Parents Who Can't Get Their Kids To Do Things

[Blackcat31]

"I can't get my kid to..." It's the biggest excuse of all, for not wanting to put in the time necessary to set and enforce limits and give the child some structure!

It translates into "I am lazy" or "I do not want to make them cry"

Either version is unacceptable.

[Thriftylady]

It translates into "I am lazy" or "I do not want to make them cry"

Either version is unacceptable.

Yeah when I see it, as with the current daycare mom it is "I can't take the screaming". My thought always is "yeah so you teach her/him that by screaming they get their way, way to stop the screaming!"

[Gemma]

I don't know which is worse, the laziness, or the ignorance some parents display! Many seem to think that they can recover the lost time later, few years down the line when the kid is older .

[jgcp]

Toys from home? I keep them. Seriously I do. I will NOT return them either. Parents know AND agree to this upon enrollment. If they test me, they will find out pretty quickly that I do not make promises I cannot keep.

OMG i LOVE this!!! I will take things from the kids in front of the parents if i have to but i should just keep it F-O-R-E-V-E-R!!!::::::

I really cant stand when parents use this line, and no it dosnt matter what age they are, one dcm says this to me about my own ds all the time, Guess what i dont care how old he is, shes not going to like it very much when her dd is the one getting hit by him?? Ppl are so dence and ignorant it makes me throw up a little

[grateday]

It translates into "I am lazy" or "I do not want to make them cry"

Either version is unacceptable.

I have a parent struggling with this. Goes back and forth and has a school age kiddo that has some behavior problems. Parent swears that ilthey don't let the kids get away with stuff at home. I am seeing a lot of entitlement in the younger child and it irritates me. Child wants childcare to be like home and I wont allow it. I just don't agree with that style of free reign it is too dangerous especially in childcare. Child's parents let them get and eat however much whenever they want. Kids getting diarrhea and parent is like whatever they just ate toonmuch oil. I am just more upset because kids don't run things. I know if I brought stuff up to this parent she would just take her kid out of daycare slowly like wean her out. If I brought up the lack of parenting specifically behavior related to the degree I want to it might jet be the end. She refuses to try with the youngest and is trying to work on oldest.. Thank goodness for that dad of there's he is the backbone. I do love the child but I don't know what planet mom is on.

[blessed mom]

I have a parent struggling with this. Goes back and forth and has a school age kiddo that has some behavior problems. Parent swears that ilthey don't let the kids get away with stuff at home. I am seeing a lot of entitlement in the younger child and it irritates me. Child wants childcare to be like home and I wont allow it. I just don't agree with that style of free reign it is too dangerous especially in childcare. Child's parents let them get and eat however much whenever they want. Kids getting diarrhea and parent is like whatever they just ate toonmuch oil. I am just more upset because kids don't run things. I know if I brought stuff up to this parent she would just take her kid out of daycare slowly like wean her out. If I brought up the lack of parenting specifically behavior related to the degree I want to it might jet be the end. She refuses to try with the youngest and is trying to work on oldest.. Thank goodness for that dad of there's he is the backbone. I do love the child but I don't know what planet mom is on.

I have often told my parents the rules are 1) To keep kids safe and 2) To prepare them for school (I also do preschool). I've found that many kids adjust...are well behaved and know boundaries at my house and then go back to out of control when parents come. Same deal if there is split custody...often the Monday of dad's turn kid comes back a hot mess and screaming...hitting...jumping on the couch...etc. It doesn't take long for them to remember..."Oh ya this is the house with consequences if I don't obey"

I still have parents whose whole parenting philosophy is she "won't let me" do....such and such. I say "why are you allowing it? Train her to do as she's told the first time (I don't do counting)" but the parents still fall back to same old patterns no matter what they realize after our talk. As frustrating as this is I've resigned myself to allow it as long as the kid is in line at my house. It still grates on me...like nails on a chalkboard but...part of the job. In my experience so many parents are lazy...just do what's necessary to shut the kid up...I need to work so there ya go. Just be good here kid and all will go fabulously!

Then I can come here and vent! I had completely forgotten this place as my hubby has school after work and hogs the computer! LOL!