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So, I have a new family of boys. They are 5, 2 and 10 months. They wrestle a LOT and someone gets hurt at least once per hour. This is the beginning of wees two and it isn't getting better. I have to play referee all day breaking up all three of them (yes, even the 10 month old). Within minutes they are at it again. This is allowed at home, among other behaviors that are not allowed in my home like running and jumping on furniture. Am I a fool to believe this will get better?
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WI don't care what the kids are allowed to do at home! while in my care, I'm responsible to keep them safe and I set limits to do just that!
I do not allow any physical contact or rough play! .... accidents happen easily enough, no need to set the stage for one! -
I have 1.5 and 4 year old siblings that do this constantly and I am constantly breaking it up!!! In all my years it was never a problem before and then I realized because I rarely have siblings. For some reason they wouldn't do it with other kids but they do with their brother. Grrrr!!! I just keep breaking it up and reiterating that we are not allowed to wrestle here. Big brother is only here for a few more months but I am hoping it doesn't take that long to break the habit. Of course mom just laughs it off when I mention it but I do not want my other kids joining in thinking this is ok!!Comment
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Unfortunately, I think that without some parental involvement it probably wont' get better.
When kids are allowed to have certain behaviors (especially physical) at home its really really hard to break them of it in daycare.
I had a set of boys (ages 2 and 4) years ago that were allowed to play all sorts of violent video games at home. They were also allowed to throw things in the house (oldest had a basket ball net in his room) and wrestle constantly.
They threw things (anything not bolted down), wrestled (even at the lunch table) and had some pretty foul language.
I felt like my ONLY language was "Lets keep our hands to ourselves" or "Toys are not for throwing" or "Nice words only" all day every day.
I was sending behavior reports home daily, discussing with parents on a regular basis and all the while got all kinds of promises that they (parents) would work on curbing the behavior at home.
After almost a year, it never really got any better and I ended up terming. The family went through 2 more in-home providers before finally finding one ...not an in-home....that would keep them.
This is one of the biggest reasons I am super picky about the family's I enroll. They have to have a type of parenting style that meshes with my group. If not, then I am not the right fit for them.Comment
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I've had to break up wrestling matches at least 30 times since I posted this a couple hours ago. They clearly aren't going to work out. Ugh!Comment
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I guess I don't have the patience you two seem to have, I would not put up with this behavior a second day!Comment
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I would let the parents know that this can not happen in daycare and you need their help fixing it. If they can't/won't work with you to end this, you will never win this battle. I would be VERY to the point with the parents and tell them that if they want to stay in care this has to stop. In the meantime, I would be looking for replacements.Comment
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Yeah...that's an unfortunate side affect of taking some sibling sets. They bring too much of their home-life to your program. You could probably curb it with one child from the family, but they outnumber you now.
I'd personally separate them, if you want to keep try any more. The five year old should be able to have some self control, so he'd get the most firm treatment. He also needs to set the example.
"Wrestling is not okay at school". Assign him table work, or an area to play in. Since he's not able to make good choices, he loses choices. 2 year old get redirected (or if an older 2, the same deal). 10 month gets play yard with toys until they all learn.Comment
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I spoke with the parents last week about the wrestling, rough housing and running. I told them it cannot happen in my home. I can't keep the kids safe in that environment. The 2 year old decided last Friday that he would run circles around my daughter's bouncy seat, while she was in it. He tripped and landed on top of her!
I termed them today.Comment
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Dang auto correct...ILLComment
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Well if the dread of another day was that much, you did the right thing for sure.Comment
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