Pleeeaase Heeelp............

[mickey2]

I had one that would do the very same thing - scream during nap, and if I peeked in on him, would scream louder. If I went in to lay him back down he was standing back up before I even got to the door, 2 feet away. I gave up even going in there. Before nap I would make sure he ate well and had a fresh diaper. No need to go in every 2 minutes to make sure he's okay when he's really just angry and wants to scream. Drove me crazy.

Exactly! The child is just upset and trying to get his way but I still need to go in and check every 5 minutes or so to be sure they really are okay. Imagine if you did not check because he is "quiet" and you do not want to disturb him or set him off again and there really is a problem. Could be a 1 out of 100 chance but sorry, not on my watch is anything ever going to happen to a child in my care if I can help it! I check OFTEN! I have had babies for 30 years now and they never cease to amaze me in what they can actually get into (or out of!) I do a walk around and go right up to each child's face every 10-15 minutes every single day during nap time.
With children you never know. Anything can happen to them. I don't give up. Nap time is nap time and if I have to lie them back down 200 times then I will do it. The next day it may be 150 times and then the next down to 100. Eventually they will get the message and go to sleep and I will have my rest.

[ninosqueridos]

I'd probably try one nap right in the middle of the current two naptimes...... And then slooooowly move the one naptime to the same time that everyone else sleeps in the afternoon. I have one the same age........and he screams loudly if I go back in. I just put the video monitor on him so I don't need to go back in all the time.

I find that lately, if I put him down an hour later (one 11:30 nap instead of 10/10:30 & 1:30/2 naps), he will go down easier, not cry as much, and have a better attitude in the afternoon. He is not totally consistent yet - sometimes I still sneak in a 2nd nap if he needs one.......but most of the time he will sleep a solid 2-3 hours and then he's up until a 5:30 pick up when he falls asleep for a catnap on the way home.

HTH

[marniewon]

Exactly! The child is just upset and trying to get his way but I still need to go in and check every 5 minutes or so to be sure they really are okay. Imagine if you did not check because he is "quiet" and you do not want to disturb him or set him off again and there really is a problem. Could be a 1 out of 100 chance but sorry, not on my watch is anything ever going to happen to a child in my care if I can help it! I check OFTEN! I have had babies for 30 years now and they never cease to amaze me in what they can actually get into (or out of!) I do a walk around and go right up to each child's face every 10-15 minutes every single day during nap time.
With children you never know. Anything can happen to them. I don't give up. Nap time is nap time and if I have to lie them back down 200 times then I will do it. The next day it may be 150 times and then the next down to 100. Eventually they will get the message and go to sleep and I will have my rest.

Yes, I wrestled with that too - anything can happen and I would be more apt to check on him once he was quiet. I actually thought of getting a camera for this one, so I could see him without opening the door. Unless I waited until he was asleep (and no way to tell if he was asleep or just being quiet) to go in to check on him, he would be up and screaming if I walked in there.

[tenderhearts]

Thanks, I'm the same way, I check on the babies frequently while they are napping, it is something that really scares me, so whenever they do stop crying I go right in there to be sure everything it ok,and check on them about every 15 min during their nap time, it's just when he's fussing and I go in there he just gets much louder and harder and same thing he's standing the second he hears the door.
So if he is a puker from crying that just disrupts the whole nap, he'll learn quickly that will get him out of nap time wont it?
I'd try to give him one nap but there is NO WAY he could wait that long, he doesn't sleep through the night, I think he wakes 1-2 x again (he was sleeping through for about 2 mo), and he's awake anywhere from 4:30am -5:30am, plus if I give him a nap earlier then he'll be awake during all the other kids quiet/nap times, then it will be loud and no one will sleep.
I sure hope he'll adjust back to the schedule soon, is an hour long enough for an am nap or do you guys do longer am naps? He gets here at 7am and I put him down for am nap at 8:30, he was consistantly sleeping until 10 until now after xmas break. Then afternoon nap he goes down about 1:-1:15 and was sleeping until about 2:45 until after xmas break it's been 2:00 he wakes up.
thanks everyone.

[tenderhearts]

Weeelllll, baby was gone for a couple days because he was sick, then grandma watches him on thursdays. So he's back again today, same thing, off and on fussing now for an hour, this is ridiculous. He was showing signs of being tired since he arrived here right before 7am, he was getting really fussy right about the time I normally put him down, but he wont go to sleep, I just don't get it, mom said he's been napping fine for both naps WHAT???
So here's my question if I let him cry/fuss is really what he's doing not really crying, for the 1 & 1/2 what IF he falls alseep right before that? Do I let him sleep? but then that will ruin when he normally goes down for his afternoon nap or do I wake him up at the normal time and hope he's not fussy. This is such a terrible day because I dont' feel well on top of it and the other baby was fussy this morning and had a HUGE blowout so that was fun to clean up.....and my day has barely started...
The going to one nap seems like maybe the way to go if he's not going to go to sleep BUT he is tired this is so nerve wracking.

Oh and if he's been in there fussying for the hour and a half and hasn't fallen asleep if I get him up wont he think he can just cry and eventually I will go get him???? But if I leave him in there then he's going to be off later..

[mickey2]

My just turned 12 month old grandson is screaming his head off right now as I write this. Both my 3 year olds & my 23 month old have been sleeping for about 10 minutes now and my 18 month old is still playing and talking to herself in her pack n play. She will fall asleep within the next few minutes, she always does now.

She screamed at first sometimes for almost an hour before she gave up when she first came to me at about 11 months of age but has gotten over it now.

