DSS Complaint???

[daycare]

Daycare was not trying to be hurtful or judgmental. She comes from a different country and is constantly learning new English words/terms. She said she did understand what anxiety was and didn't know it could be so bad that it's actually an illness people struggle with.
Then she goes on to apologize for not understanding it at first.
Did you read all her comments? She never said you were a liar or illegal. She simply didn't understand.

Jenboo-

Thanks for your support.

I don't think it has anything to do with me coming from a different country as much as it has to do with me not KNOWING what it was and understanding it.

If anyone wants to throw stones at me for it, that's ok. I was not judging anyone, i was simply asking a question. I didn't label you or accuse you of anything.

Thanks to Thriftylady and the unregistered who posted that link, I now have a better understanding.

And for the record, I do treat people the way they want to be treated. I come here with an open mind and I get an array of responses. Some I like and some I don't. But I get every side of the coin and that is why I come here.

[daycare]

That is a very naive point of view. In our business a single complaint, whether it's true or not, has to potential to ruin not only our business, but our personal lives as well.

I don't think it's fair to say I am naive, More like uneducated in what anxiety disorder is.

[Josiegirl]

I get so upset and full of anxiety at the little things. That most people do not worry about. Such as, a parent comes in acting different then I will worry all day that they are upset with me and that they are leaving. Most of you don worry about that but I do.
:hug:

This is me too!! Everything is certainly my fault, it must be something I did, I feel guilty even if I am 100% in the clear. So yeh, I totally get it. And it's only gotten worse as I've gotten older.

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

I had an "official looking" visitor once when I was closed. I actually wasn't here, but my then teenage daughter was. She was still sleeping, and by the time she got to the door to look out the person was already getting back into her car so she just went back to bed. Turned out to be the State Board of Education doing some kind of audit for the food program.

I had forgotten to notify them that I was closed for the day . I did get a phone call from the FP, but nothing else was ever said about it and they never did come back.

Bah! I don't want to hear that they ACTUALLY do that!!! My FP people warn us all the time that the state Dept of Ed make random visits, and when they do, we are supposed to provide them with 3 YEARS of menus and attendance records. On paper. So, we're supposed to print the whole shebang every month, or save hand-written records, and keep them for 3 years!

I keep my hand-written ones...mostly complete...but have them dumped in with every other DC piece of paper I keep in one big box. I guess if they come around here, I'll just hand them the box and tell them to have at it!::

[Thriftylady]

I don't think it's fair to say I am naive, More like uneducated in what anxiety disorder is.

I wouldn't even say that really. My hubby tries to be so supportive and understanding when I have a bad day, but he doesn't really "get it". And those bad days I get mad at him because it looks to me like he doesn't care. It isn't like that really, I think he just cares on a more normal level. He doesn't understand sometimes what I get so worked up about. He can say something like "who cares what they think" and mean it (likely he has the right attitude), and I will say "well I do and so should you". It doesn't seem to have any rhyme or reason sometimes, the link is so totally right . Other people can look at the same thing and think oh well, and if my anxiety is bad that day it is the end of the world . Sometimes I look back on things and think how silly I was over it, but can't seem to think that in the moment .

[Unregistered]

I had the food program auditors come one time. They did bring one person from the local office (but not my regular monitor) and then there were maybe 3 or 4 other people, I think all men in suits. They just looked at my current month claim to date (this was when everything was on paper, before we did things on computer). I don't know if they randomly choose people or if they looked at "suspicious" providers. I was licensed for 12 but had 23 kids on the books because they were all part time, and they didn't believe me that I had that many kids in care. I have a photo and name up of every kid currently enrolled on one wall, so maybe that helped. =)

The other day I had an official person come to the door that I didn't recognize. It turned out to be a county auditor just updating the house info for tax purposes (number of bedrooms, bathrooms, etc.) Not at all day care related, just showed up during day care hours. Of course right as everyone had woken up from nap and we were getting ready for snack, on my busiest day of the week.

[Josiegirl]

I do have to say I hate it when random people come to my door. Usually the salespeople are smart enough to leave their goods in their car so by the time they get their toes in the door, they start running their spiel. I'm not as nice about it as I used to be. I remember when my ds was little, my dh happened to be here at the time. A child's encyclopedia guy came to the door. My dh talked to him for an hour, they woke our ds up who cried and cried. The guy asked if he was always like that. No, only when he gets woken up early idiot.
But anyways, I get people out asap IF I even answer the door.
All the official people I recognize. But if 2 random women came with notebooks, etc., it'd make me nervous too. Don't sweat it till you know what's going on.