As a deadline for terming a child...do you tell the parents you are giving it until that date? Or is that just for yourself?
I think I need to do this for my 9 month old. I had intended on sticking it out, waiting for him to "out grow this phase". It has been a cry fest since October. I don't think I can take much more. It's his particular cry that makes it so hard. It's a scream and it gets under my skin. I keep telling myself it will get better. Then I told myself by the time he is 12 months he will get better. But I don't think I can wait that long. It is 4 out of 5 days if not 5 days per week.
He does not nap well, then cries because he is miserable and exhausted but WILL NOT sleep. Well not completely true...he sleeps in short intervals...cry for 20 minutes, sleep for 15 minutes, cry for 20 minutes, sleep for 10 minutes...after about an hour of the on off sleeping screaming I take him out, but then he is still crying because he's tired! And he follows me around crawling and crying, wanting to be held. Oh and the more he cries the more fluids he produces...tears streaming down, drool flowing like a faucet, nose dripping...
I have spoken to his mom several times. She feels bad, says she will do anything to help but I don't know what she can do. She doesn't hold him all the time at home, puts him down in his crib still awake. He "sleeps great" at home. 3 hour naps twice a day on weekends, and in bed by 7:30, wakes up at 7 am. I hate to, but in my mind I question how true this is. How could he be completely different at home? It's just a completely different environment. At home it's just him and mom. No one else, no 5 other kids plus 2 school age kids.
She wants me to skip a nap. How can I skip something he doesn't even do? He NEEDS a nap soooo bad! I have tried everything, I think I am just done.
I have only kept him this long because his mom is great. She "gets it" as far as him being one of 6 in daycare. She keeps him home when she is not working. She works at a school so she keeps him on school vacations. He will stay home during the summer and she will pay half to hold his spot (I filled the other half for summer). She is on top of paperwork. Keeps him home if sick. So I'm keeping him because he has a good mom who follows rules. I'm afraid the trade in will be a great child but parents who don't follow rules ugh
If you asked me at the beginning of the week I would not be ready to term. I think I've just had enough of the crying. It's too bad too, because he is so cute! And he is happy and pleasant on the occasion he gets a good nap in.
I have another infant here that was alos giving me a hrad time, but has made huge improvements. He will also take short naps, but without the crying. He wakes up happy
I think I need to do this for my 9 month old. I had intended on sticking it out, waiting for him to "out grow this phase". It has been a cry fest since October. I don't think I can take much more. It's his particular cry that makes it so hard. It's a scream and it gets under my skin. I keep telling myself it will get better. Then I told myself by the time he is 12 months he will get better. But I don't think I can wait that long. It is 4 out of 5 days if not 5 days per week.
He does not nap well, then cries because he is miserable and exhausted but WILL NOT sleep. Well not completely true...he sleeps in short intervals...cry for 20 minutes, sleep for 15 minutes, cry for 20 minutes, sleep for 10 minutes...after about an hour of the on off sleeping screaming I take him out, but then he is still crying because he's tired! And he follows me around crawling and crying, wanting to be held. Oh and the more he cries the more fluids he produces...tears streaming down, drool flowing like a faucet, nose dripping...
I have spoken to his mom several times. She feels bad, says she will do anything to help but I don't know what she can do. She doesn't hold him all the time at home, puts him down in his crib still awake. He "sleeps great" at home. 3 hour naps twice a day on weekends, and in bed by 7:30, wakes up at 7 am. I hate to, but in my mind I question how true this is. How could he be completely different at home? It's just a completely different environment. At home it's just him and mom. No one else, no 5 other kids plus 2 school age kids.
She wants me to skip a nap. How can I skip something he doesn't even do? He NEEDS a nap soooo bad! I have tried everything, I think I am just done.
I have only kept him this long because his mom is great. She "gets it" as far as him being one of 6 in daycare. She keeps him home when she is not working. She works at a school so she keeps him on school vacations. He will stay home during the summer and she will pay half to hold his spot (I filled the other half for summer). She is on top of paperwork. Keeps him home if sick. So I'm keeping him because he has a good mom who follows rules. I'm afraid the trade in will be a great child but parents who don't follow rules ugh
If you asked me at the beginning of the week I would not be ready to term. I think I've just had enough of the crying. It's too bad too, because he is so cute! And he is happy and pleasant on the occasion he gets a good nap in.
I have another infant here that was alos giving me a hrad time, but has made huge improvements. He will also take short naps, but without the crying. He wakes up happy
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