Consequences For The Child Who Doesn't Care About Consequences?

[Josiegirl]

If you do decide to go the incentive sticker chart route, they have some cool character ones online. You'd have to do a search(I didn't save the sites I found) But the dcks and I would check out all the ones they had and each child picked their own. Everything from Dora to Batman.

[Rockgirl]

If you do decide to go the incentive sticker chart route, they have some cool character ones online. You'd have to do a search(I didn't save the sites I found) But the dcks and I would check out all the ones they had and each child picked their own. Everything from Dora to Batman.

That's great! Thanks.

[jenboo]

You can't make a child "care" about a consequence or privilege. You just can't. I had to let go of my emotional investment in their behavior for my sanity a long time ago.

You can control what they are allowed to do/play and where. Like a pp said. Completely reign them in. I had to do this recently with a 4yo. For several days I would give him different activities to do "Now you get to do a puzzle at the table, now you get to play legos on the floor, now you get to paint...oh you made a bad choice paint, so now you get to sit with the stuffed animals until everyone else is done..." After several days I would give him 2 choices. "Would you like to play a board game or do a puzzle now?" It took several weeks of 2 steps forward and one step back, but he got it. It was exhausting for me at first to always be a step ahead, planning his choices, but it worked. :hug:

This doesn't work for the child I have.
If I have him two choices of things to do at the table, he would get up and run around the room. If I gave him two options of toys to play with, he would get something else. If I took that away, he would get a different toy. If I put him in a super yard, he would push it around the room. If he has to be my shadow, I literally have to hold him the whole time.

[Unregistered]

You could tell mom if he continues that you will call her to pick him up. Let her deal with punishing him. She will either make him mind your rules or miss out on a lot of work.

[daycare]

I second hitting that ignore button....

I call children like this the slot machine kid.

they put a quarter in and hit the jackpot one time, so they keep putting that quarter back in to see if they can hit that jackpot again....it's like a rush to them just trying to see if they are going to hit that jackpot again..

I would just ignore and move on....I know the child may seem old to redirect, but that's exactly what I would do.

kid kicks a block box- I would pick them up and put them away, say no thank you and give them a car to push on the floor. Move on to something else.

I would also try to tell the child what they could do instead of what they can't do. This might make therm feel empowered.

[Josiegirl]

You could tell mom if he continues that you will call her to pick him up. Let her deal with punishing him. She will either make him mind your rules or miss out on a lot of work.

Not directing this at just your reply, but I've seen many times where a provider would send a child home for bad misbehavior and want the parent to handle it. How would a parent handle it and would it be successful?

My thought rereading this issue this a.m. was to block off a corner of your daycare room, install a punching bag and let him go at it. Maybe he'll tire himself out from all his aggressiveness and sleep the rest of the day.

Maybe keeping him separated from all his friends, then letting him back in and see how he interacts. As soon as he misbehaves again, back to his own place he goes. Can you keep him separate with a gate or something? Just a thought.

[Rockgirl]

Not directing this at just your reply, but I've seen many times where a provider would send a child home for bad misbehavior and want the parent to handle it. How would a parent handle it and would it be successful?

My thought rereading this issue this a.m. was to block off a corner of your daycare room, install a punching bag and let him go at it. Maybe he'll tire himself out from all his aggressiveness and sleep the rest of the day.

Maybe keeping him separated from all his friends, then letting him back in and see how he interacts. As soon as he misbehaves again, back to his own place he goes. Can you keep him separate with a gate or something? Just a thought.

My playroom has several area rugs...he stays on one pretty well if I tell him to. Sometimes I do have him stay on one with one toy or a few books. I may have to just keep doing that for awhile, while everyone else goes about their day, along with having him follow me to the bathroom every time. Maybe even bring a little rug into my dining room while I prepare meals in the kitchen. Thank you for the ideas!

[daycare]

how long has this been going on?

Reason that I ask, is that this child just may not be a good fit for your program. You could move mountains and pee gold and the child would still do this.

I had a child that I tried to keep by making all of these special arrangements for them. It was a horrible year. Looking back I now realize that the child just was not a good fit for my environment or program. they needed something that I could not give. It was not my fault or the child's fault. it just simply was not a good fit.

I suffered, the child suffered and the other kids did too. I so regret trying to keep that child......

[Rockgirl]

how long has this been going on?

Reason that I ask, is that this child just may not be a good fit for your program. You could move mountains and pee gold and the child would still do this.

I had a child that I tried to keep by making all of these special arrangements for them. It was a horrible year. Looking back I now realize that the child just was not a good fit for my environment or program. they needed something that I could not give. It was not my fault or the child's fault. it just simply was not a good fit.

I suffered, the child suffered and the other kids did too. I so regret trying to keep that child......

He's been like this off and on for the last 4-5 months....has been with me for about a year and a half. He used to do great! The last time things got really bad, around Christmas, I said I would never let things get to that point again. We are not quite there yet, but it's not good, either. You are right....this may not be the place for him. I'm going to try these new changes for awhile, and if there's not a BIG improvement, I will let him go.