Help!!!

[midaycare signed out]

Hi everyone! I lost my password some time ago and I've been too lazy to figure out how to get it, but I've been lurking.

I need help with dcg age almost 3. She had surgery to take out her adenoids and tonsils 6 weeks ago. This was to help with sleeping issues and speech.

After the surgery she was home for 2 weeks. The third week she was here for shortened days.
The past 3 weeks have been full-time but awful. She screams for dcm and dcd almost all day long. I'm not exaggerating. All day between screams (and during) I hear, "Mama coming? Mama coming? Mama coming? Mama coming?"

Then she keeps saying that her ear hurts. She has been back to see the doctor 4x. The doctor keeps saying she is "playing us" to get what she wants (to go home).

I'm frustrated because she used to love to come here. I just had to put her in a pack and play on a separate floor for a nap (hopefully) because she was screaming and crying so hard for well over an hour. I'm not calling for pickup. I have tried the cry corner with little to no success.

What in the world do I do?

[Unregistered]

Some ideas

It sounds like she is having a hard time readjusting to the routine she had before her surgery. She might have developed separation anxiety. I can list at least three ideas here that might help :

1. If there is an activity she liked to do at your daycare before her surgery, you could have that activity ready for her when she arrives.

2. If she likes coloring, you could tell her this "Mom will be back soon to pick you up. Let's color a picture, and you can give her your picture. I am sure she will love it" (You can adjust the wording for the child's age. I was just writing an idea of how to say it ) .

3. You could also give her her own journal, and she can write or draw whatever she wants in it for the day, and at pick up time, she can show her journal to her parents

These are just some ideas. The key really is re direction to another activity. Soon, she will be engaged in the activity that she will forget that her parents are gone. Good luck and big (((hugs)))) to you

[Leigh]

All I have for you is that when kids have surgery at this age, it can be traumatic for them. I know of two other kids who had it done and weren't themselves for a couple of months after the surgery. I'm guessing that waiting it out may be your only option other than giving up.

[Blackcat31]

Hi everyone! I lost my password some time ago and I've been too lazy to figure out how to get it, but I've been lurking.

I need help with dcg age almost 3. She had surgery to take out her adenoids and tonsils 6 weeks ago. This was to help with sleeping issues and speech.

After the surgery she was home for 2 weeks. The third week she was here for shortened days.
The past 3 weeks have been full-time but awful. She screams for dcm and dcd almost all day long. I'm not exaggerating. All day between screams (and during) I hear, "Mama coming? Mama coming? Mama coming? Mama coming?"

Then she keeps saying that her ear hurts. She has been back to see the doctor 4x. The doctor keeps saying she is "playing us" to get what she wants (to go home).

I'm frustrated because she used to love to come here. I just had to put her in a pack and play on a separate floor for a nap (hopefully) because she was screaming and crying so hard for well over an hour. I'm not calling for pickup. I have tried the cry corner with little to no success.

What in the world do I do?

I am sending you a password re-set e-mail.

[Josiegirl]

I know lots of dcs don't allow things from home but I wonder if there is a big need here for something familiar to her. Maybe something of her mom's to keep with her or a favorite stuffed animal. Sometimes rules can be overlooked when necessary.