Pissy Parent and the Poopy Playdoh

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  • PitterPatter
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Mar 2011
    • 1507

    Pissy Parent and the Poopy Playdoh

    I'm here with another dilema that I can not solve on my own so please offer me any advise you all may have.

    So 2 months ago I enrolled a 2 yr old little girl her Mom seems so nice and I was told by someone she was a good person so I thought great because I never get to have a reference on new clients! Well my first realization she wasn't that great was on payday the 1st week. She is a subsidized client so she only pays a portion which I allow, as I do everyone else, to pay at the end of the week. Well she ignores the receipt 3 times so I finally hand it to her and ask for payment. She then tells me she can only pay at the end of the month because that's how she is paid. Now we went over this at the interview and she agreed to pay at the end of the week we even entered her total and signed the contract. Being that 75% of the payment will come from state I overlooked it and just noted it in memory because I highly doubt she is being honest, she works 2 jobs no way they both happen to pay monthly.

    Next problem is she dresses her child in skinny jeans which I have to pry off many times a day and tug back on. Even worse is she has this 2 yr old in Pull ups so I have to totally remove the tight pants to get a new pull up on. She is not potty training her until she is 3 but that is in 2 months. No way will DGC be able to get these pants off! Pull ups have to be worn she says because DGC will take the diaper off and it will move around under her pants. UGH!

    Last and major problem is this child pulls poop out of her diaper and plays with it like play-doh!! I try to get to her as fast as I can but now it has become a game because the other children are grossed out and run away making her want to chase them with it. The first time she did it was during nap. She woke up and was lying there watching my bird play in it's cage. Finally I noticed a smell asked her if she pooped and she said yeah and pulled her hand out from under the blanket and had molded poop in her palm! She got it on the kids couch and blanket. She has long nails so it was shoved up under her nails and the smell made me gag until I threw up when I was trying to clean her up! I have been changing kids diapers for decades and never got sick or gagged like this. I couldn't get it all out from under her nails because she won't let me. She has done this 3 times now, about once a week maybe. As if that wasn't disgusting enough, when I confronted the Mother after this first time she laughed at me because I was still gagging as it had just happened 10 minutes before she came. My teen yelled at her saying it's not funny (he is already a germaphobe) which made her laugh harder! I then spoke up and said I don't find this funny I find it disgusting and a risk to everyones health. She laughed some more and said "Oh I forgot to tell you she does that we call it show and tell" OMG!!! REALLY?????

    So I calm down and tell her it's unacceptable and can't happen again. She then sniffs DCGs fingers and says yep show and tell. :confused:
    I said I couldn't get it all out she will need to soak in a tub maybe clip her nails to help. DCM says it's fine it will come out in the shower tomorrow morning she showers with me. TOMORROW??? GAG!! This poor child will eat dinner with poop under her nails?? So then DCG says she pooped Mom looks and sees nothing so she shoved her hand down in DCGs diaper FAR then looks at her fingers and said no she didn't WTH is wrong with this woman?? My son then hands her a clorox wipe she declines so he hands her a baby wipe she again declines. He said but you just had your fingers in her butt. DCM said yeah but there's no poop so it's fine besides I have been changing diapers for 14 years I'm not afraid of a little poop. Saddest part now is that this woman works in the food indusrty prepping and cooking meals!!! if she doesn't care to wash her hands after being in a child butt crack then Lord only knows what else is on her hands.

    Usually she has other people drop off and pick up so I only see her once or twice a week thank God but now I wonder what is on DCGs hands every day at arrival. Did she play with poop that morning or the night before and not been cleaned? What do I do to stop her from playing with her poop since DCM doesn't find it offensive at all?
  • Heidi
    Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2011
    • 7121

    #2
    "DCM, I feel like this daycare situation is not a good fit for either of us, so I am terminating care effective immediately".

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    • hope
      Daycare.com Member
      • Feb 2013
      • 1513

      #3
      I couldn't even finish reading because it completely grossed me out. Tell the dcm she needs footed one piece pajamas one size up and the child needs to wear those backwards every day. This will also resolve the skinny jeans/pull up issue. If your contract stated that payment is due on Fridays then turn her away Monday morning if she doesn't have the payment with late charge.

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      • AuntTami
        Daycare.com Member
        • Oct 2014
        • 891

        #4
        Originally posted by Heidi
        "DCM, I feel like this daycare situation is not a good fit for either of us, so I am terminating care effective immediately".

        absolutely 100% term, effective immediately. No amount of money is worth that. Sorry, I'm not sorry.

