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  • Thriftylady
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2014
    • 5884

    So I have some work to do

    New DCG is 12 months (almost 13). Mom told me to begin with that she co sleeps with her because she needs her sleep and she can't take the screaming. She is right about the screaming, DCG jumped up and down in the PNP and screamed for an hour and a half yesterday. When I would go lay her back down and talk to her she would quit, but as soon as I walked away it would start again. Yesterday was only day two, but do I have any chance of success here?

    Next two problems, DCG still on bottle at home, I told mom not to bring one here, I don't offer bottles over 12 months unless medically needed. This girl will drink out of a sippy cup IF I hold it for her, she will make no attempt to even hold it herself. She will pick it up by the rim with one hand and hand it to me for me to give her a drink. And she has no clue how to feed herself. Yesterday I had to teach her to feed herself cheerios.

    I really need to keep this family at least until I can get another family. But it is like having a 3 month old that walks. Any advice very much appreciated.
  • Gemma
    Childcare Provider
    • Mar 2015
    • 1277

    #2
    I would lay her down once, telling her it's time to sleep, then lay her down the next time without talking to her...I would do this a few times the first few days, then cut down gradually to only lay her down once, then walk away and let her cry

    I think she can learn that THAT's how things are at your place, regardless what mom does at home, if you set a routine now, and keep it consistent!
    :hug:

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    • Thriftylady
      Daycare.com Member
      • Aug 2014
      • 5884

      #3
      Originally posted by Gemma
      I would lay her down once, telling her it's time to sleep, then lay her down the next time without talking to her...I would do this a few times the first few days, then cut down gradually to only lay her down once, then walk away and let her cry

      I think she can learn that THAT's how things are at your place, regardless what mom does at home, if you set a routine now, and keep it consistent!
      :hug:
      That is kind of what I was thinking, I guess I just wanted someone to confirm it for me. I'm always second guessing myself it seems.

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      • Gemma
        Childcare Provider
        • Mar 2015
        • 1277

        #4
        Originally posted by Thriftylady
        That is kind of what I was thinking, I guess I just wanted someone to confirm it for me. I'm always second guessing myself it seems.
        I've experienced it with all of the kids I cared for, if I'm consistent, they do in time adjust to the way they're expected to do things at my house, regardless what they get at home! ....the younger the kid, usually the less time it takes, so if you show her your routine and stick to it, I think she'll soon be ok with it
        good luck!:hug:

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        • Thriftylady
          Daycare.com Member
          • Aug 2014
          • 5884

          #5
          Originally posted by Gemma
          I've experienced it with all of the kids I cared for, if I'm consistent, they do in time adjust to the way they're expected to do things at my house, regardless what they get at home! ....the younger the kid, usually the less time it takes, so if you show her your routine and stick to it, I think she'll soon be ok with it
          good luck!:hug:
          I guess part of my issue is this mother. She wants everything just so so. She originally told me I had to rock DCG to sleep. I told her I wouldn't do that, it couldn't be done in group care and she gave in. I guess it ****s right now, because we are desperate for the money. But mom can leave if she wants I guess. I really doubt she will though she was having issues finding care she can afford. I was licensed in Kansas, and always full but I lived in a bigger city. Here we live in a tiny town. My rates are low, at least for now until I get going better.

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          • hsdcmama
            Daycare.com Member
            • Aug 2014
            • 106

            #6
            I had a 10-month-old that would do the screaming in the pnp thing too; just stay consistent & it will work itself out. Little man would pop his head up & cry, cry, cry the first week he was here. I would go in & lay him back down a couple times, but then I let him work it out. Each day the fussing was less & less and now he lays right down with no issues at all.

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            • Thriftylady
              Daycare.com Member
              • Aug 2014
              • 5884

              #7
              Originally posted by hsdcmama
              I had a 10-month-old that would do the screaming in the pnp thing too; just stay consistent & it will work itself out. Little man would pop his head up & cry, cry, cry the first week he was here. I would go in & lay him back down a couple times, but then I let him work it out. Each day the fussing was less & less and now he lays right down with no issues at all.
              See I know it works, I did this with my grandson and he still throws a fit at bedtime at home and goes right down here. I don't know why this feels so different .

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              • Shell
                Daycare.com Member
                • Jul 2013
                • 1765

                #8
                Originally posted by hsdcmama
                I had a 10-month-old that would do the screaming in the pnp thing too; just stay consistent & it will work itself out. Little man would pop his head up & cry, cry, cry the first week he was here. I would go in & lay him back down a couple times, but then I let him work it out. Each day the fussing was less & less and now he lays right down with no issues at all.

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                • Thriftylady
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Aug 2014
                  • 5884

                  #9
                  So I moved nap to 1:30 because this DCG comes in at 1. Dad come in today and says "she just had an hour nap". How am I supposed to sleep train her if they do that? I told him he can't do that anymore. And mom didn't want to sign my permission slip for activities because she "wasn't comfortable with me taking DCG in the car". That is fine I don't really anyway most times so I rewrote it for her to walks only, but she still hasn't returned it. Is it just me or is this not going well at all?

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                  • Thriftylady
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Aug 2014
                    • 5884

                    #10
                    Ok another question. I went ahead and laid her down because she wouldn't quit crying anyway. Yesterday she never did nap, I got her up because nap time was over. Today if she keeps crying do I still get her up when naptime is over. Part of me says yes, because it is over. The other part of me says I am just teaching her if she screams long enough she wins. I have never had one this stubborn.

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