Pissy Parent and the Poopy Playdoh

[Blackcat31]

Well I have not been able to stop thinking about this since I last replied. I hate being disrespected and now I have guilt for disrespecting someone else. I'm going to tell DCM that I have purchased some PJs and if she agrees to let her wear them then all will be fine. If not then I will give her a 2 weeks notice. I try so hard to keep everyone safe and happy and I feel bad for kids in certain positions but I have to worry about my other kids and my own family... I guess I'd rather be in collections than have anyone get sick from contamination or lose my license for going against parent's wishes. I thought I had done so well with all of the changes I made but I guess not. Thanks for putting that point of view in my head Cat. I took the Pjs off and just pray she doesn't pull anything out until I can talk to DCM and see where we go from here.

Hun, I am so not trying to make you feel bad. You know I am saying what I said with a kind heart. I can only imagine the trouble this parent could make for you if you go against her wishes. kwim?

I think that you should put this back on her and tell her that since she feels poop is not an issue, you will charge her the costs of PROFESSIONAL clean up as well as anything that is tossed out because of the contamination.

Also if DCG plays with any of her poop, DCM will be called and asked to pick up IMMEDIATELY. She will then need to remain out for 24 hours as anything not contained within a diaper is considered unsanitary and diarrhea.

There are ways to put this back on mom that will allow you to keep her as a client. I would also let her know that this type of sensory play is not normal and if she does not address it, you may have to report it as a child playing in feces is unsanitary and very unhealthy.

I in no way meant to make you feel bad at all and I apologize if I did. I truly was looking out for you.

I just get a little bent out of shape when providers go against parents wishes and if providers suggest to one another to just do what you do and lie to the parent. I feel that is never the route to go.

I wont apologize for what I said but absolutely apologize for the delivery and any hurt feelings that resulted in what I said.

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[Thriftylady]

I agree that BC was not trying to be mean to you, but she has seen a lot, and always looks out for us the best she can.

This is just nasty, and unsafe. In Kansas, I had a visit from licensing, because a boy in my care had been diagnosed with salmonella food poisoning. The parents had never said a word to me about it. Even if they had I didn't know how easy it could be transferred but it can be through feces. If DCB went to the bathroom and didn't wash his hands well and touched a toy, every child in care could have gotten salmonella. They went over all my attendance records (and she was very happy I had them I guess many providers don't keep any). She was looking for his absences for when he may have been sick, and other absences so they could send other kids to the doctor. She gave me many compliments on my keeping the others healthy even though I had no idea, but it freaked me out. I guess it freaked me out because I had no idea it could pass that easy.

So this could endanger all the kids in care and your family and cost you a ton to deal with. Perhaps you could print out some kind of handout to give mom to show what a huge deal it is or something.

[PitterPatter]

Hun, I am so not trying to make you feel bad. You know I am saying what I said with a kind heart. I can only imagine the trouble this parent could make for you if you go against her wishes. kwim?

I think that you should put this back on her and tell her that since she feels poop is not an issue, you will charge her the costs of PROFESSIONAL clean up as well as anything that is tossed out because of the contamination.

Also if DCG plays with any of her poop, DCM will be called and asked to pick up IMMEDIATELY. She will then need to remain out for 24 hours as anything not contained within a diaper is considered unsanitary and diarrhea.

There are ways to put this back on mom that will allow you to keep her as a client. I would also let her know that this type of sensory play is not normal and if she does not address it, you may have to report it as a child playing in feces is unsanitary and very unhealthy.

I in no way meant to make you feel bad at all and I apologize if I did. I truly was looking out for you.

I just get a little bent out of shape when providers go against parents wishes and if providers suggest to one another to just do what you do and lie to the parent. I feel that is never the route to go.

I wont apologize for what I said but absolutely apologize for the delivery and any hurt feelings that resulted in what I said.

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Oh no apology needed, I didn't take any offense really, you didn't make me feel guilty I did that to myself. I have trouble lying always have that's why I don't do it often and I'm so bad at it This time I just tried to convince myself it was for the good of my family and DCKs.

I appreciate every piece of advise you have given me over the years. I know you have been there done that usually. So no worries you didn't give me guilt I did.

I'm afraid DCG is eventually going to have to go because there are just too many problems. She doesn't talk much but when she does she tells everyone to shut up. She thinks everything is hers. She doesn't like her sippy cup s she ****s it out, spits it in the toys cups then drinks it... She wont eat the healthy foods I serve so she's hungry and takes fruit off of the other kids plates but I'm not filling her up on fruit all day. She wants hot dogs, chips, Ramen noodles, and chicken nuggets. DCM warned me she doesn't have a variety she eats and said just to feed her hot dogs if she wont eta. Well I'm not even allowed to do that with the food prog and I wouldn't feed my own child that crap... just a few to give you an idea. Don't get me wrong she can be very sweet and loving too.

She did well the rest of the day no poop! If it does happen again i will send her home and inform DCM that she will have to be picked up every time she does it. I don't have time to bathe her and I just don't feel a child would be clean enough after doing that without a good soak, especially for those fingernails! GAG

I just hate pushing kids to the next person because I think everyone should get a chance and maybe they just aren'tgetting 1 on 1 time or any attention for that matter. It takes a lot for me to term. I did term the violent boy last year so I tried to hang in there. Not sure that's going to work but I will try as long as I can. Again thank you as always!! :hug: