PJs at dc. letter to offending parents

[Unregistered]

It's too late, as I gave already sent this, but just looking for your opinions. Did this sound harsh or okay? These parents can't handle their three year old and cater to his every whim. It is ridiculous. The kid has major tantrums at home and gets whatever he wants. He doesn't pull that crap with me because it doesn't get him anywhere. I am certain they just want me to do it because they don't want to deal with his tantrums.

Hi xxx,

I have been debating on whether to talk to you guys about L coming to daycare in pajamas or not.

As mentioned in the handbook, children need to come to daycare dressed for the day. I am 100% okay with pajamas, but I am not okay with the expectation that is my responsibility to dress him in his clothes so he can go outside. I will do it today, only because he has feetie pajamas on, but from this point forward, L needs to be dressed in clothes that he can fully function in, indoors and out. If that includes pajamas, I am fine with that, however short of having an accident and wetting himself, I won't be changing him into regular clothing.

Thank you for your understanding and cooperation.

K

What do you think? Should I be expecting any arguments that I may need to be prepared for?

[Martha Stewart]

Sometimes, i also take the path of least resistance - as a mom. I let my kids sleep in their clothes, wear a PJ top under a t-shirt to school, etc. It's just flame retardant clothing, you know? I understand why not footies, but if a kiddo wants to wear PJ's all day, I don't see a problem.

As a mom, i think I'd be a tad miffed getting this note. As a provider, i completely understand your not wanting to change the kid, and footie jammies are not outdoor wear.

[Meeko]

It's in your handbook that kids come dressed for the day. His parents must abide by that. A note telling them that is not out of line.

[Thriftylady]

I think you had to say something, as children need to come to care ready to participate in activities.

[NightOwl]

I think it's totally fine. You point out that pajamas are fine, just not the footie kind because he can't go outside in those. I wouldn't be offended. I'd be embarrassed that I let my kid run the show and someone called me out on it. Good for you.

[crazydaycarelady]

At 3yo I would think he could get himself dressed for the most part? I probably wouldn't have said anything and just had the kid stat dressing himself.

[finsup]

I would have said it too. I'm not a fan of wearing pajamas as clothes anyways but getting the child dressed is where I would draw the line too. Even if the kid can get dressed in his own it should be done at home. The only time I'd consider it is if I had a dck come super early (like 4-5am, rare that I would ever do that but in that case, OK, send their clothes ).

[rosieteddy]

Short and sweet -As stated in handbook ....child needs to arrive dressed for the day .No pajamas allowed .That is what I would hand to parent no if and or buts. The less they hear /read the better.I ran into this a long time ago next thing I knew everyone wanted to come in pj's. We as providers have enough to do parents need to dress and feed their children before arrival is my take.

[Blackcat31]

Sometimes, i also take the path of least resistance - as a mom. I let my kids sleep in their clothes, wear a PJ top under a t-shirt to school, etc. It's just flame retardant clothing, you know? I understand why not footies, but if a kiddo wants to wear PJ's all day, I don't see a problem.

As a mom, i think I'd be a tad miffed getting this note. As a provider, i completely understand your not wanting to change the kid, and footie jammies are not outdoor wear.

:confused: Seriously?

The provider isn't dictating to the parents what the child can and can't wear, she is saying she won't take over a PARENTAL responsibility .

As a parent, I'd be EMBARRASSED getting a note like this...as I rightfully should feel if I couldn't manage my child.

OP~ I think your letter sounds great and that it is absolutely necessary. All too many parents get a free pass when it comes to regular daily activities that are required as a parent. If I decided to let my child live in PJ's, that's my prerogative but never in a million years would I expect my provider to have to dress my child after dropping off.

Maybe it's just me but I don't offer those types of services to daycare families. It is NOT part of the array or things I offer.

[NightOwl]

:confused: Seriously?

The provider isn't dictating to the parents what the child can and can't wear, she is saying she won't take over a PARENTAL responsibility .

As a parent, I'd be EMBARRASSED getting a note like this...as I rightfully should feel if I couldn't manage my child.

OP~ I think your letter sounds great and that it is absolutely necessary. All too many parents get a free pass when it comes to regular daily activities that are required as a parent. If I decided to let my child live in PJ's, that's my prerogative but never in a million years would I expect my provider to have to dress my child after dropping off.

Maybe it's just me but I don't offer those types of services to daycare families. It is NOT part of the array or things I offer.

[Gemma]

:confused: Seriously?

The provider isn't dictating to the parents what the child can and can't wear, she is saying she won't take over a PARENTAL responsibility .

As a parent, I'd be EMBARRASSED getting a note like this...as I rightfully should feel if I couldn't manage my child.

OP~ I think your letter sounds great and that it is absolutely necessary. All too many parents get a free pass when it comes to regular daily activities that are required as a parent. If I decided to let my child live in PJ's, that's my prerogative but never in a million years would I expect my provider to have to dress my child after dropping off.

Maybe it's just me but I don't offer those types of services to daycare families. It is NOT part of the array or things I offer.

I think if the kid was younger maybe I'd be more understanding, but a 3yr old, I expect dressed ready to function for the whole day!

[Sugar Magnolia]

I'd have this convetsation face to face, with my serious face on. No letter, no email, unless there was continued violation. Then it would be in a two weeks probation letter.

[Unregistered]

Op here. So i am trying to make him dress himself and he is soooooo lazy, he refuses and is just laying there. I'm not doing it. I know he can, but because his parents do so much (even handing him something that is RIGHT beside him - true story), he is weaker at these skills than he should be. It's ridiculous. Even the other three yo tries to do it for him, not that I am allowing it.
Why don't parents understand tgat tgey are not helping their kids in the long run? I would love to be a fly on the wall in a few years. Lol

[laundrymom]

I would have popped shoes over the pj feet And called it good.

[daycare]

i think i have come to a point in all of years of doing this that I have had to adopt this saying..


I will not be responsible for the way that you feel..............


I guess part of me has just quit caring and as bad as that sounds, I actually feel so much better about things. I don't stress over all the little things like i used to,