One Pick Up/ Drop Off Exceptions

[daycare]

I have always had the rule that every family has one drop off/ pick up per day, however, I have set of siblings boy/girl.

the girl has been having some bladder issues and needs to go see a specialist. DCP do not want to take the DCB because of the type of appointment they are gong to and does not want older brother seeing all his sisters privates.
I agreed to allow the DCB to stay and only have DCG picked up.


Well dcg thought today was the day she was getting picked up early and started to get he shoes and jacket on.

as soon as she did this, dcb started to FREAK out scream crying,. throwing himself on the ground and then trying to make himself throw up.

I text dcm who said no appt is Friday not today. I can't get dck to calm down (age 4) and it's been going on now for almost 30 minutes.

I don't want to send dck home for the sole purpose of his episode would be a reward, but if I can't get him to stop I might have to. Would you send home for this reason?

Also, knowing that the child is going to act out like this and his sister did not even leave today only is a preview for what will happen on Friday. Do you think that I should retract my offer to let him stay after his huge fit today?

Thanks for your help

[daycare]

anyone..???? or am I the only one that has this policy???

[Thriftylady]

Well it could be that DCB would act differently if he knew ahead of time. When Friday comes I would say early in the day "hey DCB, your sister has to go do xyz today, you really won't enjoy that so you get to stay here and play! When she leaves I expect you to behave like "xyz' or you will have to get a time out". And then remind him shortly before she leaves.

[daycare]

Well it could be that DCB would act differently if he knew ahead of time. When Friday comes I would say early in the day "hey DCB, your sister has to go do xyz today, you really won't enjoy that so you get to stay here and play! When she leaves I expect you to behave like "xyz' or you will have to get a time out". And then remind him shortly before she leaves.

I think one of the issues is that the dcg is getting picked up at nap time.....

Also, dcp have been talking about it all week and the kid knows. we talked about it at drop off just this morning and it was said right in front of dcb. so he thought all day today that the little sis was going to leave...

Knowing this, do you think I should tell them that I need for him to also be picked up on friday as well?

[Unregistered]

We have a policy of no drop off between 1200 and 200 pm due to naptime. They can pickup whenever they choose to just not between these times.

[daycare]

We have a policy of no drop off between 1200 and 200 pm due to naptime. They can pickup whenever they choose to just not between these times.

sorry I meant to say that they are picking up right as everyone goes down for nap. NOt during actual nap time. we nap 1-3, child will be picked up right before that.

[spinnymarie]

I would probably address this with the kid, and tell mom that she needs to talk to him at home about how to behave during this situation and what will happen if he does/doesn't.
I wouldn't make them bring him to the appointment, though.

[daycare]

I would probably address this with the kid, and tell mom that she needs to talk to him at home about how to behave during this situation and what will happen if he does/doesn't.
I wouldn't make them bring him to the appointment, though.

I agree that I would not want him to have to go to the appointment either, but it took me almost an hour and 20 minutes to calm this child down who never actually stopped crying, but did quiet down. the other kids could not nap because of it. so now I have a house full of kids that are a train wreck due to this kid screaming like someone was trying to kill him all during nap time.

I am thinking that it may be in their best interest to not even send dcg girl tomorrow at all to avoid this happened at nap time or pick her up much earlier in the day. I refuse to allow another day like today happen again.

this is exactly why I have the one pick up per day per family rule.

[daycare]

I would probably address this with the kid, and tell mom that she needs to talk to him at home about how to behave during this situation and what will happen if he does/doesn't.
I wouldn't make them bring him to the appointment, though.

I agree that I would not want him to have to go to the appointment either, but it took me almost an hour and 20 minutes to calm this child down who never actually stopped crying, but did quiet down. the other kids could not nap because of it. so now I have a house full of kids that are a train wreck due to this kid screaming like someone was trying to kill him all during nap time.

I am thinking that it may be in their best interest to not even send dcg girl tomorrow at all to avoid this happened at nap time or pick her up much earlier in the day. I refuse to allow another day like today happen again.

this is exactly why I have the one pick up per day per family rule.

[spinnymarie]

What did you decide? How did it go?

[jenboo]

I would explain what happened and say that that need to take DCB with or schedule it after nap.
I'f DCB was hysterical, he would need to sit in a crying corner. I would do my best to move on with our day.

[TheGoodLife]

I like the idea of changing it to keeping DCG out all day. Or explain that if it did happen that someone would have to pick up if he didn't calm after 20 minutes- you can't disrupt everyone's routine and much-needed nap time for one child.

[daycare]

Well I still have not made my decision. The doc appt is not until tomorrow so I'm trying to decide what I should do.

I am going to tell DCM tonight at pick up her options of
1. DcG does not come at all
2. If Dcb does not scream cries at pick up but starts after and cries past 30 min someone's going to have to come pick him up.
3. If Dcb is scream crying at their pick up he has go with them.

Today the sister asked do I go to the doctors today and dck started up again. I told him stop right now. You are safe you are ok and there is no reason to be screaming. If you want to be sad that's fine, but you will not scream.

I can't just leave him in a crying spot because it's nap time and I need him quiet so the others can nap.

[Unregistered]

Dcm should look into a better time.....

[jenboo]

Well I still have not made my decision. The doc appt is not until tomorrow so I'm trying to decide what I should do.

I am going to tell DCM tonight at pick up her options of
1. DcG does not come at all
2. If Dcb does not scream cries at pick up but starts after and cries past 30 min someone's going to have to come pick him up.
3. If Dcb is scream crying at their pick up he has go with them.

Today the sister asked do I go to the doctors today and dck started up again. I told him stop right now. You are safe you are ok and there is no reason to be screaming. If you want to be sad that's fine, but you will not scream.

I can't just leave him in a crying spot because it's nap time and I need him quiet so the others can nap.

I think those are solid options. And if there is a next time, tell them it cannot be during nap.