3 Yr Old Boys and Butt Issues

[lovemykidstoo]

I have 2 three year old boys that are obsessed with butts. They continuously want to touch each others butts, talk about each others butts and today both of them at the same time, leaned over and smelled a 4 yr old boys butt. I'm at my witts end. How do I stop this? I've talked to them, I've put them in time out, I"ve talked to parents and they do the same thing. HELP!

[nothingwithoutjoy]

My best solution is to normalize it to the point that it's no longer funny. I've had kids who love to talk about poop all the time respond well to many many readings of "Everybody Poops." Oh--you talk about it, too? It's just something normal? Must not be so funny after all. The more taboo it is, the more interesting, you know?

My kids love the book "Chicken Cheeks," which has lots of different words for animal behinds (at the very least, you might get some more-interesting vocabulary!). And I just peeked on Amazon to see if there was something else for you and found "The Butt Book."

[Starburst]

I noticed most little boys are obsessed with butts. One little boy at a co-op I student tought at once spanked me (this boy did have other behavioral issues). A 3 year old I used to watch thought butts were funny. Even one of my mom's friends always makes jokes about my mom's butt, which he calls 'her brisket' (we call him her gay husband).

[lovemykidstoo]

I don't mind really the butt jokes, but it's crossing the line in some instances. The whole wanting to touch someone else's butt or putting his face down by someone's butt and smelling is not making a couple of parents happy

[SilverSabre25]

boys, and kids in general, and heck many adults even, find body/potty humor absolutely hilarious. it really is best handled with either calm ignoring, or a "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em" attitude. If you need to rein it in for propriety (not in public, not in front of stuffy Great Aunt Betty, etc) then do so without much emotion behind it.

Sometimes my 3 year old will randomly walk up to me and say "Hello butt!" and I either ignore it and just respond normally "Hi buddy, what do you want?" or I'll play along and say "Hello toes!" or something else. Usually he starts changing the body parts but sometimes he sticks with butt so I keep changing the body parts to make him giggle.

If I'm in a really silly mood (but only with my own kids...) I'll start singing a song and substituting butt or poop for some of the words. Like the alphabet... "A B C D E F poop! H I J K L M N O poop! Q R poop! T U poop! W poop! Y and poop! Now I know my pooppooppoop! Next time won't you poop with me!" and boy does it bring on gales of giggles and great big bellly laughs!! It's fun.

[lovemykidstoo]

What do you do though when a parent of a girl is getting ticked because boy who is obsessed with butts touches their daughters butt because he thinks it's funny?

[SilverSabre25]

What do you do though when a parent of a girl is getting ticked because boy who is obsessed with butts touches their daughters butt because he thinks it's funny?

I'm guessing she gives him a really satisfying reaction, and I'm guessing he gets a satisfying reaction from adults too.

It'll be hard, because impulse control isn't a thing 3s have, but you lay down the rules "You can talk about butts, sing about butts, read about butts, you can even draw butts if you want but you MAY. NOT. TOUCH. BUTTS. Butts are private and you MAY. NOT. touch someone else's butt." You remind him of the rule as often as you need to during the day, but especially first thing in the morning and after nap.

and you shadow him as you would a biter. he tries, you intervene and say as boredly-but-firmly as you can "NO. You don't touch butts." and when he persists (I know 3s....) you move his body away and try to get him doing something else and if you have to address a third time in a fairly short period, then a short break away from things may be appropriate.

[NoellesMama]

:: It is just a boy thing. I had a boy in my class who loved butts . He wrote on his thanksgiving project "Im thankful for my butt". Honestly I dont make a big deal out of it as long as you dont talk about butts during meals or if a friend asks you to stop and they dont. Its just a phase. Its quite funny to see them develop their sense of humor

[NeedaVaca]

Most of mine went through that phase too . I send them to the bathroom every time I hear a "potty" word. Oh? You said bottom (butt)? You must need to use the restroom! They get sick of that pretty fast.

[AmyKidsCo]

Most of mine went through that phase too . I send them to the bathroom every time I hear a "potty" word. Oh? You said bottom (butt)? You must need to use the restroom! They get sick of that pretty fast.

I allow the children to use as much potty language as they want - in the bathroom.

As for butt smelling, I'd explain why animals do that, then talk about the ways people get to know each other instead of butt smelling.

My 8 yr old is still obsessed with butts - gotta love boys!

[KiddieCahoots]

I allow the children to use as much potty language as they want - in the bathroom.

As for butt smelling, I'd explain why animals do that, then talk about the ways people get to know each other instead of butt smelling.

My 8 yr old is still obsessed with butts - gotta love boys!

::....I was thinking something along the same line.
Was wondering if the two boys were talking about how dogs smell butts, or if the 4yr old smelt funny at his butt, (that sounds so funny).
We all know kids have no filter, especially boys that are developing their humor with butts and their penis.
My 6yr son is all about this talk, but we make it a normal conversation, so it takes the shock factor to get attention out of it. My Biology teacher dcp's discussed EVERYTHING openly about the human body with their children, and it had the same effect.

[daycare]

my own child is obsessed with this at the moment, I find it gross, but it's just a phase.

I would ignore it and try not to give it too much attention.

I always say kids are going to act out, might as well be at home. If I find them doing something that I feel is not suitable for DC, I will just say, lets save that for home and move on. I let the parents deal with that.'

[AmyLeigh]

It's not just boys. My girls think just saying butt is the funniest thing ever.

[Crystal]

OP stated that another parent of a little girl is upset about the constant talk and touching of her bottom. This would concern me as the provider, as it opens the door for liability issues.

I would start having whole group discussions on what is and is not appropriate every day at circle time with the children. No BUTT touching or talk, period. It doesn't really matter what we consider "normal" or "just curiosity" when a parent is upset about their daughter's butt being touched and what they are trying to teach her about what is okay for another person to touch on her body.

ETA: OP, I would discuss with all of the parents the concerns and ask that they support me in discouraging this type of behavior by not allowing it at home and by talking to their children at home about what is and isn't appropriate. I'd also provide the concerned parents with written info on what you are doing to stop the behavior.

[blueskiesbutterflies]

I noticed most little boys are obsessed with butts. One little boy at a co-op I student tought at once spanked me (this boy did have other behavioral issues). A 3 year old I used to watch thought butt were funny. Even one of my mom's friends always makes jokes about my mom's butt, which he calls 'her brisket' (we call him her gay husband).

Ever older boy that I have enrolled would love to talk about butts and poop. I think that it is allowed at home or someone is laughing at him. I once had two brothers who called each other butt face and brown donuts hole. Mom thought it was soooo funny! needless to say, I did NOT enroll them.