In home dc w no backup- gastroenteritis

[Unregistered]

All families came quickly and were understanding and totally sympathetic and not concerned about having to pick up except one giving me a guilt trip that they had no sick time or could only leave for emergencies. Eventually they showed up. They weren't happy. My contract states I will provide backup ** if **there is one available. They told me they understand the stress of me being sick but it puts stress on them also.
How frustrating.
I don't want to be puking and pooping every 5 min I assure you.

[Shell]

All families came quickly and were understanding and totally sympathetic and not concerned about having to pick up except one giving me a guilt trip that they had no sick time or could only leave for emergencies. Eventually they showed up. They weren't happy. My contract states I will provide backup ** if **there is one available. They told me they understand the stress of me being sick but it puts stress on them also.
How frustrating.
I don't want to be puking and pooping every 5 min I assure you.

Ugh! You poor thing! I'm right there with you- I had a dcb throw up on me earlier this week, and last night out of the blue, my dh stared vomiting violently all night! I was up all night with him and was stressed out to the max thinking, what if I have to take him to the hospital with dehydration?
I decided to close, as I also felt incredibly nauseous myself.
My dc parents were all very understanding, but I feel a little upset about putting them out, it was a new dcg's first day, too, and I had to cancel.
We have to do what is best for ourselves, and if you're not feeling well, you can't be expected to work!

[Play Care]

All families came quickly and were understanding and totally sympathetic and not concerned about having to pick up except one giving me a guilt trip that they had no sick time or could only leave for emergencies. Eventually they showed up. They weren't happy. My contract states I will provide backup ** if **there is one available. They told me they understand the stress of me being sick but it puts stress on them also.
How frustrating.
I don't want to be puking and pooping every 5 min I assure you.

I am glad the majority of your families were supportive. If you can't term the last family immediately ( I would) then start looking for a replacment. When you chose in home care you know this is a possibility.

[permanentvacation]

I wish I had maternity leave!! Here's my delivery story:

I went into labor with my second daughter while doing daycare. The older children were on their way walking home from school and the little ones were in my house. I started having contractions. I recorded my contractions and called my doctor. She said to go in so she could check me. I had my substitute come over to finish doing daycare for me. Just before the school kids arrived, one of their mothers who was also a friend of mine happened to come early to pick her daughter up. She and her daughter went with my daughter (both girls age 4) and me to the doctor's. She wanted to drive, but since I knew the way, and I'm a control freak, I demanded that I drive.

We went to the doctor's office. My water broke as I was getting on the examination table. I went to the bathroom to see if I need to pee or if my water had broken. I sat on the toilet and could not get up because all of my muscles were pushing downward to naturally deliver the baby! I yelled through the office for my doctor. The nurse and doctor helped me lay on the floor and I gave birth right there on the bathroom floor of the doctor's office!

They made the baby and I stay in the hospital that night and released us later the next day. The following morning, at 6 am, I did daycare!

I did have my father and his girlfriend there to do daycare for me, but they were handing the children the wrong colored cups and the kids were saying, 'No, the blue one is Tommy's. Mine is green." I knew it was bothering my father and girlfriend that they weren't getting the cup thing right and they were keeping me awake anyway, so I got up and did daycare! I sent my dad and his girlfriend home that night and told them that I'd be fine to do daycare myself. So, I only took 1 1/2 days off work when I had my daughter!

My husband (at the time), however, stayed laying in bed and did whatever he pleased as if he were on maternity leave.

[permanentvacation]

Unregistered,

See, that's about how it would go in my area if you didn't close too much. Most of the parents would understand, but one or two would complain. If they complained, you could pretty much guarantee that they will find another daycare soon.

Since I am a single mother, it really affects me financially if I lose a child. So I do my best to put my income ahead of my health needs. Which is sad, but that's the way I have to do things so I keep my bills paid.

I'm glad that you were able to close and hope you feel better soon.

[Unregistered]

It's very frustrating. Here I feel like I'm dying with a stomach bug and they're upset with me for it

[Play Care]

It's very frustrating. Here I feel like I'm dying with a stomach bug and they're upset with me for it

Get them out of your head and rest! :hug:

Some people will always complain and you can't take it personally. Take heart with the fact the *majority* of your families were understanding. That's a good sign.

I had a dcparent tell me my vacation was too long last year. I took the same vacation this year... He's still here...

I am not a martyr provider. If I'm sick, I close.

[permanentvacation]

Yep! You will get parents like that. But I bet she takes off work every time she gets a little headache! Don't let it worry you now. You've closed for the day so you can get rest and try to get better. Don't let that one parent make your day worse. Forget about that parent for now and focus on taking care of yourself.

