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  • Thriftylady
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2014
    • 5884

    I Did It and It Was Hard

    As much as I need the money from this new daycare kiddo, I am fed up. This mom has set two different appointments with me during her school hours. I didn't know the first time about school. Both times she didn't show and I texted her and she sends "can't get out of school can I come xxx?". Both times I have allowed it. Today we had an appointment after school for her to come do her enrollment paperwork (she was to do this yesterday and didn't show, the first time was the interview). Today when I texted her she told me she they had to take him to the doctor, she forgot. So she asked to tomorrow and I asked what time. Still haven't heard back but I messaged her that I have a strict no call no show appointment, I only allow three. Haven't heard back, hope I didn't ruin this because I do need the money. But at some point I have to do something. I decided that if I keep allowing this before care starts, I may be in big trouble later.
  • LysesKids
    Daycare.com Member
    • May 2014
    • 2836

    #2
    Originally posted by Thriftylady
    As much as I need the money from this new daycare kiddo, I am fed up. This mom has set two different appointments with me during her school hours. I didn't know the first time about school. Both times she didn't show and I texted her and she sends "can't get out of school can I come xxx?". Both times I have allowed it. Today we had an appointment after school for her to come do her enrollment paperwork (she was to do this yesterday and didn't show, the first time was the interview). Today when I texted her she told me she they had to take him to the doctor, she forgot. So she asked to tomorrow and I asked what time. Still haven't heard back but I messaged her that I have a strict no call no show appointment, I only allow three. Haven't heard back, hope I didn't ruin this because I do need the money. But at some point I have to do something. I decided that if I keep allowing this before care starts, I may be in big trouble later.
    I have a 2 strikes you are out; I will reschedule due to illness (me or the family), birth of the baby or similar, but because they forgot or they went shopping instead and didn't think to call, nope, not rescheduling ( sometimes they just blow it off and don't care that you call to check). Shows me they don't take me or my time seriously. I discovered the ones I gave 3 chances always ended up leaving the first month here, so it stopped.

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    • Thriftylady
      Daycare.com Member
      • Aug 2014
      • 5884

      #3
      Originally posted by LysesKids
      I have a 2 strikes you are out; I will reschedule due to illness (me or the family), birth of the baby or similar, but because they forgot or they went shopping instead and didn't think to call, nope, not rescheduling ( sometimes they just blow it off and don't care that you call to check). Shows me they don't take me or my time seriously. I discovered the ones I gave 3 chances always ended up leaving the first month here, so it stopped.
      You are probably right, but I am amazed with myself that I did it at all . Kind of proud of myself for just saying anything. These kids are still in their Senior year of HS, but that doesn't mean they get to mistreat me.

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      • Gemma
        Childcare Provider
        • Mar 2015
        • 1277

        #4
        Originally posted by Thriftylady
        , hope I didn't ruin this because I do need the money. .
        She already showed you what she is like, you sure you need the money bad enough to set yourself up for this?

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        • Thriftylady
          Daycare.com Member
          • Aug 2014
          • 5884

          #5
          Originally posted by Gemma
          She already showed you what she is like, you sure you need the money bad enough to set yourself up for this?
          Well I still have not heard back from her. IF I do, we will be having a talk about these things. Having just finished Nannyde's book, I am trying really hard to change my mindset. I am not sure I will hear back from her.

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          • crazydaycarelady
            Not really crazy
            • Jul 2012
            • 1457

            #6
            I have a one strike you're out policy. I wouldn't even consider taking this kid.

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            • Ariana
              Advanced Daycare.com Member
              • Jun 2011
              • 8969

              #7
              Oh gosh she sounds like a doozy! Might not be worth the headache...

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              • daycare
                Advanced Daycare.com *********
                • Feb 2011
                • 16259

                #8
                I think we all try to do everything we can to get the ball rolling, however, we soon learn that there are just things that we shouldn't put up with and this is one of those things.

                after the first time she cancelled, i would have given her one more chance. At the time of her cancelling the first time, setting up the next appointment, I would say something like.

                Thank you for taking the time to call me and let me know you need to cancel your appointment. I understand that things happen out of our control. I will be more than happy to make you another appointment, however, please understand that since I am not paid to conduct these interviews, we will only allow cancellation one time, I am sure you can understand this. when would you like to reschedule? If she does not show up or cancels the next one, BYE BYE.......