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        • PitterPatter
          Advanced Daycare.com Member
          • Mar 2011
          • 1507

          #5
          I thought about terming but really can't afford it. I just termed a boy a while back for aggression issues, some of you may recall. I can't keep terming kids, I'm a single income struggling already so I have to find ways to work around things. There are lots of daycares in my area competing for clients as it is. I'm still not full yet. A lady down the street is only charging $10 per day! CRAZY but she is always full and has a husband with an income so she can do it.

          The PJ idea is fabulous!!! Going to see if she will do that! Thank you all for the advise it is all appreciated!

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          • hope
            Daycare.com Member
            • Feb 2013
            • 1513

            #6
            Originally posted by PitterPatter
            I thought about terming but really can't afford it. I just termed a boy a while back for aggression issues, some of you may recall. I can't keep terming kids, I'm a single income struggling already so I have to find ways to work around things. There are lots of daycares in my area competing for clients as it is. I'm still not full yet. A lady down the street is only charging $10 per day! CRAZY but she is always full and has a husband with an income so she can do it.

            The PJ idea is fabulous!!! Going to see if she will do that! Thank you all for the advise it is all appreciated!
            I can't take credit. Nannyde has a video of it on youtube i think. Look it up. She has some really helpful tips if you watch her videos.

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            • Thriftylady
              Daycare.com Member
              • Aug 2014
              • 5884

              #7
              I would start interviewing and as soon as I found someone term. That is just beyond gross.

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              • hope
                Daycare.com Member
                • Feb 2013
                • 1513

                #8
                Originally posted by Thriftylady
                I would start interviewing and as soon as I found someone term. That is just beyond gross.
                It is funny how often we all post and discuss poop each day. But this takes the cake!

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                • Thriftylady
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Aug 2014
                  • 5884

                  #9
                  Originally posted by hope
                  It is funny how often we all post and discuss poop each day. But this takes the cake!
                  Discussing it I can handle, playing with it I have an issue with, and someone dealing with it the way this mom does well... just no.

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                  • laundrymom
                    Advanced Daycare.com Member
                    • Nov 2010
                    • 4177

                    #10
                    I would bathe her on arrival and search for replacement.

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                    • daycare
                      Advanced Daycare.com *********
                      • Feb 2011
                      • 16259

                      #11
                      Girl, I thought that I had all of the crazies.....you win...I could not even read all of it I was so grossed out.

                      Seriously I don't understand why this DCM thinks this is funny.

                      I would be looking to replace this child, but in the mean time i would tell dcm.
                      You child needs to come in the footed PJ like previous poster suggest or a onesie. Stool in a daycare environment is EXTREMELY UNSAFE.

                      I would type up a new contract stating that for health and safety issues your child must be dressed in clothing that does not allow them to have access to their feces. failure to comply with this will result in immediate termination of care without refund.

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                      • spedmommy4
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Mar 2015
                        • 935

                        #12
                        It sounds like the reactions she is getting are the reason she is doing is. Negative attention is still attention and if that (getting out her poop) is a method that works to get attention at home, she will try it with you too.

                        I agree with the others that preventing access is your best bet but, if she does do it again, you should not react. Your reaction and the kids reaction to her "poop antics" are the fun part for her. Separate her from the other kids immediately, don't speak to her except to say "I am going to clean you up now," and move on with your day like you don't care. Remove what is fun for her and the behavior should go away at your house.

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                        • Josiegirl
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Jun 2013
                          • 10834

                          #13
                          The PJs is a great idea, and would make changing easier too. But you also need to get paid her share on time. Stand firm and make her pay what she owes you now. If you don't stand firm, you can probably kiss whatever she owes you goodbye and just earn the 75% that's paid by the state.
                          Wow> Just wow. She's a piece of work isn't she?

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                          • Shell
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Jul 2013
                            • 1765

                            #14
                            Originally posted by Heidi
                            "DCM, I feel like this daycare situation is not a good fit for either of us, so I am terminating care effective immediately".


                            This is so gross! That mother....ugh! She's not going to change.

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                            • daycarediva
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Jul 2012
                              • 11698

                              #15
                              Here is what I would do.

                              2 week probation and the following has to change effective immediately.

                              DIAPERS. No more pullups. Backwards footed pj's.

                              PAYMENT on TIME, EVERY TIME.

                              If that didn't change, or at any time she failed to do that in the next two weeks, I would term effective immediately and take her to court for the balance.

                              Also- NO WAY would I want to PT this child, easy on/off clothing will just mean more poop digging. YUCK!

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