[lilcupcakes09]

I have a parent who fits this to a T!!! Last year dcb gets strep throat, she keeps him home one day, the day after picking him up from school and taking him the dr, the bare minimum she had to as he had to be on antibiotics for 24hrs before returning to me or school. He wasn't really feeling well enough for school but nothing I could do about it. She comes down with it the following week and takes off an ENTIRE WEEK!!! But yet it's difficult for her to take off or make any school functions ugh!!!
This is why I don't feel back taking off here and there.

Yep! You will get parents like that. But I bet she takes off work every time she gets a little headache! Don't let it worry you now. You've closed for the day so you can get rest and try to get better. Don't let that one parent make your day worse. Forget about that parent for now and focus on taking care of yourself.

[momofboys]

I wish I had maternity leave!! Here's my delivery story:

I went into labor with my second daughter while doing daycare. The older children were on their way walking home from school and the little ones were in my house. I started having contractions. I recorded my contractions and called my doctor. She said to go in so she could check me. I had my substitute come over to finish doing daycare for me. Just before the school kids arrived, one of their mothers who was also a friend of mine happened to come early to pick her daughter up. She and her daughter went with my daughter (both girls age 4) and me to the doctor's. She wanted to drive, but since I knew the way, and I'm a control freak, I demanded that I drive.

We went to the doctor's office. My water broke as I was getting on the examination table. I went to the bathroom to see if I need to pee or if my water had broken. I sat on the toilet and could not get up because all of my muscles were pushing downward to naturally deliver the baby! I yelled through the office for my doctor. The nurse and doctor helped me lay on the floor and I gave birth right there on the bathroom floor of the doctor's office!

They made the baby and I stay in the hospital that night and released us later the next day. The following morning, at 6 am, I did daycare!

I did have my father and his girlfriend there to do daycare for me, but they were handing the children the wrong colored cups and the kids were saying, 'No, the blue one is Tommy's. Mine is green." I knew it was bothering my father and girlfriend that they weren't getting the cup thing right and they were keeping me awake anyway, so I got up and did daycare! I sent my dad and his girlfriend home that night and told them that I'd be fine to do daycare myself. So, I only took 1 1/2 days off work when I had my daughter!

My husband (at the time), however, stayed laying in bed and did whatever he pleased as if he were on maternity leave.

I understand the point you are making but you have to take time for yourself. lovethis You are setting yourself up for sickness or too much stress when you don't take time for yourself. Back to work after having a baby just a few days later? I don't think I would have brought my child to a provider who just had a baby a day or two before even with a backup in place.

[laundrymom]

I understand the point you are making but you have to take time for yourself. lovethis You are setting yourself up for sickness or too much stress when you don't take time for yourself. Back to work after having a baby just a few days later? I don't think I would have brought my child to a provider who just had a baby a day or two before even with a backup in place.

Mine were almost the same as hers. 2 days for child 1. 4 for child two. 9 for child three ( she was thoughtful enough to be born the week before mem day so I already had vaca scheduled. Lol) and the fourth baby I took off 7 days.
But... I had easy deliveries and was out and about hours after birth. Signed myself and baby out ama 3 times.
I really had no problems w it.

[e.j.]

It's very frustrating. Here I feel like I'm dying with a stomach bug and they're upset with me for it

Stomach bugs are usually pretty contagious. As soon as they come down with it, they'll have a better understanding as to why you needed to take time off! Karma!

I hope you feel better soon.

[permanentvacation]

Yeah, I was shocked that people actually expected me to be open and literally brought their kids to daycare knowing that I had just giving birth! The parents didn't care! They wanted their daycare so they could go to work! You would think they would have said, 'No, you rest, we'll get Grandmom to watch our child' or something, but nope. They didn't miss a beat in bringing their kids to daycare!

But it was fine. Both of my children were born with naturally and with no complications. I could have given birth in a potato farm and kept on picking potatoes!

[momofboys]

Yeah, I was shocked that people actually expected me to be open and literally brought their kids to daycare knowing that I had just giving birth! The parents didn't care! They wanted their daycare so they could go to work! You would think they would have said, 'No, you rest, we'll get Grandmom to watch our child' or something, but nope. They didn't miss a beat in bringing their kids to daycare!

But it was fine. Both of my children were born with naturally and with no complications. I could have given birth in a potato farm and kept on picking potatoes!

Sorry you had to deal w/that but it sounds like it worked out okay!

[permanentvacation]

Yeah. I was shocked that they actually brought their children to daycare when they knew I just had the baby the day before! You know all of them took at least 6 weeks off! I really expected them to tell me to take a couple of days or a week off after having the baby, but nope! They all came the day after I had her. I honestly couldn't believe it. But whatcha' gonna do? I went with the flow and did what I had to do.