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  • blueskiesbutterflies
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2014
    • 87

    Lost Items...

    What would you do with this situation?

    I have a client who is getting on my last nerve! Everyday they have something to complain about or an issue.

    Last week, they dad picked up his child (A) and saw a cup on my desk. Of course, the cup had no name and I had no idea who it belonged to because just one day it was sitting on my desk with residue of milk in it. I washed it and put it back on my desk. Two days later, with no one claiming the cup the dad saw the cup and attempted to take it. He then asked my assistant where was the lid. I was in the bathroom with another child so my assistant came and ask me. I did not remember if it had a lid but I went and search for 20 min for the lid while he stood in my daycare room waiting. I finally told him I could not find it and really did not know what I was looking for. My assistant said the cup was not theirs it was another child (B) and it did not have a lid when it was brought in. I send a pic to the parent of child B who my assistant thought it belonged to and the mom said yes it was her cup and it did not have a lid. The next morning, the mother of child A was dropping off and said that she sat the cup on the cubby and it was her cup and she needed the lid. My assistant then left the daycare room. I heard their conversation...i was changing a diaper...and came into the room. I told them mother of child A that the cup belonged to another child and it came without a lid. Mean while, my assistant is searching for lid that does not exist within the daycare kitchen. The mom refused to believe it was someone elses and said that her cup was missing. I told her that it was not here and everyone should be writing their names on their items when brought into the daycare so this situation does not happen. The mom left...I then showed mom of child B at drop off if it was her cup and she said yes and took the cup. So, I emailed mom A and told her that the cup was sent home with child B and that it did belong to her. Mom of child A emailed no big deal...but made a big deal about it to begin with.

    Now, they have come to me 4 or 5 times with the complaint of missing earrings and earring backs. Their child is around 20 months old and I have never seen her pull at her earrings but seems to be losing them a lot. According to the parents she only loses them here!

    I have spend hours upon hours looking for lost earrings and earring back for these parents. I found a back one time and they claimed it wasnt theirs and I found another one this morning. I have spent the past two days looking for the missing earring and it was not to be found. However, I did find a gold back.

    Plain and simple, the earring could be outside, in a toy bin, toy box, stuck on a cot, in a toy, on a blanket, in their car....anywhere! I have three rooms that I use for my daycare and it could be anywhere.

    I am sorry she lost her earring...but I do not see why I have to continue to search hour after hour and dig through a nasty vac. to find it. Our daycare is cleaned three times a day and what is swept up is thrown in the trash and of course I don't feel like I should dig through trash full of dirty diapers and rotten food to find it. I feel bad that her earring is lost and I feel like they are saying it is my fault....honestly, it makes me feel like I am bad...



    Am I being mean? What would you all do?
  • Blackcat31
    • Oct 2010
    • 36124

    #2
    Wow.... that was a lot of fanfare for something that you should not be dealing with at all.

    EASY FIX:


    NO items brought from home. EVER.
    NO earrings without screwable (ie NON-removable) backs
    or NO earrings at all.

    That's it. That is all you have to do to fix all that.

    Except the family that complains constantly. Just start practicing this line:

    "DCM/DCD, if you are unhappy with the services I provide, please refer to your handbook on how to submit your written notice of termination. Thank you"

    Stop allowing them to make your life so chaotic.

    Not your monkeys, not your circus

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    • Thriftylady
      Daycare.com Member
      • Aug 2014
      • 5884

      #3
      Originally posted by Blackcat31

      Not your monkeys, not your circus
      Love this!!!

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      • Rockgirl
        Daycare.com Member
        • May 2013
        • 2204

        #4
        I agree with BC--nothing brought from home. I do allow earrings, but I am not responsible for keeping up with them, and the parents know this.

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        • Gemma
          Childcare Provider
          • Mar 2015
          • 1277

          #5
          I don't allow anything from home, either!

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          • hope
            Daycare.com Member
            • Feb 2013
            • 1513

            #6
            Earimg can be a pain in daycare. I had a child once that kept pulling them out and eating it during nap. Her ears were all red. I think she was actually allergic to them because she would scream and tug at her ears when they were in. I finally told dcm that she couldn't have them in here. Crazy that it would take me refusing care yo get her to see that this was a problem?????

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            • Second Home
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jan 2014
              • 1567

              #7
              I have in my handbook /policies that I am not responsible for lost or broken items . Even though I have a new no items or toys from home some things do sneak by in pockets .

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              • AmyKidsCo
                Daycare.com Member
                • Mar 2013
                • 3786

                #8
                Originally posted by Second Home
                I have in my handbook /policies that I am not responsible for lost or broken items . Even though I have a new no items or toys from home some things do sneak by in pockets .
                Me too. If an item comes in and becomes a problem I take it away. ITA about no earrings that can be removed - it's a safety hazard for other children.

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                • Silly Songs
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Jun 2014
                  • 705

                  #9
                  I agree with the above posters . Also , how much can a child's earring be worth ? Seriously , earring backs are super inexpensive. There is no reason to send anyone to search for a toddlers earring . Tell her " thank you for letting me know , I'll put it aside for you if I come across it ." That is what we do in our center .

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                  • daycare
                    Advanced Daycare.com *********
                    • Feb 2011
                    • 16259

                    #10
                    to me this sounds more like a power struggle they are having with you.

                    I had this family about 9 years ago and they basically took every chance to make me miserable and ran with it...

                    one time it was over a lost sock that they wanted me to pay for when i told them i could not find it.

                    Once it was over a hair pin when it was lost. they wanted me to pay for it when I said sorry our policy is no hair pin to begin with, please note that we are not responsible for lost or damaged items. Please see your PHB

                    the final straw was over a grocery bag. I flipped out over that. YUP they wanted this paper shopping bag they got from some grocery store in texas, where they are from. they brought it with dcks diapers in it one day, left it on my door step because they again forgot supplies.

                    I brought the bag in took out the diapers and threw the bag in the recycle bin.
                    3 days go by and the dcm asks me where it is. I look at her like you wanted that back........ she went off on me about how it was a special bag from her home town yada yada and I could not bite my tongue any longer and went off on her. I was very unprofessional and when I think back about it am a little embarrassed about it, but there is only so many times you can push someone from going over the edge.

                    Yeah they never came back, but I would have termed them if they didnt leave.

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                    • Josiegirl
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Jun 2013
                      • 10834

                      #11
                      Some of your dcps make me shake my head with disbelief. Amazing how trivial they can become. I don't think I've ever had anyone worry about a lost item. And it's happened. I was rearranging my playroom one day and found this cute little stuffed dog behind some shelves. I thought to myself, that looks like something R##### brought. So I set it aside and asked her, they couldn't remember.
                      Things are just that....things. Especially a sock or paper bag. OMG

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