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  • Snowbunny
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Jul 2012
    • 17

    I really need some input here.

    The first week in January, I had a 2 yr. old boy start here at daycare. He had been at his previous daycare about 1 1/2 yrs. He will be 3 yrs. old in about a week. He is adopted, half white/half native american. He was an only child until late Dec. when his parents adopted a baby girl. He started out hitting and kicking a 2 yr. old girl here at daycare, and didn't do anything to another girl who is just slightly older than him, and a couple inches taller. At first, I thought he was just picking on the little girl because she was smaller. I have been keeping his parents updated on his behavior and they have talked to him at home about it. Up until last week, they had not seen him do any hitting or kicking here at daycare, but the last few days they've dropped him off, he goes over to the girls and hits them. Not hard, but hits them just the same. His parents response both times was just saying his name. Lately, he has been hitting the older girl. Today, it's just him and the older (3 yrs. old) girl, and he has been mean to her a lot. When I talk to him about being nice, using soft touches, or even "keep your hands to yourself", it seems like it isn't even registering with him. I recently found out he was kicked out of another daycare when he was 16 months old. Yeah, 16 months.
    I'm beginning to think there are some deeper issues here, other than just being a 2-3 yr. old boy. I've been doing daycare for just over 25 years, and I've never had a child like this. Does anyone have any suggestions? What can I suggest to his parents without them thinking that I am crazy? I have some ideas of what might be at the root of his problem, but I'm really looking for some input from you people here. TIA!
  • Thriftylady
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2014
    • 5884

    #2
    I would suggest his parents seek therapy. After having done foster care, I can tell you that in most cases adopting a "healthy, happy" baby are not great. The only chance is to get them into your family at birth and even then depending on certain things (like did mom drink while preggo) that they may have no clue about can cause issues. If I was in there shoes, I would want to figure it out now! Maybe approach it with your experience "mom and dad in my 25 years I have never seen this have you spoken with a doctor or therapist?".

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    • Snowbunny
      New Daycare.com Member
      • Jul 2012
      • 17

      #3
      Thanks, Thriftylady. I have seriously been thinking about saying something like that. I'm going to keep documenting things as I have been, and hopefully I can do it soon. I really just wanted to get some input from other providers, as I have never dealt with a child like this. Thanks again!

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