIM (which still isn't healthy). Though I don't doubt that some parents will do that.They live in an apartment and the Dcks are her only friends. Most of families just do a party here, to which the parents are welcome since most don't have outside friends
Yes the insurance is definitely a deal breaker!
I have very funny request I might start posting them, it can be pretty funny!
I would suggest they see if the pony place has an area where they can have the party on their own time and so the pony wont be as easily spooked in familiar surroundings. And yes, I am a crazy animal lady, and I personally don't agree with exploiting animals by using them as a rented party decoration of sorts for a medium to large group of young kids that may not know how to properly treat large animals, wind up spooking them and can increase safety issues. If you do have a party at your house it can be pony themed for her friends and afterwords her parents can take her to the stalls to visit/ride the pony (quality family time/experience and not as overwhelming for the pony).
Another bonus the parents may not have realized is when you start off with one great party, the next year there is pressure to out do yourself and after a while the child and their friends expect it. The same thing may work two years in a row, but after a few years it grows stale.
And yes, I just recently moved out of California after living there all my life and alot of people in CA do like to show off; especially with the new hipster parent trends of people who want everything to be a big show: baby shower, grandma showers, gender reveal parties, comming home parties, 1000+ new pics of baby on Facebook everyday (wearing the same clothes and having almost the same expression in most).
People say having kids is supposed to make you less selfish; but nowadays most parents are still self-centered; it's just expanded to include their new baby (who they see as an extension of themselves) that they insist is more special and different from any baby that has ever been concieve since the beginning of time. Every parent thinks their child is special on some level, but some go to extremes of just utter ridiculousness about it.
I know some of my opinions aren't popular, but I figure everyone on this site seems to hate me already, so I got nothing to lose by giving my two cents.Comment
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The daycare kids being her only friends is not a valid reason. They can easily bring invitations for all the daycare kids to come to her party outside of daycare.
Elementary schools don't host the students parties. Why should the daycare?Comment
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The whole "friend" excuse/line got me thinking....
Why do kids even have to have "friends" outside of family when they are under 5 anyways....
I don't remember having friends, other than my siblings and neighborhood kids until I went to school.
When you think about it, it's kind of silly...... :
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I want to needle-point this and put it on my wall. I down-sized my daycare while I go to school and hear so many concerns from parents that their infants and toddlers won't have as many "friends" since my ratio is so low. Parents project so many of their own issues on to their children.The whole "friend" excuse/line got me thinking....
Why do kids even have to have "friends" outside of family when they are under 5 anyways....
I don't remember having friends, other than my siblings and neighborhood kids until I went to school.
When you think about it, it's kind of silly...... ::Comment
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She's in daycare, not 96...there is time for her dream to come true at other birthdays and on someone else's liability policy.Comment
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I see everyones point and is true that is a big liability responsibility, because of that and because the kids might be disappointed at the next party I will not do it. But I can't help but feel bad!
I feel like I need to mention that the parents of this little one are truly wonderful, they never think twice about keeping her home when she does not feel well, spend a lot of time with her doing fun things and I believe because she is a single child that they did not realize how much envy the others might feel. She is still doing to have a very special birthday with her family, and the parents are going to be present at daycare doing her birthday.
I do each child birthday here and the parents are always welcome, it does give us a lot of work but since we are a small group is manageable and the kids have a strong bond
I also do realize that some parents can be divas
There is a family to whom I would have said no right away because I know their intentions would not be as kind (will wanna show off:roll eyes
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My older 2s and 3s always talked about the other DCKs at home.. How they wanted to play with them, go to their house, etc. I'm assuming this is what they mean by friends??The whole "friend" excuse/line got me thinking....
Why do kids even have to have "friends" outside of family when they are under 5 anyways....
I don't remember having friends, other than my siblings and neighborhood kids until I went to school.
When you think about it, it's kind of silly...... ::
Now that I'm closed, I'll check in with parents occasionally and they are always telling me how their child is constantly taking about so and so and how they want to play with them.Comment
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Well just when I thought I'd heard it all..... ::
NO. No ponies at daycare.Comment
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Oh good grief....what's next? A Blue Angels fly-over for the 3 year old that likes planes?Comment
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