I really need help with this infant

[Unregistered]

I have a now 7 month old in my dc. He's been here for 3 1/2 months now. I have had both of his siblings since babies too. They are like family to us that's what makes this so difficult.
This baby does not sleep well AT ALL. He does not sleep well at night or naps. He can get pretty fussy on days but considering the lack of sleep it's not as bad as you'd think it would be, but there are days more so than not that he just gets fussy, nothing helps. I know he is still in their bedroom at night and although she says he doesn't "sleep" with them I think he does. Ive tried the ferber method and nothing seems to work. She has talked with the doctor and she said they need to work with him and let him cry which she says they do but it has not improved at all. We've talked about this on numerous occassions and they are well aware, they have taken him to the doctor every things seems fine. She (mom) has labeled him a "high needs" baby, if this is true will he always be like this?
Does anyone have any ideas?

[Gemma]

I don't have any suggestions, I just wanted to say that I've had a couple of this so called "high needs" babies, and both of them turned out to be great fit, in time....so if you can hang in there:hug:

[Shell]

It's becoming an epidemic- parents don't let their babies cry or learn to self soothe, many put them into their beds so the baby associates being held with the comfort of sleeping, and we cannot replicate that in GROUP care.
My only advice is that you have to let the child cry- a baby this age needs sleep, and this current situation Isn't working.
Lay baby down drowsy, but awake. Go in every 5 mins and pat and shhh, then extend it each time.
You may have already tried, but it's the only thing that will work. And, it does work- just takes lots of time and patience.

[Thriftylady]

It's becoming an epidemic- parents don't let their babies cry or learn to self soothe, many put them into their beds so the baby associates being held with the comfort of sleeping, and we cannot replicate that in GROUP care.
My only advice is that you have to let the child cry- a baby this age needs sleep, and this current situation Isn't working.
Lay baby down drowsy, but awake. Go in every 5 mins and pat and shhh, then extend it each time.
You may have already tried, but it's the only thing that will work. And, it does work- just takes lots of time and patience.

I agree with this. Hopefully in time, he will learn that things are just different at home and at your house.

[jessica55418]

It's becoming an epidemic- parents don't let their babies cry or learn to self soothe, many put them into their beds so the baby associates being held with the comfort of sleeping, and we cannot replicate that in GROUP care.
My only advice is that you have to let the child cry- a baby this age needs sleep, and this current situation Isn't working.
Lay baby down drowsy, but awake. Go in every 5 mins and pat and shhh, then extend it each time.
You may have already tried, but it's the only thing that will work. And, it does work- just takes lots of time and patience.

I agree with this too. But if the parents aren't doing this at home, you might still have the same problem until they get on board.

[Unregistered]

Thank you. He is fine if I stand next to the play pen but the second I start inching away he starts screaming, he's never crying, just screaming at the top of his lungs. I talked with mom again last night and she did admit that it's hard on weekends because they are always on the go and he was held all weekend for naps, she again said we will watch that again and apologized. I told her unless they work with him at home I didn't think it would work for me here. She said as soon as they move they'll be able to get him out of their room and work on it more but they'll work with naps. He nurses 3-4 times at night, he's almost 8 months he doesn't need to that much at night, so pretty sure she does it just so they all have peace and quiet.