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                • Thriftylady
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Aug 2014
                  • 5884

                  #9
                  So she wanted to do after school tomorrow. I told her give me a time and she said 3:30. I messaged her fine, but that at 3:35 it would be her final no call no show and I would give the spot to someone else. She messages back "well give it to someone else then I can't promise to be there at 3:35 sometimes I stay and talk to my son's babysitter.

                  Of course I don't have anyone else lined up, but I didn't want her to know that and I don't want her to think she can mess me around. If she can't meet me to finalize enrollment on time can she pick up on time?

                  The issue now is that I advertise on FB and if I start shooting out more posts she will know I didn't have anyone lined up, because she was a FB contact. What to do what to do.

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                  • daycare
                    Advanced Daycare.com *********
                    • Feb 2011
                    • 16259

                    #10
                    Originally posted by Thriftylady
                    So she wanted to do after school tomorrow. I told her give me a time and she said 3:30. I messaged her fine, but that at 3:35 it would be her final no call no show and I would give the spot to someone else. She messages back "well give it to someone else then I can't promise to be there at 3:35 sometimes I stay and talk to my son's babysitter.

                    Of course I don't have anyone else lined up, but I didn't want her to know that and I don't want her to think she can mess me around. If she can't meet me to finalize enrollment on time can she pick up on time?

                    The issue now is that I advertise on FB and if I start shooting out more posts she will know I didn't have anyone lined up, because she was a FB contact. What to do what to do.
                    that does not mean that...its not of her business why you are still looking for clients.

                    good for you for sticking up for yourself, it really honestly sounds like you just dodged a bullet...

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                    • Thriftylady
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Aug 2014
                      • 5884

                      #11
                      Originally posted by daycare
                      that does not mean that...its not of her business why you are still looking for clients.

                      good for you for sticking up for yourself, it really honestly sounds like you just dodged a bullet...
                      Thanks I am just not very good at it yet. I mean I will tell my kids or hubby just how I feel but with other people not so much. We need more money coming in, things are bad. But my daughter is going to be taking over her car ins. and phone bill soon since she is working now I keep reminding myself what a help that will be. I have been paying it for my convenience but now she has a non-summer job to go with her summer job we told her she is old enough to be responsible. She's a good girl and is willing to pay her stuff, she understands we been floating her for a good long while . It won't help a ton, but hopefully enough that this bullet dodge won't hurt so bad.

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                      • Leigh
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Apr 2013
                        • 3814

                        #12
                        Originally posted by Thriftylady
                        So she wanted to do after school tomorrow. I told her give me a time and she said 3:30. I messaged her fine, but that at 3:35 it would be her final no call no show and I would give the spot to someone else. She messages back "well give it to someone else then I can't promise to be there at 3:35 sometimes I stay and talk to my son's babysitter.

                        Of course I don't have anyone else lined up, but I didn't want her to know that and I don't want her to think she can mess me around. If she can't meet me to finalize enrollment on time can she pick up on time?

                        The issue now is that I advertise on FB and if I start shooting out more posts she will know I didn't have anyone lined up, because she was a FB contact. What to do what to do.
                        If you're worried about her seeing your FB posts, just block her first.

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                        • Rockgirl
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • May 2013
                          • 2204

                          #13
                          Originally posted by Thriftylady
                          She messages back "well give it to someone else then I can't promise to be there at 3:35 sometimes I stay and talk to my son's babysitter.
                          She told you everything you need to know there. I'd peg her for a frequent late-pickup.

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                          • Unregistered

                            #14
                            Originally posted by Rockgirl
                            She told you everything you need to know there. I'd peg her for a frequent late-pickup.
                            I agree. She can't skip "talking" to make it to an appointment on-time for one day? Daycare red flags, and you know she likes to stay and talk! LOL!

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                            • daycare
                              Advanced Daycare.com *********
                              • Feb 2011
                              • 16259

                              #15
                              Originally posted by Unregistered
                              I agree. She can't skip "talking" to make it to an appointment on-time for one day? Daycare red flags, and you know she likes to stay and talk! LOL!
                              OMG I thought about this last night.....i had open house again last night and one lady I could not get to leave......As soon as she left i went and wrote on her get to know me form, talks talks talks....and wrote, super nice, but don't start convos with her.......

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