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I have a 14mo dck who wakes up after an hour long nap. Sleeps up to three at home. Made modifications to bed, sleep space, etc. Still no improvement, so now I am letting him cry until nap is over. Is this bad/mean? The poor thing has been crying for about 15 min now - with 15 more minutes until nap is over. I want to get him, but at the same time he should be learning that this is naptime right? What do you think?
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No, I personally don't think you're being mean.
I've honestly tried the alternatives; getting a child that young up, but they have no sense of quiet, and so then wake everyone else, too.
I don't GET it, honestly! Both my friend and I remember ours playing in bed, waking happily, talking to themselves for a while. So many of my daycare kids come here expecting to be OUT as soon as their eyes are open or holy he** breaks loose! -
I would let him cry as well.Comment
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There is no problem with crying a bit. Today my son and grandson were here. He started to cry at nap and son ran in and got him. If they would have left him be, he would have been asleep again in a couple of minutes, because that is how it works at grandma's. At least when dad isn't here.Comment
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I have been doing this with my DD (15m) and she wakes up half way though nap time, cries a bit and then sleeps for another hour. If I get her up, the afternoon is awful
. I would pat, tuck back in etc every 5-10min, but I wouldn't get him up.
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Can you slip a book in his bed after he's asleep, in case he wakes up early? I have 20 mo olds who often wake up mid-nap and after 10-15 minutes of crying/whining they go back to sleep. They've napped this way for months - it's just their habit...Comment
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I want to point out that a 14 month old isnt a "baby." We do a grave disservice to children when we extend the infancy period past one year, IMO...
At that age I may peek in to ensure the child was okay (clean diaper, not sick, etc) but I would not pick the child up otherwise.Comment
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That's the unfortunate aspect of "group care". You can't cater to every single child and need to do what's best for the group. If parents didn't want their kids to cry they should stay at home with them
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Op here. I caved shortly after posting (you know, answers never come as fast as you want,)and as soon as I saw him, I realized he was crying more as a tantrum than anything. I agree 14 months is no longer a "baby", but right now he is my youngest and that's why I refer to him that way - plus he's a first born, so he is more baby like than my most recent second borns have been. I am glad everyone agrees to let him cry because I felt so bad being the big meanie, especially knowing that the parents would never let him cry. We will see how today goes. It's nap time now.
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I also let them cry, I sometimes may go in and lay them back down gently if they get too upset. My opinion is if they wake up fussing, they aren't ready to get up. Kids who have had enough sleep wake up quiet and happy, sometimes I don't even notice they are up immediately because they are so quiet and content after their nap.Comment
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He is old enough to learn that things are different at daycare and at home. My grandson is that age and has figured it out and I only have him a few times a month. It amazes me how fast his behavior changes when his parents walk inOp here. I caved shortly after posting (you know, answers never come as fast as you want,)and as soon as I saw him, I realized he was crying more as a tantrum than anything. I agree 14 months is no longer a "baby", but right now he is my youngest and that's why I refer to him that way - plus he's a first born, so he is more baby like than my most recent second borns have been. I am glad everyone agrees to let him cry because I felt so bad being the big meanie, especially knowing that the parents would never let him cry. We will see how today goes. It's nap time now..
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When my own child wakes up crying or refuses to nap I don't get her up either! There is a set time to be in bed and she needs to learn that.Comment
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