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Does anyone else have a group of spoiled rotten kids? All of my daycare kids are allowed to do whatever they want, talk to their parents however they want, grab things from siblings and it's okay. I feel like lately my whole day is spent refereeing the kids. All I hear is **** took this from me. **** grabbed from me. I want that. I'm trying so hard to teach them how to ASK for something and not take, not grab, not throw themselves on the floor in a completely fit. My SO was shocked today he's like you can't ask them to do something without them arguing and it being a issue. It's been a very draining week.
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I would spend sometime this weekend boxing up all toys and except 1 for each child. On Monday explain to them they may ask nicely for a toy, sit down and play away from each other, and trade it in for a different toy when they are done. No free for all on toys, they must ask you politely for a toy. Let them earn back the right to more choices, by playing nicely with what is available. You may need to make stations/areas and not let them in each other's space until they get it. Maybe even assign areas/toys to them for a set amount of time and then everyone switches.
This may sound drastic, but sometimes we need to make a statement for them to learn correct behavior. -
I've had a lot of this here, too. At first, I chalked it up to all of them being either only children, or what I guess you would call the first of a second round of children from a blended family (where all the half-siblings are high-school age), and it is only here at daycare where they have to share or wait for a turn. I think this is the case 90% of the time.
Then there's a different explanation for just one of my DCFs. The younger of my only sibling set grew into toddlerhood, and it's all the same, but for a different reason. When DCM/DCD is here, they give in to the younger little tyrant always, and force the older sibling to allow her to do whatever she wants to him (scratching/swatting him, screaming at him, even taking his preschool project/papers from him!
). They have created a little monster with that one, treating her like a little princess that can do no wrong. She knows I will hold her to a higher standard of behavior with her brother, her friends, and even myself, so I don't have any problems with her. I just can't pay too close attention to them at drop-off and pick-up, or I would surely lose it!
I guess whatever the reason for toddler selfishness, it is manageable with rules and consistency. Racemom is right on. Limit toy options, set up some rules that will help you gain more control of the room that you can easily enforce, then be very consistent with consequences for breaking those rules. By the end of next week, I predict things will be much more pleasant! Hang in there!Comment
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They may be spoiled at home, but not here. You are going to have a very bad time here if you pull crappy behavior.
I had one dcb, age 2, that I had to term not so long ago because I couldn't handle him. Too rough, didn't listen, didn't want to. I gave it a good shot and kept him for almost 5 months, but ... the parents weren't willing to work with me.
My days are so lovely now
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