Need Some Clarity On My Own Children's Behavior?

[Izzyjenni]

I started my daycare 9 months ago. I must say that my own child is the most difficult. He is 3 and has had a hard adjustment to me being home as his daycare provider and mommy. He has been saying no alot and refusing to follow rules. I have older boys at daycare that have not been the best influence and it goes full circle with them following his lead, ignoring me and my rules, and not listening. My son and the older 5 and 7 year old seem to be a bad influence on each other. Anyone have any advice? I love my son and want to do what is best for him. I will be sending him to preschool in the fall to be around boys his own age, but for the time being I am at my wits end. I find myself yelling at him so much and the other two children encourage him to do naughty things. They know he will do whatever they tell him and he seems to want their approval more than his moms approval. I want my nice, kind, 3 year back not a 3 year acting like a 7 year old! I have had many conversations with the parent of the older boys. It is not just them though. I know part of the problem is my son. I can't "term" my own child... I've tried a behavior chart. He has his own space and toys in his room that are separate from daycare. I am consistent with take a breaks and consequences.
I need some advice. Any other providers have trouble with their own children. I've talked about terming the other older kids and I've also phased out taking school-age kids after June. I don't know what else to do!

[homeishere]

Around here if you tell another child to break a rule, you are the one that gets the consequence. I don't know if it will help your situation at all, but it was one of the only things that worked to get my school ager back in line. She had all the twos and threes here being naughty.

[e.j.]

Around here if you tell another child to break a rule, you are the one that gets the consequence. I don't know if it will help your situation at all, but it was one of the only things that worked to get my school ager back in line. She had all the twos and threes here being naughty.

Same here. You goad someone into doing or saying something you know is wrong, you get disciplined as well. If it's an ongoing problem, you get even tougher consequences than the child who is breaking the rules. Tends to take the fun out of it for the goaders.

[Gemma]

Around here if you tell another child to break a rule, you are the one that gets the consequence. I don't know if it will help your situation at all, but it was one of the only things that worked to get my school ager back in line. She had all the twos and threes here being naughty.

Here too!

[TXhomedaycare]

I started my daycare 9 months ago. I must say that my own child is the most difficult. He is 3 and has had a hard adjustment to me being home as his daycare provider and mommy. He has been saying no alot and refusing to follow rules. I have older boys at daycare that have not been the best influence and it goes full circle with them following his lead, ignoring me and my rules, and not listening. My son and the older 5 and 7 year old seem to be a bad influence on each other. Anyone have any advice? I love my son and want to do what is best for him. I will be sending him to preschool in the fall to be around boys his own age, but for the time being I am at my wits end. I find myself yelling at him so much and the other two children encourage him to do naughty things. They know he will do whatever they tell him and he seems to want their approval more than his moms approval. I want my nice, kind, 3 year back not a 3 year acting like a 7 year old! I have had many conversations with the parent of the older boys. It is not just them though. I know part of the problem is my son. I can't "term" my own child... I've tried a behavior chart. He has his own space and toys in his room that are separate from daycare. I am consistent with take a breaks and consequences.
I need some advice. Any other providers have trouble with their own children. I've talked about terming the other older kids and I've also phased out taking school-age kids after June. I don't know what else to do!

Me too my son just turned 4 and he has been a terror since I opened 10 months ago. I am a very tough parent and I quit my office job to do what
Is best for him and my 11 month old. I am going crazy trying to figure him out. He is great (average 4 year old) when daycare is over. He is my oldest child (just by 5 months) and I know he likes a lot of attention but he is punished and loses privileges all day and he doesn't seem to care. I need advice also. I have 6 kids 4 years and under.

[Martha Stewart]

My advice probably won't be terribly helpful, but I was in a similar situation. I ended up taking my own son to a full day preschool 3 days a week during the school year, and sent him to full day camps several weeks during the summer. He is in 4th grade now, and I have him and my 1st grade daughter enrolled in an after-school program and i make alternate plans for them on days off. Honestly, one of the primary reasons I chose this career was to be around & raise my own children, and that reason is gone, which is why I am returning to an office environment. I will work less hours, have my home and see my own children more.