Worth Trying to Salvage Relationship with DCP?

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Frankly, telling a parent that they had such a bad day with a child that they felt like driving them off somewhere to leave is HORRIBLE. It indicates a huge lack of professionalism, boundaries, and knowledge. It's okay to vent - to another provider, a spouse, etc. You don't say that to a parent. It was kind of you to be understanding, but I truely want to convey to you just how very inappropriate her saying that was.
On top of that she's flat out LYING. And making YOU look bad because of it
I would be looking for other care - either a top notch home provider, or a very good center - places where the staff have a higher than average education level. Maybe it won't amount to much, but they may have more experience/training in child development and better document your DSD's needs. Maybe check with DSD's therapists and see what their recommendations are? They often work with kids at their day cares so they might have a better picture of what is going on during the day. But I don't think staying where you are is a good idea. And you can even say that her therapists recommended she go to ABC day care because of therapy if you are uncomfortable leaving the current DCP since there seems to be a friendship with your DH.

I think it's a good idea to find a new place also. A teacher that's more objective could really help the family.

[Unregistered]

OP here.

I just wanted to thank everybody for their thoughts.

It is an odd situation. I have briefly mentioned to DH before that I wasn't sure this daycare was the best place for her. I will bring it up again and discuss it with him.