My grandson? Well it is going to take some time and he WILL learn that nap time is nap time! I don't care if I have to go in every 5 minutes and lie him down 200 times everyday until he gets it!! I WILL have peace and ALL will be sleeping soon! This week when he screams and I go in, he stops for about 10 minutes before he starts again. He IS learning and so will your little guy. Hang in there. I am sure it will get better if you are determined and patient. I know it is hard listening to a baby crying like that but it is worth it to be firm at nap time! I know that come Monday I will have to go in more often as he will try again, but I am the one who is going to win! I always do!

[lvt77]

Is he teething??

[tenderhearts]

I suppose he could be but usually he drools like crazy and he isn't. This has been going on for a long time, but with what others said on here letting him cry the duration of his nap, he was finally napping fairly decent UNTIL he came back from christmas break.

[lvt77]

I have had this same issue with all of my DCK of all ages.... Christmas messed everyone up... All routines were out of sorts and now trying to get everyone back in..
I do this with little my 10month DCB. I lay down on schedule, if he cries I wait 5 min and let cry, go in cover him up and say good night, leave...now wait 10 min...then 15 more, then 15 more and so forth going in doing the same thing. Eventually after 25 min or so he's out...I casn't stand to hear a baby cry...it breaks my heart.....and my ears....

Hang in there....it will get better...

[tenderhearts]

Thanks, that's what I've pretty much have been doing, now this morning at 10 after him in there an hour and a half I got him up, I put him back down at 1 and he is crying again, not really crying but whining, it's going on almost 30 min, I know he's tired. Mom told me he's been napping fine at home, Im starting to doubt that, he always napped better here.

[lvt77]

just hang in there and do what you have to do to get him back on schedule...I know its frustrating, but its what happens this time of year after breaks..

[tenderhearts]

It's just really frustrating because I really like his parents, BUT they do not keep him on any kind of a scheule at all so the 4 days he's here he is well he was. They go out of town almost every weekend so he's not even sleeping in his own room or anything. Plus I know they don't to the crying it out thing, well they were and he was doing very well. So now I'm even wondering if the going to one nap will even do anything since he's been in there for now 1 hour and 15 min and still not asleep and this is after no nap this morning.
He's not crying he's whining, he stops for about 5 or 7 min then he whines for maybe 2 stops again for 5 min then whines for about another minute or 2.
Will this get better? or is it going to get worse the older he gets? He's fussy when he's awake too, not terribly but definetly not like when he was napping.

What and how do you mention this to a parent? I mean she has said to me before that I know you need your break ect. and I never really have said much because he at least napped, but these last 2 weeks that he's only been here a few times these days have been terrible with today being the worse. So what do you say, I really like them and I dont' want them to take it the wrong way but this is ridiculous. I dont' want to term yet anyways. I know he was sick a couple days but she told me he has been fine the last 3 days and so she claims he napped well. He did have a pretty runny diaper but she said they think it's that way since he really has only had breastmilk since he was sick, not alot of solids, I dont' know.
So how long do I leave him in there for????? Until his mom picks up. just kidding but I know he's tired.
thanks

[lvt77]

has be been coming less days? is his attendace still the same?

I had a 13 m DCG who was not taking naps at nap time keeping all of the other kids awake with her crying. I told the parents that they needed to help me get her on a schedule because she was keeping all of the other kids awake. I explained that Sleep is a major requirement for good health, and for young kids to get enough of it, some daytime sleep is needed. Crucial physical and mental development occurs in early childhood, and naps provide much-needed downtime for growth and rejuvenation.
Naps also help keep kids from becoming overtired, which not only takes a toll on their moods but may also make it harder for them to fall asleep at night. So that all DCK had to nap during napping hours. I told them we had to work on it together, they agreed....

[momma2girls]

with 11 mo olds napping....again.....I had issues before with him, and with the suggestion of others here I made sure his naps were kept the same time and made sure he stayed in there the duration of the nap(check he's not wet ect) even if he woke, and for the last 3 mo he's been doing that and actually was sleeping the whole time. Weeelll now that his schedule has been screwed up the last 2 weeks (he was only here 2 days each week the last 2 weeks) he is now crying when I lay him down he never has done that before and only sleeping 30 - 40 min for both naps. He is tired, I know he is. His mom said his napping and bedtimes were all thrown off, he's waking again at night which he hasn't for the last 2 mo. So my question, do I leave him in there again to cry it out for the 1 1/2 morning and 2 hours in afternoon IF everything is ok????? OR could he be ready for 1 nap???? He'll be 1 on jan 13, seems really young for 1 nap. These 30 -40 min naps are killing me, he gets so fussy......Please advise......

I just had a Mom tell me that her 14 month old, only took an afternoon nap. HA!! The first day was ****!!! OMG!!! SHe was rubbing her eyes and screaming, following me around 10 min. after Mom left. They definately still need to have 2 naps, no matter what!!!

[tenderhearts]

He was coming less days (2 days in the week) during christmas break (dad is a school teacher), then this week he was to return the normal 4 days but he got sick tues and he came back today, but his mom called me wed and said he was fine and back to normal, so I don't get it, is he just all thrown off? he's never been this hard to go down, actually he has never ever cried when I put him down, he would always fall asleep but I had trouble with him napping for only 30 min and he'd wake up then he was extremely fussy the rest of the time until next nap, so that's when others on here mentioned the leaving him in there for the "full nap" even if he's crying or whatever, I did that and it worked he was napping good again, not great on some days but heck I'll take an hour over no nap.
I'm just worried he wont adjust and it will get worse.