Schedules, Who's Responsible?

[finsup]

I have a PT family with rotating days (I know, I know, never again ) in the past there has been some issues with scheduling. I require that they let me know what days/hours they will be needing by 5pm Saturday. They know if they do not, space will not be available to them. I had to enforce this for this week. So here's where I'm struggling. DCD gives me his schedule at the start of the week and what days DCB needs (he only ever NEEDS 2 days but he sends him for 3) now that would be great, but, DCM gets her schedule at the end of the week. If she is off on a day that he has marked off as DCB "needs" she will not send him (which is great). What happened this week was DCM checked with me what days he was coming, said she would keep him the one she was off and dad would let me know if he was going to add a different one. Well I messaged DCD Sunday to verify times and he said he will be there three days (just added in a different one instead of the one mom was off). I said sorry but given that you did not contact me yesterday, I assumed you did not need care for the additional day and do not have space. He wasn't happy. So now I've got his schedule for 2 weeks, minus moms days off. I see mom on Friday. Do I ask her? Check in with her if she is off any of those days? Or just wait and put it all on them to let me know, since that is what we have agreed on?

[Jack Sprat]

I'm confused...But, I think this falls on the parents. I would tell them that they to talk to each other first, then let you know by Sat @ 5 what days they need.

[Unregistered]

I wouldn't remind. That's too much work, they should be doing it. I had a dcm do the same and even though I had room I was sick of her doing it so i said I couldn't do it. I like my week scheduled. That's just how I roll.

[finsup]

Lol tell me about it...its confusing enough for me to keep track of, let alone try and explain it to others! But yeah, most likely staying out of it and letting them figure it out is probably my best bet.

[AuntTami]

I wouldn't be reminding either. I would tell them that they need to coordinate days between them and you need to know by Saturday at noon(or something similar) which days they will need for the upcoming week. I wouldn't even attempt to figure it out for them. That's not your responsibility. It's theirs

[finsup]

I wouldn't remind. That's too much work, they should be doing it. I had a dcm do the same and even though I had room I was sick of her doing it so i said I couldn't do it. I like my week scheduled. That's just how I roll.

Yes exactly!! I have told them this several times. I like to know what I'm doing, who's coming and going when and I like to know it BEFORE kids show up on Monday! Maybe if they loose enough days they'll get it .

[Unregistered]

Yes exactly!! I have told them this several times. I like to know what I'm doing, who's coming and going when and I like to know it BEFORE kids show up on Monday! Maybe if they loose enough days they'll get it .

Yes they will. Some people have to learn the hard way,

[Thriftylady]

I am struggling with this right now and figuring out how I want to deal with it. She pays without complaint but if her kids are not going to be here in the morning I don't need to get up as early. I really have to do something about her letting me know if the kids will only be here in the afternoon before she texts me two hours later saying so.

[Unregistered]

I am struggling with this right now and figuring out how I want to deal with it. She pays without complaint but if her kids are not going to be here in the morning I don't need to get up as early. I really have to do something about her letting me know if the kids will only be here in the afternoon before she texts me two hours later saying so.

Do you get paid if they no show?

[Thriftylady]

Do you get paid if they no show?

Yes she pays the same regardless. I guess to me in my situation it is just about common courtesy and manners. And the fact that if hubby is driving at night I try to stay on the phone with him because he is an early riser and I worry about him when they flop his driving hours. And if she can text "I am dropping them off at school now they won't be there this morning", why can she text earlier that they won't be coming?

[finsup]

Yes she pays the same regardless. I guess to me in my situation it is just about common courtesy and manners. And the fact that if hubby is driving at night I try to stay on the phone with him because he is an early riser and I worry about him when they flop his driving hours. And if she can text "I am dropping them off at school now they won't be there this morning", why can she text earlier that they won't be coming?

Yup I don't get it. Its like they have zero regard for anyone else, just worry about what they're doing. When this first started happening I emailed them why I was upset and what would need to happen from now on. As you can see it hasn't worked great but it has improved some. Maybe start imposing consequences if they don't tell you? That seems to be the only way the family I have is going to get it :/

[Unregistered]

Yes she pays the same regardless. I guess to me in my situation it is just about common courtesy and manners. And the fact that if hubby is driving at night I try to stay on the phone with him because he is an early riser and I worry about him when they flop his driving hours. And if she can text "I am dropping them off at school now they won't be there this morning", why can she text earlier that they won't be coming?

I had some parents do the same. I was paid like you but it's very irritating to get up early when they don't show! I finally just quit offering that service to them. Maybe do that or tell her she needs to tell you the day before if they ARE coming. And don't answer the door if she doesnt!!

[cara041083]

I think I would tell them that you need a schedule at Sat by 5. then when mom comes in and says she will keep DCB home a day and then the dad tries to add a day, I would tell him "sorry that wasn't on the schedule I got Sat". It sounds like they are taking advantage of days being used for what works for them. I tried to do part time once and I has alot of these issues. Some people have great luck with it, I didn't.

[cara041083]

I also would add that if they want the extra day or to change a day, charge them for an extra day. Explain to Dad that you had these 3 days booked and if they need to change days it will be a fee of XXX since they are taking up a spot for 4 days now. He may argue "well DCB isn't going to be here on tues" but he needs to understand that you planned on what days the baby would be there and then they changed. Put it back on them.

[finsup]

I also would add that if they want the extra day or to change a day, charge them for an extra day. Explain to Dad that you had these 3 days booked and if they need to change days it will be a fee of XXX since they are taking up a spot for 4 days now. He may argue "well DCB isn't going to be here on tues" but he needs to understand that you planned on what days the baby would be there and then they changed. Put it back on them.

Oh! That is a GREAT idea!! Thank you