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I need help with my schedule. My 20MO DCB(17 adjusted) is absolutely making me lose my mind, and I'm going to try one last ditch effort to see if I can make our days smoother before I terminate care.
Currently our days go something like this, any advice on where I could alter/tweak the schedule would be much appreciated.
5:45a.m. DCB1(20 months) arrives, and goes right into his bed and will sleep until approx 8:15a.m. He needs this extra sleep or he is an absolute bear for the rest of the day. He gets woken up around 5:15a.m. and sometimes falls asleep in the car, sometimes not, but he's always put back down upon arrival.
6:45a.m. DCB2(20 months, 17 adjusted) arrives. Sometimes he goes back to sleep, sometimes he doesn't. If he doesn't, he's a bear until nap time. If he does, he needs to sleep until at least 9:30 or he's whiny and crabby until nap time
Breakfast is between 9:00 and 9:30. DCB 2 will get a morning snack and a cup of milk if he doesn't go back to sleep to hold him until breakfast.
9:30-11:00- Free play in the playroom.
11:00-11:45-- Sensory play with sensory items while I make lunch
11:45 DCG4.5 arrives
11:45-12:00-- Wash hands and into chairs at the table
12:00-12:20--Lunch(They don't usually even take this long to eat. What they're going to eat is gone within 10-15 minutes, anything longer and they'll just sit there and stare at it until you take it away)
12:20-12:30--Bathroom, wash hands, head to nap room
12:30-12:35-- All 3 tucked in, and read to.
12:35-2:00--DCB2 sleeps, and sleeps well.
About this time every day he starts to stir. Sometimes he'll go back to sleep, sometimes he won't. But, if he doesn't go back to sleep, he's crabby and whiny for the rest of the day, like he's not getting enough sleep! He's capable of sleeping for 3 1/2 hours, he's done it here on more than one occasion! It's like he's waking up and can't always go back to sleep, he's capable of soothing himself, but he doesn't always do it. I've tried white noise, music, shhing him, putting him back down and saying nothing, ignoring him, sitting beside him(which makes things way worse. As soon as he sees you, theres no way he's going back to sleep).. He's been in the nap room, and he's been in a separate room. he does better in the nap room. But either way, I can't let him cry when he wakes up early because he's so loud that he wakes everyone else up, even if he's in the other room because they're across the hall from each other......Nothing is working..
if DCB2 wakes up at 2:00, everyone else wakes up too because he wakes them all up.
2:00-2:30-- Circle time
2:30 DCB1 leaves
2:30--3:30(Most days)-- Free play/centers/arts & crafts
Tuesdays and Thursdays DCG 4.5 has speech therapy at our dining room table. I would LIKE DCB2 to sleep through this since he's so disruptive while it's happening since our first floor play area is connected to the dining room.
3:30-4:15-- Outside play time
(It's been too cold in the mornings lately to play outside. I don't know if that would even matter if we did go out in the morning)
I posted about this problem a few times I think, and I just can't figure it out! I casually mentioned to his mom the other day that I was still trying to "figure out his schedule" and she laughed and said "yeah right"
I know he doesn't have a schedule when he's at home. He pretty much sleeps whenever he wants. They say he sleeps in his crib, but I'm thinking he's only sleeping in there until he cries/fusses and then he gets to sleep with mom and dad? But she usually makes a point to tell me if him or DCG4.5(siblings) slept in mom and dads bed, so if he ALWAYS did it, why would she need to point it out on specific occasions?
DH says I need to tell her that he needs to get on a set schedule at home, but I don't know if it will even help at this point? He's here 6:45-4:15, sometimes later, 5 days a week....
I know this is long, and probably a bunch of rambling non-sense but im at the end of my rope here. I'm going for one last ditch effort, trying to tweak the schedule so that this kid will sleep longer/better! The days he sleeps for 3ish hours, we have an AWESOME afternoon! The days he doesn't, he whines and is SUPER emotional about EVERYTHING!
Currently our days go something like this, any advice on where I could alter/tweak the schedule would be much appreciated.
5:45a.m. DCB1(20 months) arrives, and goes right into his bed and will sleep until approx 8:15a.m. He needs this extra sleep or he is an absolute bear for the rest of the day. He gets woken up around 5:15a.m. and sometimes falls asleep in the car, sometimes not, but he's always put back down upon arrival.
6:45a.m. DCB2(20 months, 17 adjusted) arrives. Sometimes he goes back to sleep, sometimes he doesn't. If he doesn't, he's a bear until nap time. If he does, he needs to sleep until at least 9:30 or he's whiny and crabby until nap time
Breakfast is between 9:00 and 9:30. DCB 2 will get a morning snack and a cup of milk if he doesn't go back to sleep to hold him until breakfast.
9:30-11:00- Free play in the playroom.
11:00-11:45-- Sensory play with sensory items while I make lunch
11:45 DCG4.5 arrives
11:45-12:00-- Wash hands and into chairs at the table
12:00-12:20--Lunch(They don't usually even take this long to eat. What they're going to eat is gone within 10-15 minutes, anything longer and they'll just sit there and stare at it until you take it away)
12:20-12:30--Bathroom, wash hands, head to nap room
12:30-12:35-- All 3 tucked in, and read to.
12:35-2:00--DCB2 sleeps, and sleeps well.
About this time every day he starts to stir. Sometimes he'll go back to sleep, sometimes he won't. But, if he doesn't go back to sleep, he's crabby and whiny for the rest of the day, like he's not getting enough sleep! He's capable of sleeping for 3 1/2 hours, he's done it here on more than one occasion! It's like he's waking up and can't always go back to sleep, he's capable of soothing himself, but he doesn't always do it. I've tried white noise, music, shhing him, putting him back down and saying nothing, ignoring him, sitting beside him(which makes things way worse. As soon as he sees you, theres no way he's going back to sleep).. He's been in the nap room, and he's been in a separate room. he does better in the nap room. But either way, I can't let him cry when he wakes up early because he's so loud that he wakes everyone else up, even if he's in the other room because they're across the hall from each other......Nothing is working..
if DCB2 wakes up at 2:00, everyone else wakes up too because he wakes them all up.
2:00-2:30-- Circle time
2:30 DCB1 leaves
2:30--3:30(Most days)-- Free play/centers/arts & crafts
Tuesdays and Thursdays DCG 4.5 has speech therapy at our dining room table. I would LIKE DCB2 to sleep through this since he's so disruptive while it's happening since our first floor play area is connected to the dining room.
3:30-4:15-- Outside play time
(It's been too cold in the mornings lately to play outside. I don't know if that would even matter if we did go out in the morning)
I posted about this problem a few times I think, and I just can't figure it out! I casually mentioned to his mom the other day that I was still trying to "figure out his schedule" and she laughed and said "yeah right"
I know he doesn't have a schedule when he's at home. He pretty much sleeps whenever he wants. They say he sleeps in his crib, but I'm thinking he's only sleeping in there until he cries/fusses and then he gets to sleep with mom and dad? But she usually makes a point to tell me if him or DCG4.5(siblings) slept in mom and dads bed, so if he ALWAYS did it, why would she need to point it out on specific occasions? DH says I need to tell her that he needs to get on a set schedule at home, but I don't know if it will even help at this point? He's here 6:45-4:15, sometimes later, 5 days a week....
I know this is long, and probably a bunch of rambling non-sense but im at the end of my rope here. I'm going for one last ditch effort, trying to tweak the schedule so that this kid will sleep longer/better! The days he sleeps for 3ish hours, we have an AWESOME afternoon! The days he doesn't, he whines and is SUPER emotional about EVERYTHING!
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