20 Month Old With Blanket

[Midaycare logged out]

I have 2 that seem to "need" blankets. I'm in the minority, but as long as the blankets are clean, I don't care. Blankets stay here and I wash them. They have other ones for home. That stops the gross stuff.

[AmyKidsCo]

I let my children have their lovies as much as they need them. But I'm lucky that the couple that go back/forth are always clean and the others have duplicates they leave here that I launder regularly.

I get twitchy when I don't have my phone so I totally get children needing their security items.

[Cradle2crayons]

I have a sibling to an infant here whose mom SWORE at enrollment the child couldn't do without HIS blanket and no other would do.

I said well, you'll have to find another provider because that snotty nasty blanket isn't coming in my door.

The child has been just fine without it here. I provide one for nap time. His thing is literally his language and social development is delayed because of that stupid blanket. That first day at interview, one look at that snotty, sticky, brown and smelly blanket EWWWWWWWW.

I don't mind if a child has a blanket or lovey at naptime, however, not all day long. They really do interfere with social development, play time, speech, etc. if the child has it all the time.

[Meyou]

I allow a blanket from home but once it arrives it lives here until they leave my care. I control the washing and access. Lovies are for naptime or a child may lay in their bed if they need their blankie outside of naptime. Same rule for pacifiers. I have no kids currently attached to blankets, pacies or other lovies here although they are heavily attached at home.

[blueskiesbutterflies]

Well, if I have never allowed blankets to be carried around like he does. However, I took it and he would just go and get it out of his cubby screamning and crying and throwing chairs at me, hitting me, kicking me. It was crazy. He will have a right out fit..so I put the blanket out of sight and he will SCREAM all day long!!!!!

[Blackcat31]

Well, if I have never allowed blankets to be carried around like he does. However, I took it and he would just go and get it out of his cubby screamning and crying and throwing chairs at me, hitting me, kicking me. It was crazy. He will have a right out fit..so I put the blanket out of sight and he will SCREAM all day long!!!!!

Holy moly!! Sounds like he is UBER attached...

Id have hard time with that.... Id probably consider asking the parents to start helping him wean from it.

I totally understand being attached to a security item but that is borderline obsessive.

Maybe go to sanitary route... Talk to them about that aspect (maybe from another parents perspective) especially because he chews on it..

[blueskiesbutterflies]

Yes it is not normal the way he acts. The other kids will bring a blanket and put it right up. It is not fair to them. I offer stickers and a marshmellow to the ones who put their blankets up. Well he wont get one because he will refuse but he then will scream, kick, hit, and throw stuff over not getting a prize. He will even attempt to get the item himself if I do not give him one. It is the craziest thing I have ever seen...btw i guess I should mention having a fit "works" so of course he will try it here.

[Heidi]

Well, if I have never allowed blankets to be carried around like he does. However, I took it and he would just go and get it out of his cubby screamning and crying and throwing chairs at me, hitting me, kicking me. It was crazy. He will have a right out fit..so I put the blanket out of sight and he will SCREAM all day long!!!!!

Ok, so you've tried taking it away, this is his reaction, and so you caved?

He just learned what lengths he has to go to....

Is this how he acts every time you tell him no?

[blueskiesbutterflies]

Ok, so you've tried taking it away, this is his reaction, and so you caved?

He just learned what lengths he has to go to....

Is this how he acts every time you tell him no?

No I did take it away and he does NOT get it back...even at nap time because the fit just starts all over again...I just have the same issue every single morning...mom is NOT strong enough to take the blanket away at drop off so I have to be the one. I ask him three times to put it away and then tell him either he puts it in the cubby or it goes in my desk. Of course it always goes in the desk...

What I meant by it works was at home with mom and grandma...

Anytime he WANTS something that he cannot have YES he will act like that...if he wants markers and it is not time for markers he will attempt to get them himself and if I stop him he will scream, kick, hit, throw himself on the floor, etc etc...you get the picture..i am thinking spoiled??

[Heidi]

No I did take it away and he does NOT get it back...even at nap time because the fit just starts all over again...I just have the same issue every single morning...mom is NOT strong enough to take the blanket away at drop off so I have to be the one. I ask him three times to put it away and then tell him either he puts it in the cubby or it goes in my desk. Of course it always goes in the desk...

What I meant by it works was at home with mom and grandma...

Anytime he WANTS something that he cannot have YES he will act like that...if he wants markers and it is not time for markers he will attempt to get them himself and if I stop him he will scream, kick, hit, throw himself on the floor, etc etc...you get the picture..i am thinking spoiled??

Got it!

I'd have a nice cozy spot picked out just for that little man. A heavy pillow or something off to the side. EVERY time he throws a fit, for whatever reason, I'd put him there. I'd say "when you are done yelling, you can get up". Repeat, repeat, repeat.

When he's done, say "ok, you're ready to play!" or something nice.

First week, you'll have to put him there about 500 times. Second week, you can ask "do you need to go to the calm down spot? or he'll go there himself...