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I ok I have posted about my problem DCM and the DCG who will scream all of nap time. Mom is interviewing a new provider tomorrow in the town she works in and I am find with that. I talked to DH last night, because of all the issues but I really felt I would just term her, not even consider another week, the first week we just had is my trial week. But we really need the money, mom and dad are a hot mess but other than the napping thing, DCG is a charm. So DH suggested I keep them on if they decide to stay IF they follow my policies and she sign a "sleep training" plan, so that baby will no longer be held in the recliner all night while her and mom sleep at home. Has anyone ever written anything like this? How would I enforce it?
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Nah
They won't do it.
This is the last thing I would term for or even bring up.
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13 months, but it is along with a host of other issues. I really don't want to keep the family at all, and they may not be back anyway. But we really need the money, my only full time kiddo. Kiddo is great, after week one this last week, mom already tried to get me to do next week and wait until next Friday for pay. I told her "we have talked about this", she said "I know but..." I stopped her there. I gave her an extension on payment until Sunday at 5 PM partially because I am on the fence on continuing to work with mom and dad or not and wanted some time to think it over.Comment
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How COULD you enforce it? Do YOU want to spend the night with them? If someone is shopping for another provider, why would you want to put yourself through the trouble? It seems to me that they are getting a new provider, even if this next interview doesn't pan out, I think they'll keep looking. I wouldn't put any more effort into it.Comment
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I am kind of thinking the same thing. I know they are shopping for someone who will let them do a week without prepaying. I have a feeling these parents are going to be going through a lot of providers unless they find a pushover with no policies and will let them get in debt. I really just don't want to be part of that.Comment
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then don't. I know its the harder choice to give up the income, but even if mom signs a piece of paper there is no way for you to know (or really to dictate) what they do at 1am. They are going to do what is easiest for them. Sounds like you already anticipate them having issues with payments as well? I would just let them go.Comment
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Well Friday she told me she wouldn't have this weeks payment until next Friday. I informed her that 1.then DCG couldn't come this week and 2.not to forget her $10 a day late fees. She flipped and started the "but what if..." and I stopped her. So regardless of the fact she told me she was interviewing someone in the town she works in because it would be easier for her, I don't think that is the reason. I gave her until 5 PM today to either pay me, or clean out her cubby. I almost think dad will show up here tomorrow with no payment. I am not playing that game.Comment
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UPdATE:
DCG is asleep as I type this. She screamed almost all of naptime, with me watching her with the playroom door open, where her PNP is. She finally sat down (been jumping up and down in PNP) and gave in and went to sleep. Technically, nap is over, but I am going to allow her to sleep. I am hoping things will keep getting easier for nap from here.Comment
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Yes, never wake a sleeping baby!
Just be consistent. It may take time, but little one will learn how naps work at your home. I have had babies who were co sleeped from birth to 3yo at home, but learned to sleep in a pac n play when layed down here within a month. Its work though.Comment
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Well she only slept for 20 minutes, I have no idea what woke her.:confused: But I figure it is progress. Mom told me today she also gets a bottle to go to sleep at home. Sigh.Yes, never wake a sleeping baby!
Just be consistent. It may take time, but little one will learn how naps work at your home. I have had babies who were co sleeped from birth to 3yo at home, but learned to sleep in a pac n play when layed down here within a month. Its work though.Comment
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I am going to keep updating this for the next time I start second guessing myself. She slept an hour today. Cried for the first hour of nap, then went to sleep just like yesterday only slept longer. I am hoping it goes even better tomorrow.Comment
Sometimes the smart choice isn't the easy choice. :hug:
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